The explaination may be a bit long, please bear with me. I'm 18, a senior in high school. My freshman year, I came out to my immediate family as bisexual. I'm blessed enough to have a fairly open-minded and understanding family, so it went over fairly peacefully. Now, having thought long and hard about it, I've come to the conclusion that I am in fact a lesbian. So, I'm not sure about what to do about coming out as such. My family know that I want more than anything in the world to be a mother, and this will confuse them. As open minded as they are, same-sex parents still weird them out a bit. Has anyone out there been through a similar situation? Regardless, any advice?
I'm sort of in the same situation... I came out in like 7th grade, not to my parents, just a few close friends. eventually word got around and a bunch of people knew, some people heard it but didnt know whether to believe it. it seemed a lot of people just werent really sure because at that time it seemed like mostly gossip. my parents found out as well, and werent all that accepting. then in 10th grade i dated this guy up until senior year, and everyone seemed to forget about it. now i'm in college, and despite dating the guy for 2 years i never really was that attracted to him, and now i dont really know whether im bi or a lesbian or whatever (i used to be confused about this, but the other night i had a conversation with my gay friend and he said "you dont need to put any label on it, just be you" which really helped me out a lot) now that i'm in college and havent had many pleasant hookups with guys, i kind of want to come out, just because i know that staying in the closet isnt going to make my love life much better. but its hard now, because everyone seems to think i'm straight at this point. (i go to college with a lot of my high school friends)
if your parents have accepted that thus far, you will probably be able to swing lesbian. at first, i told my parents that i was bi because it was easier on them to think that maybe one day i will still marry a tall, handsome man and have 3 little children of my own running around. now i am about to graduate college and i havent brought a guy home to them..hope they get the message haha. and yes, you are very lucky to have accepting parents! there are too many kids out there that have super conservative parents. maybe if you start off by thanking them and just trying to let them know how you really are...
I've had a similar experience. I haven't really "come out" as a lesbian, mostly because I've been in a committed relationship with another female for almost 3 years now, so it almost feels irrelevant because she's the only one I'm involved with and plan to be in the near future. I'd say, as long as it's safe, come out because you'll feel as though you're hiding a huge part of yourself if you don't.
If your parents accepted you as being bi, chances are they will be ok with you being a lesbian. I wouldn't worry. Live your life and be true to yourself and I am sure they will understand.
I think, as a lot of others have mentioned already, that you have a one-up on a lot of other people in that your parents are OK with you being bi. I came out to my parents as a lesbian when I was 18, and it took them about a year, but they now accept my girlfriend as a member of the family, and I thought my mother was relatively conservative when it came to homosex. Ultimately, you're their kid, you know? Perhaps honesty is the easiest way to go here. I thought I was bi for years until I came out. But then, as someone has pointed out, if you don't feel comfortable with a label, don't label.
