Why Are People so Cold?

people's personalities have a lot to do with it

Also it's the way you take it you know

 

Survival mechanism. I work regualarly in an inner city area with a whole shit load of drugs and violence. I'd like to think that I'm a very giving/loving person but all of that shit goes right out the window when 30 people offer me crack and vicodin.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

you should move to austin tx.

 

Hey, That's Cool!

I would hug such a person and love the connection.

Wonder if it would work with an old man carrying the sign?

 

Cash often works.

 

Trying to shove joy down someone's throat will invariably backfire.

 

yep, unless of course that';s what they want.

 

Folks in a relatively dense population setting tend to want to be left alone... personal space is at a premium.

 

Forcing affection on someone isn't an act of love it is an act of violence.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Precisely.

 

Turn up the heat.

 

Yeah but be careful-- you want to that them out- not cook them.

 

man I am going through the same shit right now.....just happened to run across this thread at the perfect time. Its really hard to find a genuine person that is just real with you.

 

Welcome to Hipforums: We keep it real

 

The more hostility/ bad vibe there is out there, the more people retreat and get defensive. It's just a bad cycle. Lots of people would come out of their shells and act better if their wasn't so much fear and if there were more good examples.

 

People are not cold ... maybe just asleep. Loving them is enough. It also brings enough opportunity to work on your own self (and the joy of it).

Anything else - like persuading them to love, pushing love their way, trying to enlighten them - is not the same, and may not get you in touch with your own abundance and wealth of interior work.

If this makes sense.

 

People are not cold they are conditioned in today's society to not trust in others.

A simple smile given as you walk by or engage eye contact is enough. Before long the smiles are returned.

It is really easy and costs nothing.

A smile or compliment cost nothing, too bad people are so stingy with them.

 

I think you are so wonderful, Heat

 

Thank you and you just made my theory happen! You gave me a truly lovely compliment and it made me smile and my day is far nicer for it.

Smiles and laughter are contagious, we should all pass this virus along.

I hope you now have a wonderful day and a smile is on your face!!

 

Thank you for the opportunity to offer my suggestion Keb.

How about conducting another experiment..

Go down the street and give everyone you meet, your warm smile. Then count how many return your smile. Do this just one time and it'll probably be about the same each time you go out.

Then as you continue doing this, you'll become a familiar face to your neighbors. Then try adding a greeting, like...

Hi, How are you? (fine, and you?) " Hey! I couldn't be better. How could I complain on such a beautiful day as this"?......

You will change your outlook on life And infect others with your constructive influence.


Warm Smiles