21year old bisexual virgin

Ow Yes, next week is my 21 birthday, and the fact that I am still a virgin is knocking on my head to many times now!!
The deal is I gave and received oral sex from different men, but I never fucked, just because it didnt' feel right, I wanted it to be with someone special, Now since 2 years I faced the fact I am bisexual, maybe gay, so I was busy exploring my feelings, but like some have absolutly no problems with it, I do have, I get shy, feel insecure and I guess i have problems accepting it, I know its ridiculous, but thats just the way it is. I keep fallen in love with straight girlfriends. And now i work a lot I dont meet a lot of new people, so no new crushes. I dont have social contact problems, I am quiet cute, pretty, smart, its just that maybe i am afraid. I am just writing here, hoping the find some advice, and are there any 21year old virgins here, or am I standing alone on this virginplanet?!!
chaoo

 

14 year old bi virgin here, let's be friends, in a non sexual way (for legal reasons of course)

 

How can someone know if what sexual preference they are if they have never tried either one? Confused.

 

yes, am confused aswell, thats why I posted it....:H , i only know the sex I had with men>> I could have fallen asleep

 

i'm just acknowledging my "bisexuality" even though i've never slept with a woman in my life.
still, i think you should take it easy. it's good you decided to wait for someone special...i mean what's the rush? you're 21 so what???? don't feel obliged to comform to what society says. Be you, be free, be happy cos you're a year wiser

 

pretty much a virgin here too. (and you don't have to have full sex to know what you are attracted to and what you are not)

 

It's not about the sex... it's about the feelings you have for someone. Sex has nothing to do with love.

 

Obviously, people know their sexuality long before ever "trying either one." Homosexuals can usually look back on childhood memories and see their sexuality in retrospect. Think about receiving a department store catalog as a kid. Looking back, which underwear photos intrigued you more? Male? Female? Both? There it is! Your sexuality, long before in ever came into practice.

 

yes thats true, when I think back, I really felt special about some girls, and i think having sex with a girl must be sooo intens, but i am soo shy,
:& . And then when i finaly tell a girl, shes straight or shes confused!!
mmmm

 

21 year old non-virgin married bisexual here

and no...i am not going to leave my husband for a woman...i just like girls too and there is nothing wrong with that...it is all love.

 

I absolutely agree with the other poster's response to this - of course you can know before you have sex! Sexuality is so tremendously variant and runs so much deeper than the eventual, physical action. Attraction is, especially for lesbians (I can't speak for guys??), SO completely in the mind. Usually the last thing a lesbian or bisexual woman "admits" in the coming out to herself is that she's actually sexually attracted to other women. There tends to be a really intense "all over" attraction that's not quite right or in line with the rest of the world. That comes first.

 

it is in you about who you are...i always knew this was a part of me but too was confused until about 1 year or 2 ago...my husband appreciates me for who i am and knows i love him for he is my soulmate

 

right here, sushi! i just had my 21st birthday a month or two ago. i'm not bisexual, but hell, i hope you feel better anyways. i've given and received oral many times also, but something always keeps me from allowing things to go further.. a little voice that knows that i won't be talking to this guy in another month or two, you know? so it just doesn't seem right. i'm beginning to wonder now though, if this waiting thing is really worth it... ! haha

peace

 

wait till you feel comfortable or are in love with the person...i waited till i fell in love and knew this was the person i was going to spend the rest of my life with.

 

[. i'm beginning to wonder now though, if this waiting thing is really worth it... ! haha

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thats exactly how i feel now, is it worth waiting for it, because sometimes I just want to have sex, but then again, theres the little voice, guess I am not alone with this feeling!! thanx for all the replies people, its good for me to read this,
chaoo

 

whoa I'm more confused than usual... how can you be sure you're bisexual being still a vrgin?

 

you just know. (take a look at some of the past posts)

 

im 22 in march and a bi/gay virgin. fancy men but sleeping with them doesnt appeal. fancy fewer women but sleeping with women definately appeals more, and the only person i dated was trans. so nowt confusing about my sexuality then - uhh hehe. trust me though, being a virgin at our age aint a bad thing. so many people are impressed by the fact that i am which is kinda nice coz they respect me for it. doesnt mean to say i dont wanna sleep with my ex when we get to spend a whole month together over xmas lol... we still love each other, just too confusing to know if it could work agayne, besides which we live miles away from each other now ah well, but yeah you not alone

daisy

 

It seems entirely reasonable to consider oneself bisexual until one has actually had sex. It makes a lot more sense than assuming you're straight.

 

So are there any more girls here with some experience, advice or have experienced the same "problem"... I dont need any more replies with "how is possible you feel attracted while you havent had sex" and btw i dont think intercourse is the only way of sex... if you know what i mean..especially if you are gay....