So for the past year, I've been off-and-on spooning with a friend of mine while we watch movies and such, but it never goes anywhere from there. I, and every other guy who meets her, am incredibly attracted to her. So last night I worked up the courage and asked her what the deal was with this cuddling, if she wanted it to go further, because I did, etc. I have never been this honest with a girl in my life, always relying on them to make moves or say something to me. And on my first attempt, I got turned down! Evidently she just likes platonic cuddling. Did this talk make it awkward? Not at all. She was so cool about it. Didn't get any last night but went home with a huge load off my chest and more of a desire to be her friend. I know almost nothing about relationships but I learned this, be honest and it's rarely as bad as you think it's gonna be. Just my $.02.
I have applaud you for having the courage to ask her and also for being understanding about her answer. You were obviously hoping that the cuddling would become sexual rather than remaining platonic. If you are content with her friendship and enjoy the platonic cuddling, then I wish you well with her -- but I would also suggest that while you continue to enjoy this friendship, you keep looking for a girl who would want more play than platonic when she cuddles with you.
