Do you like to find out what your partner has done sexually in their past? I know in most cases no good can come from it. I am with a very cool girl who I know had a bit of a past. Doesn't like to talk about it, and does not want to know any of my past. Over time I have gotten bits and pieces of her history. This weekend I found out she had a 3 way with 2 guys before we met. Both were friends. I wanted every last detail. She allowed me a few questions. I have to admit I got extremely turned on by her talking about it. The whole weekend we had really great sex. Wild, unpredictable, hot sex. Now that the weekend is over I feel kind of weird about her past. I know this is completely unfair to her. Am I alone on this?
Just keep in mind that her past experiences are in the past and you are in the present and hopefully the future so don't worry too much about it. People have done much crazier things sexually than a three way. Just appreciate what you have.
I would want to know for sure. I mean shit if i was with a promiscuous girl some worthwhile stories seems like it may be intriguing. I would probably feel really weird or akward at some point tho.
I've said it once I've said it a million times it isn't her past that's important it's her present. Peace Out, Rev J
Unless she has an STI. Then you most definitely wanna know about it so you can protect yourself in the present and future. And it is also important if she has a tendency to murder her boyfriends. Which she probably doesn't. But in that case it would probably be better to know and run like hell.
Thanks for the replies. I fully understand that it is all in her past. Honestly I thought I would handle knowing it better. She told me a story once of when she was a teenager. Something with a group playing Truth or Dare and a Corona bottle. I found the story sexy and cute. With the 3 way story I was really turned on and wanted specific details. What I didn't expect was a feeling of insecurity that followed. Not sexually, more in our overall relationship. I realize that her telling me the story doesn't change our current relationship, but I still have the feelings. And here I though I was a little bit more evolved than I really am...
I have a good friend and she and I used to date but were more like close friends with the sex benefits. Once it became clear we'd see other people and weren't exclusive or anything we'd tell each other about some of fun stuff about the other people we'd hooked up with but it tended to make us a little jealous for some reason. We're still friends and we're going through kind of a weird situation along those lines now. So, ina way, yes, in a way, no. I wouldn't want to know if I was actually in love with her.
If its that your insecure and need to see how you stack up. Don't worry she loves you even though there is some guy somewhere that was probably an asshole that rocked her world like you will never be able to, and that's the story she will leave out anyways.
