girls, I can use your help.

This is rubbish. Sorry, but I'd only ever be interested in a man sexually if I was frends with him first, and every girl I've spoken to about it feels the same. Well, unless they're just after casual sex. Sounds like this guy wants a relationship.

 

don't worry about it. The right moment is the right moment and you cant predict it. When the right moment comes up, you will just know. You'll make eye contact and the chemistry between the two of you will just make things happen naturally. Don't ever try to lean in for a kiss if it doesn't feel natural and if you aren't getting any signal for her that she wants you to kiss her, that will just weird her out. If you look into her eyes and you guys are standing close and she holds eye contact with you and everything goes silent, then she wants a kiss. If she avoids your eyes, she doesnt.

Oh and as far as the friend zone, I wouldn't worry about that either. Its true that most girls, and guys I assume, like the foundation of a relationship to be a good friendship. However, a person can tell right off the bat if they are attracted to another person. The friend zone isn't something you put yourself into by doing something wrong, the friend zone is just something that happens if the girl has zero attraction to you. Don't stress out about taking things too fast or too slow...don't stress at all. just be yourself and let things happen naturally.

 

Thank you so much for all the input. You are the best Guru! I will do my best.

 

Really, so by your logic, I should be friends with this one girl, because I did not kiss her on the second date.

Oh, but nope, we've been dating for half a year now. I kissed her on the third date!

Point is, everyone has their own pace. For the most part, I would say anyone who places a time limit on a certain action (kiss her by date two, wait three days until calling her, the three second rule, etc.) actually doesn't know what they are talking about. (Most likely).

Don't let anyone pressure you or make you feel nervous Bobbi. Take things as they come.

 

I want to thank all of you for giving me good advices. Sadly, things did not work out between us. She just quited her job and accepted another job in a different state today and she passed the message to me that she would not be available to me anymore. Honestly, I feel very sad and painful right now.
She said there was nothing wrong with me. But does it matter? it doesn't. I respect her decision, that's all it matters. It hurts.

Thanks again.

 

hugs xxxxxxx

 

Thanks. I really like her.

 

remember it's okay to be miserable but remember misery won't last xx

 

don't let it get to you! she didn't reject you, other circumstances just intervened...thats positive. think of it as a learning experience..You went on a date, you put yourself out there, and you also got all this great advice and now you'll be 100% ready for the next pretty girl that comes your way

 

Next nice girl. She's not just pretty. I like her personality more, it's been a pleasure to talk with her.

I also learned that she had a relationship with someone who is not in the same city with her also. It's been on and off for almost a year now. She thought it was not going to work out, but unfortunately, she met the guy again a week before she knew me. And she's been honest with me that she think they are moving toward something this time.

Both of us think it is just bad timing. I entered her life in such a bad time.

I guess she did not reject me but she did call it off. we just had one date and clearly she cares about another one very much. She said there was nothing wrong about me, it is just bad timing.

This is life. She's been living in my city for 3 years and she could be my girlfriend in any month last year. The minute I met her, the minute her life changed.