Is it wrong for a woman who loves her husband deeply to desire another man? No? Then is it wrong for her to actually indulge in her desire? Is it still wrong if her husband is okay with it? Would your answers be different if this happily married woman and her husband are white and the other man is black? Finally, is it possible to love two different men? I'm new here, and I'm sure this topic has been covered before. But there are so many threads and so little time to read them all. Forgive me!
Is it wrong for a woman who loves her husband deeply to desire another man? Not "wrong", but it's my opinion if it's a genuine and strong desire (not just the odd fleeting fantasy) it'd be a realy good idea to talk to the husband about it. Unless it's an agreed open relationship, this may show a problem. Then is it wrong for her to actually indulge in her desire? Unless agreed between them, yes, obviously. There's never a need to treat someone so badly you have sex with another person behind their back, and doing that shows the relationship is a sham. Just be honest for god's sake. Talk it through together and sort something out. Is it still wrong if the husband is ok with it? Clearly not. If you think this you need to reassess your idea of "wrong" Would your answers be different if this happily married woman and her husband are white and the other man is black? Why would they be?
Everyone involved needs to be completely in the know and willing. Otherwise, no. No-one should be deceived.
Well he'd have to be okay with it, if he is the one you want to have sex with. I'm hoping you want this to be legal Although if he was married and this wife didn't know, or didn't agree then that would be another issue. And, there are many more people who are interesting in this kind of thing, so if it is something you want, then you'll find someone.
It's laughable that you should call me a racist when I'm in an interracial relationship. I was merely asking if race would matter to others, or if that would change anyone's answers to my questions. Is the question itself racist? Also, has "dude" now crossed gender id? Or perhaps I'm sexist also.
What is a fantasy and what then becomes reality can be two different things. I believe if you are married then it is wrong.
I was being immature and inflammatory because the question annoyed me. I usually don't even use the word 'race'. I see no reason to recognize the ethnicity of your partners in this situation. I see it as a backhandedly ethnocentric attitude, just like affirmative action's racial diversity quotas and interracial cuckold porn.
^ I just wanted to add that it doesn't even have to be interracial cuckold porn. I'm convinced that "Big Black Dicks and Little White Chicks," is a recruitment tool for the KKK. Most black guy on white girl porn centers around "Black men are coming for our White women." The women seem rather fond of dropping the N-bomb while they are getting fucked in the ass, and I swear to god I saw one where the girl was trying to break the ice and literally said "I was just getting ready to order some fried chicken." White man on black woman can be just as bad. Alot more degrading type sex sometimes the guy is even wearing a t-shirt with a confederate flag on it while he and 10 of his friends also wearing confederate flag t-shirts cum all over her face and slap her around a bit. I've seen some hot black chicks in interracial porn. Misty Stone immediately comes to mind. But to me they're just hot chicks in porn and race doesn't enter into it. I've also seen some interracial porn that didn't have these overtly racist aspects to it. To me Racial Fetishising is overtly racist because the reasons for these fetishes are based on stereotypes. Like big strong black men with giant cocks who are sexually insatiable. Demure little Asian girls who don't nessecarily put out all the time who are really into kinky shit and are sexually repressed. The wild unrepressed Eastern European girls. You get the picture. Peace Out, Rev J
that just literally made me LOL..does anyone else find things like this hilarious because of how absolutely ridiculous they are? And why did black people get granted rights to fried chicken when they were passing out racial stereotypes?? No fair. I would like, just once, for someone to exchange knowing looks when I eat fried chicken and watermelon..but just because i'm white, this will never happen. I don't watch porn because I think its extremely unrealistic and demeaning of women...I had no idea it was also so racist. Its silly in this day and age that the concept of race still exists..is it really so hard for people to figure out that the color of one's skin is entirely dependent on one's ancestor's location to the equator in the early stages of human evolution? Everything else is just cultural. to the OP....this is how i define morality: If what you're doing doesn't affect other people or hurt other people, then its okay. If all parties involved are okay with swinging or kinky threeways with white or black or purple people, or whatever floats your boat, then its just fine. The thing that makes cheating so immoral is the deception involved.
Look kid. I'm about 15 years older than you I've earned the right to be jaded. Feel thankfull that I didn't post links to support my opinion. As for your connundrum. Morals are a relative and constantly changing concept. If you are cool with it, your husband is cool with it, you lover (Black, White, Pink, or Green I personally don't give a fuck) and whoever else is involved is cool with it than fuck anyone who isn't cool with it. You have developed your relationship and the rules that go with it. If you can't handle some total asshole stranger on the internet pointing out the inherant racism in interratial porn than I doubt you can handle an interratial relationship. Peace Out, Rev J
I'm the old-fashioned type. I wouldn't ordinarily respond to this type of topic, but I need to make posts so I can edit my signature, send private messages, and give rep. You would not get rep.
The problem is that we all know this intellectually but porn doesn't deal with intellect. We watch porn for fantasy not to start in depth discussion of race and gender politics in contemporary American culture. The only aspect of reality that is reflected in porn is that the people in the film are actually having sex. If reality was reflected in porn the average American penis would be 9 inches and if you had less than you would be called needle dick. All of the stereotyping that goes with these fantasies are constantly regurgitated in pop culture. The sex crazed Bwana Man with the big dick of African decent lives loud and proud in porn because it is still acceptable there. It survives because there is a market for it. Peace Out, Rev J
Not all porn is demeaning to women. A large chunk of it is demeaning to men (such as the aforementioned cuckold porn). And there's another chunk that's demeaning to no one. I don't know the name of the company overall, though I have seen a few of their sites (Men in Pain, Whipped Ass, Sex and Submission), but there is this one bondage and domination web of sites, that after every video have interviews with the actors, showing that everything was in good fun. And as Rev. said, not all inter-racial porn has overtly ethnocentric tones; some of it is just appealing to the many masses that have interest in other ethnicities but have never been with anyone outside of their skintone. I don't think it's good to say porn does this or that, anymore than it is to say blacks do this or that. There are different hues of every color =)
