my whole entire life i have been jacking off very fast. i just put my hand on it and try to finish as fast as possible. am i doing it wrong? will it make me bad in bed?
Does it get you off? Yes? Then your doing it just right. The speed of your hand is not going affect your performance in bed with someone else. It's all about stimulation and what feels right for you. If you want to, experiment with other masturbation techniques, ones that involve more thrusting and pelvis action that might give you a new perspective on things
I'd think the results are a pretty good indication that you're doing it right Will it make you bad in bed? Probably. So will worrying about what will make you bad in bed.
If you feel you are satisfied, then you have it right. However, there are many different techniques as well as many different reasons to masturbate. The first is obviously for quick relief & ease of sexual tension. This is where you just want to reach a climax as soon as possible & get on with whatever it was you were doing beforehand. Then there's the more relaxed session, which may be planned beforehand where you might follow through with a fantasy & make the session last out as long as you can - or as long as you want it to. While you don't state it, you imply that you are still a virgin - well, be aware that contrary to what logic might tell you, the physical stimulation of actual sex is not quite the same. I remember when I lost my virginity this was one of the many thoughts that was flooding my mind at the time. I had always felt that logic dictates that the hand is just the equivalent of a vagina, and therefore the action & pace must be just the same. Needless to say, once I started pounding away with a typical masturbatory pace she soon made it known that I should 'take it easy'. I immediately slowed things down to minimum rate, making each thrust as slow as I possibly could, believing that there would be no way I could reach a climax at that rate - that was my next lesson in the art of love making. The slower, & the longer you can draw it out, the better. Whilst most sites that sell the Fleshlight just sell it as a masturbating toy, many also label it as a sexual training aid. I believe there is a lot to be said for this, as it is almost as good as the real thing, and its very nature will stop you from adding that additional squeezing pressure on the shaft which hastens the climax during standard masturbation, so I would suggest that you consider investing in one (as well as a good supply of water based lube).
Give your self a "stranger". Sit on your hand for 12 and a half minutes and then masterbate with the hand you sat on and it will slow your masturbation down some.
Thats how I usually do it I mean it ultimately depends on what type of experience your looking for. If you just want to do it fast then just get it out asap. But if your trying to go for something more try holding it out for a while. It takes practice but the orgasm is much better imo. I dont think it would effect your performance in bed because that is a lot different actually. Chances are your first few times will be very short but after a while you'll be able to last much longer.
You just had it explained to you. Sitting on the hand decreases teh blood flow & numbs the hand. Therefore, when you masturbate, with a little imagination, it can feel as if someone else (a stranger) is doing the masturbating for you.
