Laying on a trampoline

So we were laying on a trampoline, my three friends and I, and as i had just decided that it was time to come out to them, I began waiting for any sort of pause in the conversation in order to say it. I waited for almost an hour! But then one of those quiet moments finally occurred and I just blurted it out. "So, I'm bisexual." ...more silence and then, Friend 1: "No you're not!" Friend 2: "I don't believe in bisexuals, a person's either gay or straight, but it's okay." Friend 3: "Well I completely support you."

Well isn't that just the most perfect range of perspectives? I just started chuckling a little. The next day friend 2 brings it up in front of random other people. And I was shocked! That was confidential! I play it off like it's an old joke, and friend 2 just laughs along with me. Afterwards, I asked her, sort of pissed off, "How could you do that?" She didn't know what I was talking about, and when I explained, she said, "Oh shit. You were serious? I thought you were just kidding!" (Who the heck would kid like that?) I still find it amazing that she completely disregarded her long-held beliefs about bisexuality when it came to me, though. As it turns out, Friend 1 also did not believe me at first, and I had to tell her again a week later.

Still don't know exactly how they all are with it. I expected them to want to ask me questions (when did i realize this, how did i know, etc.) but they didn't...I was almost disappointed. These were my best friends since the 6th grade. I waited until after high school to tell them. We're all still best friends.

Oddly enough, they were not the first people i told. You would think that my closest friends would have been the first, but no. I told friends outside of my inner-most circle first, mostly ones who I knew were also bisexual (I guess I knew that they couldn't shun me...lol). Still didn't tell the family though. My mom would disown me. My grandma would probably just drop right there. May never happen. Good thing I'm bisexual, otherwise this would be a really terrible situation. As of now, it's sort of okay.

Thoughts that helped me: "If my friends won't accept me, I don't want to have them as friends" - They all did because I only hang with tolerant people!
"A problem shared is a problem halved" - Now I have people to discuss guys with!
"Life has a funny way of working out" - Although I was afraid it would separate us, telling my friends this has only made us closer. My friends were inspired to tell me things that they'd never told anyone before.

Good luck!

 

Glad it worked out for ya!