Why am I always the instigator???

I'm a 26 y/o male with a super high sex drive (What a novelty). I've been in long term relationships (3+ years) and spent lots of time playing the field so to speak. I'm definitely an aggressor in the bedroom, and I always tend to fall into that role. I love to initiate and am always nominating new positions, ideas etc. This is fun and I usually get a positive response from my partner, BUT the problem with this is, I think my partners come to expect this from me and as a result tend not to reciprocate as much as I would like. I want to have my guns jumped just as often!
I was with a girl for 3 1/2 years and we still had sex at least once a day until the end of our relationship, and it was always good. I'm giving in bed, I love to watch my partner get off and definitely don't let her miss out if I happen to cum first. I put work in.
Anybody else happen to get themselves into this position?

 

i know exactly what u mean im the one all ways trying to get things started in the bed room and im ok with that its just i wold like to be dominated a little bit to and be told what and were to do it. i guess its all about finding the right girl.

 

agreed ^

my man is really turned on when i get forceful with him and initiate the sexual activity. its like knowing the girl isnt doing it just because the guy wants to but she wants it and she fuckin takes it. hehe

 

See, I am in a relationship that is a polar opposite of my last one. I had a girlfriend who was really.... not into sex. Towards the end. I was ALWAYS the initiator. And would get turned down quite often. That was really a case of the guy wanting it the girl not. Forced role of initiator. But now, im with the girl of my dreams and she is wild about sex. She initiates it at least half the time. I think you need a balance. Talk to her about it. It might be she is not familiar with playing the role of the initiator, and thats it. Not that she is less interested. For me, I can even understand feeling strange about being the initiator because of my past relationship. I don't like the role I used to be in, so I find it hard to be the one to "make the move". We all have our reasons to act the way we do. Communication is key. Good luck. And seriously, talk to her about how you feel.

 

i need a girlfriend like you, lol.

 

lol why thank you.

 

I need to read threads before I post

 

It's very important to me that my partner is able to be sexually aggressive.

Though, sometimes it hurts. :biggrin:

 

women hate sex and would never do it voluntarily. be happy that you're able to talk one into it.