i know im gay but am trapped pls help

i am gay and 19 i av always known i know no other gays and feel trapped no one knows im gay but im fed up with not bein my true self i wud like guidance as to wat i shud do, wud it be weird if i were to go to gay bars on my own. I feel that without meetin and socialing with gays it will be harder to come out.im lookin to meet young gays in london area and to enjoy life

 

No, it isn't weird to go to gay bars on your own. You also might try gay.com and Planet Out online.

 

Gay bars are not a good idea. There is an epidemic of aids in the gay community. If you wish to have a romantic relationship with a man make sure both of you are committed to monogamy and make sure both of you get tested for std's. People should get routine std checks regardless because even if one and ones partner keep ones promises of monogamy and are monogamous sometimes people get std's from accidentally cutting themselves or sometimes from other sources.

Another issue in the gay community is that anal sex can be bad for the anus and some gay people avoid anal sex because of that.

 

Or you can just go to the gay bars, not everyone going to gay bars is looking for sex. The OP said he was interested in meeting and socializing with other gays, he didn't specify as to whether he's looking to go home with any of them.

 

i wud like to experience the sex as well, is a gay bar the best option also shall i come out before have started to meet gays

 

come out whenever you feel comfortable! noone can tell you when really. they can only advise you what they think is best

i'd advise to come out first, that way you dont have to make up more secrets about where you're goin and all that kind of stuff. !

 

Put an ad in the paper. $10 says you'll get 700% more interest than you would from a gaybar and 500% will be "straight" married men.

 

can u suggest any bars and also are male escorts and massage parlours safe

 

Dont pay for it yo! you will probably regret popping your gay virginity to an escort.

You want to get laid really quickly your best bet would be a bathhouse.

Gay bars can be intimidating, a lot try to act all upscale when their not and have a very shallow clientel. I have had the best luck hanging around bear bars, they usually have a much more mellow welcoming feel to them.

if your still stuck there is allways the list of craig...

 

Yeah coming out can be really hard to do, even today when it seems like its more accepted and when you tell people these days that you are gay, its not so much of a shocker as it was maybe 10 or 20 years ago. You should come out when you feel comfortable. As with going to gay bars to look to meet people, that is not a bad idea and you should try and get to know someone before having sex with them, yet sometimes thats hard to do when the passion is so strong and you are close and things just go in a different direction. Yet if its your first time with another guy and you just met, make sure that you use a condom, Just my two cents

 

I've been in London gay bars in Soho, i was with a gay friend n some others. didn't know it was a gay bar though lol. you're from the UK, homosexuals are not often looked down upon. BREAK FREE MATE, go to them by yourself you have nothing to lose but your virginity =D