So, i doubt anyone has kept track of what's gone on thus far, so summary: A guy has said he loves me, and wants me to "f*** him". We've been flirting for about 4 years. I've been in a relationship with a girl for almost 2 years. Although neither of us are the type to do things like this, we've gotten as far as touching each other...and almost further...but someone walked in. I've never had sex. Up until recently, I was completely content without it being a part of my life. But now, I'm not so sure. I'm 18 and going away to college. Me and my girlfriend are going to make a long-distance relationship work, but I'm really not starting off well... The guy and I are only going to see each other once more before college... I hate myself for it, because I despise cheaters, but I want to explore the guy relationship fully before the summer ends. My mind is quickly making itself resolute about making a move the last time I see him...And I really don't know what will happen. But either way, I'm probably going to have a first time, and I'm really nervous as hell. I won't know what the heck I'm doing either way, and so many other things are flashing inside my head. There are pictured scenarios and questions like; "Will it happen?", "Should it happen?", "How will it happen?", "Will it be with a guy or girl?". I need some advice. Confused.
Thinking too much about it won't really help. You want to relax, and call your shots. You are 18. You want to have sex. This is perfectly natural. At times, having sex seems to be a huge, momentous, all-changing thing. True. Having sex in general as opposed to not having it changes everything. By that same virtue, having one sexual encounter with one particular guy really does not change that much. You want to lean back and re-think your attitude towards the "cheaters". You have not had sex with your gf. Your relationship is so far, in sexual terms non-existant. She does not owe you and you do not owe her either. Take it easy on monogamy and promises before you are absolutely sure that this is really what you want to do. As they say, "Never is really a very long time"... KD
