Losing my faith (in people)

:rofl:

 

Sorry that happened to you, it is never pleasant to be taken advantage of.

The positive side is that you are a person who must have hope in fellow man and no matter what people may say that is a quality to keep.

In life, the times I have been "taken" said more about them than it ever said about me.

I have never lost sight of you can only expect to get back what you are willing to put out. Karma.

 

Hallo HF and Op

I feel like saying;

Don't let others take advantage of kind nature. Talk about issues where they can show their kind nature then consider being kind to them or realize it will likely be harmful and treat them as aquaintances. You are more precious than advantage takers.

namaste
GB

 

wow mate! i'm so sorry to hear you got fucked over.:sad:
been there and got fucked my share of times in life too... it ain't never, ever, any fun at all!
developing a life philosophy of "keep a tight asshole or you'll get screwed." is one hell of a horrible way to live.

ok, your 29 years old. you should have at that age, already learn some nasty life lessons.
i was around 17 when i learned the lesson you just learned.
maybe your a late learner of this lesson. maybe i was an early learner of this lesson.
early or late learner it does not matter. the worst thing is never learning, and repeating the same mastake over and over again all through life.
in my experence the vast majority of people who never live and learn... don't live long.


i worked almost 5 years in a county hospitial ER. i worked the graveyard shift most weekends.
you see the most low life scum of the earth then (pimps, murders, rapists, child abusers etc.)

the only thing i can tell you for sure is this; with age and the experence one gains with it, you start to develop a kind of gut instinct of who you can and cannot trust. you also can tell when a relationship will and will not workout right away. life becomes one hell of a lot less painfull, due to that gut instinct you develop.
if i had that gut instinct at around 12 years of age... my early life would have been a cake walk indeed!
we just don't have it when were young and, it takes several decades before it kicks in well.

there is one hell of a lot of immature narcissistic people running around in the world who thinking runs, "i come first and i fuck everyone else over for my own welfare. fuck what others need! they just exist to serve my ends!

the mature person thinking runs: "i put myself first and, i take others into consideration."

from what i said in the two proceeding paragraphs.
let my try to give you something pratical, to help you start to move out of your losing faith in others.
ask yourself this. do you think, your thinking might run along these lines?
"i put others first and, i let them walk and shit all over me."
there are a good number of people who have that type of shit running around in their heads and, their not even aware of it.
it makes them easy prey for narcissistic people.
if upon self reflection you find out that is the case with you.
start changing your thinking to, putting yourself first and, taking others into consideration.
you will find you will start getting your faith back in some people. by "some" i mean good people.

good luck mate. i'm pulling for you!

 

I've always hoped that if I treat people honestly and with respect I'd get the same in return.


Everyone have the same thought with you. me too, treat others kindly and get the kindly treat in return!
If you treat others kindly and others dont retrun back to you. forgot it.you should still treat others kindly.after all life is beautiful by treating people kindly!

 

Could be your friend is a drug addict. Addicts will do just about anything for cash when they need a fix, including stealing from friends. Or maybe he's just a thief.

So I think it's good to protect yourself and be careful who you trust. And to be really safe, don't put yourself in a position where you are vulnerable to anyone, unless you have to. That's not to say that everyone is untrustworthy, it's just a way to protect yourself. Consider the possiblity that anyone could back stab you, and you'll never get taken by surprise. If you find that that approach would keep you from really connecting with people or would be otherwise not worth the trouble, then there is no reason to do it. I think it is possible to think that way and still realize that there are many good people in the world. I just don't see the need to trust anyone blindly unless you have to, or if it's just too inconvenient not to trust them.

You may want to check out the rainbow family in your area. I just went to my first rainbow gathering recently, it was pretty cool. People go to these things for different reasons, and there's alot of drugs there (something I'm not so into). It's also meant to be a kind of counterculture utopian community. There's no leaders, everyone is welcome, and there is a culture of sharing and love. Some people are just there to party, but there are times when people will just come up to you and give you stuff, tell you they love you, give you hugs. It's a bit of a culture shock.

Now I've heard of people getting ripped off at gatherings and other bad vibe, but overall it's a cool thing I think. They give out free food at the gatherings, and they are typically held in areas where you can camp for free, so it tends to attract a fair number of homeless/ drifters. Most of these people are actually really cool, but I think often poor people may have a greater temptation to steal.

 

fuck that bastard

 

Sucks that happened, but it's a lesson for ya.

I had a friend that experienced such a theft.

-snip-

Sucked royally, I'm sure. But hey, he who steals is he who will have a very hard time paying for what is stolen. Sometimes the victim expects interest.

ETA: I removed shit I added that had no place here. I'm sorry.

 

all that you give out will return to you in some form

 

I am so sorry this person did this to you........

I truly hope you can get things straigtend out

God bless.......

 

Oh no worries. Karma does exist, and he WILL get his. It's very disappointing that people cannot all just treat each other with common decency and a civil nature. I'm sure by now you won't be extending such easy help to this "friend" in the future, nor will anyone else they have screwed over. Eventually they will have no one left to trick or deceive, and will be left with their own demons and nothing else.