Coming 'Out' Thread

So, I was looking at the forum index under 'Gay' and there were like 34 people viewing, then when I got in here, there are about 3 newer posts and many older ones. So obvious there are many viewers of the 'gay' forum yet are you lurking out? So I though this would be a good place for those of us in the closet to come out. So, I guess I would like to see how many gay, bi, lesbian and transgendered individuals would be willing to come 'out' here at least.

OK, I am going to begin:

Hi I am pillhead2 and I am a 37 year old gay man who is abstinent and bitter, but at least now I am out.

PEACE!

 

Well, I'm new around here, so I'll post to say that I'm glad that you're "out." Sorry to read about the abstinent and bitter part, though. I'm 61 and been way out for over 30 years. I have a partner and we've been together for almost 27 years. So I guess what I'm saying is that you can be gay and happy and out. It helps I guess if you're located in a big city and have supportive friends and family, although when I came out my family freaked and most of them still don't speak to me to this day. But you have to chart your own course in life. You're young enough and you have plenty of time to turn things around. I wish you the best of luck.

Jim

 

I'm new to this forum.

I'm a girl, and currently dating a boy. But I am a bisexual and the best relationship I was ever in was with a girl.
I am scared to come out of the closet, my parents would spazz.

 

My parents don't know and I have no intention of telling them anything at the moment. If I was ever to marry I would of cause tell them, but until then it's not really an issue. My friends know and I am happy with who I am.

 

Coming Out is relative anyway.

When it comes to immediate family, issues that do crop up are usually more about how it affects their life, rather than anything to do with your sexuality, them having to fend of judgements and stupid comments from their friends. Coming to the realisation of just how quickly some family members are ready to give you the flick rather than having to deal, can take ones breath away.

Then there's stuff that doesnt really hit you when you are younger, stuff that doesnt really have anything to do with your sexuality, people getting angry at you simply cos they think you are getting more sex than them, or cos you sexuality is upfront it becomes a reminder that their sex life isnt doing so well, or even more simply, they just get angry at you cos the mere concept makes them think about sex, homo, hetero or otherwise.

Lastly, Out and Proud? suffers from the same effects of all other types of validation, whether it be impressing you boss at work, trying to distinguish yourself with a trade or hobby, extended education you eventually come to the realisation most people dont really give a fuck or get bored with it too quickly

 

I have been out since I was 17 but even before then it was suspected of me. I live with my boyfriend and at least my mom and sisters don't seem to care. They like me. My father is an ass and has been verbally abusing my mother. I am trying to seperate any financial ties I have with them so they can retire and hopefully relocate to seperate houses. I don't live in a liberal state but my friends are liberal enough. I try to help out homeless gay men as much as possible but have started a system so I make a photocopy of their license and don't let them be here when I am not. I am disabled so I don't work but am kept pretty busy, I have a slight mental illness and I am glad cause I hate working. This is my way of giving back to the community, helping those that are outcasts claim some territroy and get an apartment or something.

 

I'm bisexual leaning more towards gay. I've only come out to one of my closest friends who I was very attracted to and he freaked out (haven't really talked since) so the closet doesn't seem to be a bad place to be for now as i live in a very small town.I've only had 2 committed relationships both females. For some reason I gravitate towards older guys and as horrible as it may be my medium of meeting these people is craigslist.

Still live at home, have a vague idea what i would like to make my career but lack the funding to move forward education wise. Currently working on getting a website up for some of my flash animations. I'm hoping to learn the ways of animating and webpage design without school so we'll see how that goes.

 

Glad to have some people come out here, it is a very scary thing for many people including myself in a small town and unacceptable social type being gay where I am in the midwest.

I find that it is ok for unmarried couples (straight) to live together and have children out of wedlock but the churches say burn to the gays like me.

Thanks for all the responses, I know there are more pondering, take your time but try to come out if you get it off your chest at least here maybe you will feel better?

Take care, Pill head2:chillpill:

 

Just made the decision yesterday to try a date with a guy. I'm bisexual but definitely more attracted to guys. Still in the closet unfortunately until I have a better idea of how to do it.

 

Hi am a 20 year old gay/lesbian woman. I think i've known pretty much since i was 13, but have tried to avoid/hide it hoping that it would just be a phase, because my family nor my religion condone homosexuality, but I realize that i am just not attracted to men, came to terms with my own sexuality last year when i had my first real gay relationship. I've come out to pretty much all my friends, and those that have met me since last year know I am gay cause they probably met my GF. My family has NO idea, and I am not sure if and when i am going to tell them, however I do know that i need to tell my brother, better sooner than later.

 

I LOVEEE being BI!!!!!!!! sorry, not coming out, just had to say it =D

 

Coming out is an incredibly hard thing to do, even I felt I couldnt despite my extremely liberal friends and family. Fortunately for me though now I am able to be completely out of the closet (closets are for clothes!) to all my friends and family and have been since I was 18 and they all love me just the same which is fantastic.
Looking back I've realized that I could have been out even in High School, that's my only regret is waiting so long in that dark closet but once again I am fortunate that I was able to come to terms with it at a young age unlike some who end up hiding it away until they are much older.
Even coming "out" online is a great start to self-acceptance, that's how I started really then it lead to one understanding friend and then another until I was able to tell my family and now I'm at the point where I can't even imagine what it is like to be in the closet.
For those of you still in there good luck and you'll know when the time is right to come out completely. It doesn't have to be all at once, baby steps work too.

It is sick though that we even had to feel the need to hide who we are. Society hopefully will change for the better.

 

I'm 21 and gay. Partially out. Only told my first friend a couple months ago. Up to like 10 so far. Going to continue it. Thing for me is other than the people I already know, I'm not really just going to walk up to people and tell them, or tell people within a minute of meeting them, that just seems weird. If somebody asks me now, I will tell them. Nobody will ask me though. I've been asked why I haven't had a girlfriend in a while or how things are going with girls and then told people. But everyone assumes I'm 100% straight. I'm not straight acting, I hate that phrase. I'm just myself regardless of sexual preferences. I'm not into fashion. I wear tshirts, sometimes some tie died, and rock my duct taped together sandals everywhere. I like penis though, and that's all that matters. lol

 

wow, may as well bump this one as well

bi guy here. Not told too many people, but to be honest I don't give a fuck. Whom i'm attracted to makes no difference to anybody else and certainly doesn't justify their acceptance of me.

The right people know.

 

And I'm gay, too. I came out at 17 because the hiding and shame of it was absolute torture. I only "officially" came out to my family members and some close friends. Most everyone else know through word-of-mouth or my actions. So far, everyone has been fine about it. Best thing I have ever done. Ever.

 

Didn't Surprise Me For One Second.....

May I Wish You Many Years Of Love And Happiness, With Whome'ever You

Choose To Share Them With....



Cheers Glen.


P.S:- Spelling " Whome", Is Not My Forte.....

 

Well said, on all accounts. I could not agree more

 

go back in, you ugly bastard..

 

16 and im bi but more straight ^^

 

I really hope that wasn't directed at me :toetap05: