Giving permission to fool around with others

Have you ever been given permission or have you ever told your s/o that it's ok to have sex with others? Have you ventured there? Was there a reason you wanted your s/o to do it with someone else?

 

Its a trap and no one actually wants their SO to have sex with other people.

 

No one? That is so not true.

 

I've been married for 23 years. IT has been many years since my husband showed any interest in me. I have tried requesting, begging, reasoning. He seems to have gone asexual and he claims that he is okay with that-- he s busy working. He has his own design firm and is obsessed, always has been. A few months ago the conclusion has been that he is impotent but he refuses to see a doctor because he does not want to have to change the way he lives (meditation, relaxation for example. He is in great shape for 53).

But then a couple of weeks ago he confessed that sometimes he gets erections...so it's not what I thought it was. I told him that if he would like he could be with another woman or two to see if it was his reaction to me or to sex in general or what. Seriously. I he won't go to a doctor let's see if he can get a rise that way. It's okay with me. I would like him to feel passion, sexual passion, in life. It doesn't really matter if it is with me at this point, it is such an extreme situation. I would not even care if he told me he was gay-- I'd be so relieved.

In a few months, if nothing has changed, I will be asking him to allow me to have a boyfriend. I already have this boyfriend, I am sure he will not disrupt our life, I just don't want to have to lie and sneak around.

With getting older, I have learned so much about how things just don't turn out the way you think they will and about how these kinds of things just...develop...

 

For the past 5 years my girlfriend of nearly 9 years has been seeing other guys on the side with my full support. I've always found it hot to know that even though she's my girlfriend, other guys also get to have her. I like hearing about her experiences afterward. Its like my own personal porn but with my girlfriend being the star. I guess its just the way certain people are wired, this is something I'd call my fantasy.

Correction, MOST people dont want their significant other to have sex with other people. You may not, but that doesnt mean there aren't open minded people out there who aren't jealous.

 

I've been giving permission, but think it's only fair if we both get some fun.

 

Is that a narrow-minded sweeping general statement, or personal experience?

 

Whom between the two of you isn't getting it?

Shalalay: Thanks for sharing, though it sounds like you're deceiving yourself.

 

Ive been in a few relationships that had started out as just sex, then when it moved on to more we kinda discussed the terms. Ya know, when, how, who we could be with besides that person. We always took advantage of it, and it always worked out well.

 

I never had permission but did it anyways

 

No way

I am a mean, nasty, jealous, possessive little bitch!

Lois

 

no because it's kind of brakes the essence of the family and love relationships... but I'd like it to be more simple of course

 

I have permission to do as I please on the side - not that I utilize it - I don't and don't want to. Only rules are no sex with the BF if I have done it with someone else the same day, ... and no kissing him if I have blown someone else.

He says he would not like it, but has to ok it because I am my own person and not his possession so he has no rights over anything I do. I told him, 'that's nice hunny, but I dont want to sleep with anyone but you, .... and if you fuck someone else I'll slap ya and dump ya' lol.

 

Grrrrrrrrr

 

It might not work for most couples but it does work for my husband and me. I met my husband when i was 14 and married him when i was 20. I never had any other man; heck i had never even kissed another man before. That never bothered me but my husband says he felt like he cheated me out of a vital part of my girlhood. So when I met another guy that was appealing to me, my husband encouraged me to indulge. It took a while for him to convince me that he would still love me the same afterwards, but after many months of encouragement and teasing me about how good it would be, I succumbed to the temptation. The extramarital sex was very good, especially the first time. If anything, the unselfish love my husband demonstrated and my sharing the feelings I've experienced with the other man has brought our marriage closer together. Be warned though, if you are willing to share your s/o's body with another man, be also willing to share a piece of her heart.