Coming out- the bi-sexual version..starring..me

You know what happens when you assume
You say 'hubby and kids' like that's something i'd even remotely desire.
It's more or less something my parents want for me one day.
I just find it annoying how you think you can speak for everyone- you can't.
Not everyone is a pseudo-intellectual prick with daddy issues. Fuck you.
My parents are traditional, stop making my mother out to be a bitch.
She doesn't have to want it for her kids, or the world- so long as she respects the fact that people are going to be the way they are anyways.

Also in defense of myself and other bisexuals, I'am fucking proud.
One day I would happily be with a woman or a man. Not because I want to be hot shit at a party and get male attention and makeout with some chick...or hey 3 sum! which is what most males think as soon as you say bisexual.
And no I don't ever expect society as a whole to accept me.
I'm open to the idea of loving either gender. I HAVE made up my mind.

 

this is dripping with judgment and ignorance

false dichotomy, man

spectrum.. think 3d really

 

Thank you! yes this is what I mean.

See being gay is accepted(nowadays by most), being straight has always been accepted. Gay's have support from their communities. But bisexuals are viewed as indecisive little whores. It's fucking frustrating.
I just love woman, and I love men. That doesn't mean I want a poly relationship, or 3 sum. It just means one day, I could find love happily from either gender.

 

should of did it while she was watching Ellen..

 

There ya go. Now if you had a middle leg I'd be so hot for you right now

Ahh, most straights will still assume gays get more sex, or want to have sex with any member of the same sex, like ranking rules dont apply, no matter how PC it gets that part will remain and remain annoying, but you are right bi's get the rawer deal nowadays

Thats a really good point

 

Coming out is extremely hard. There is no easy way. But there are harder things to admit to than being gay/bi.

I had to tell my mom I was a zoophile. Now THAT was hard, believe me

 

wtf

chiqui dracula!

 

Your mother wants both her children to have children...?
I suppose she wants all her children's children all to have children too..

There isn't enough room on earth for these kind of dreams anymore.

This model of reproduction is what yeast and other kinds of exponentially growing bacteria exhibit. Cancerous cells also reproduce like this. You've probably seen footage of e.coli expanding somewhere before

Us humans doing the same creates a macrocosm upon the surface of the earth, and frankly that's very bad for all life. Overpopulation, starvation, species extinction, environmental destruction etc
Something your mum might think about =)

 

I am sure in the long run your parents just want you to be happy. Sometimes they may not understand parts of your life but it sounds like they could grow to accept it.

 

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dont even stress it you are who you are and i give you kudos for doing that alot of people today are so scared of being themselves. and being real so they act fake to please or to fit in with other people i really respect you for that.

 

People get the impression you are 'daddies little princess' because you keep throwing yourself at issue after issue in what looks like an attempt to attract attention.

Stop 'trying' to be someone... and just start being yourself, you will find people stop flaming you (as much )

 

There are a lot of worse things in the world than being bisexual. It's not even a bad thing, if you find people judge you and you don't like it, you don't even have to consider the 'gay' side of you.

However, this daddy's princess stuff is not completely fair. My sister is the same age as WF, in fact they look like identical and both have parents who shared similar values. It's because parents can want something so badly for their kids, the 'normal' route in life, that even an issue as small as this becomes colossally bad. Being 'daddy's little princess' actually puts you in the firing line more so, and in this case WF has certainly got an issue to tackle.


No one here should judge WF based on her, more her situation. Think of your parents, your sexuality, your confidence level- all these things will falter in comparison to WF and thus make every situation different. Our opinions are subjective, and you should just listen to what she says and try to help.

I have parents like that, I can insist that to drop a bomb like that would cause issue. But if you are deadly serious about your orientation WF, tell them. But remember, what is done can not be undone.

 

Does your sister also jump from one issue to the next looking for attention?

Becuase if she does, then yes, 'daddies little princess' applies to her as well... and no, 'daddies little princess' is not necessarily about daddy... it could be about mommy, grandma or grandpa or other caregiver.

When you live your life either in opposition or confirmation of other people's opinions, then you are not living life for yourself.

Looking for ways to put yourself in direct opposition to someone (such as reading a paper about gay rights to someone you know doesn't support it) and using that as an excuse to open an argument with them, is NOT living your own life.

You're gay? Great, be gay... Your bi? Great be bi... Be straight, be confused, change your mind, experiement... live your life as YOU want.

Leave what others think of the way you live your life where it belongs... in THEIR head, don't give it a home in yours...

 

I don't disagree with you, rarely do. Just trying to see the best in people, am unsure if WF would have opened that can of worms, pulling the gay card on her parents, just to start an argument. That seems a little excessive!!

I suppose in this instance, I just have similar sounding parents and so I can relate. You would always want to share your life with your family, let them know who the 'real' person is, and it sounds like her to do so may burn a bridge in WF's private life. It's fine to say live your life as you intend and whatever else, but in reality that can be a lonely and relatively secretive existence.

But yeah, I haven't met WF, so maybe this is a cry for attention or somebody trying to provoke via a controversial opinion. There is no doubt in my mind that was you say is valid and probable.

 

That would be an excuse not to tell them at all, not an excuse to read a paper on gay rights and go from there.

She didn't go to them and say, "mom, dad, I'm bi"... she went to them and said, "Gays are people too, and by the way, I'm one of them"

Looking to be accepted is fine, throwing your differences in someones face that you KNOW has issues with it, is looking to start drama... not sharing who you are.

 

It sounds more like she was trying to figure out how they felt about these sorts of things, then in the process her mother asked if she was gay. And when she was asked i guess she felt the need to be honest? I guess it's silly to defend anothers actions. But I guess it is also sort of silly to be so against them. All we know is what she has told us. We don't know her, we don't know the way her mind works, and we don't know why she is the way she is.

 

lol

 

This is the wisest piece of advice I've seen so far in this thread. You have to be certain this is what you want. Because we live in a society of labels. Once you say "I am..." the you are branded as that. You are now defined.

As I said before, I came out to my mom as a zoosexual. Hardest thing I've ever had to do. Luckily, my mom is an old hippie so she was pretty laid back when she found out her son boinks animals. Thinking back, if she had taken wrong, or been judgmental, I could have lost my relationship with her. Same goes for the friends I've told. Luckily, no one has violated my oath to secrecy. No one but the people I want to know know. That could easily be different if I had trusted the wrong person.

Remember, once you say "I am..." then you have to live with that. You are now branded with that label, and once you are there is no going back. In my darker moments I wish I could. Then I remember that people know the real me instead of the mask I wore for most of my life. But what is done is done, and it cannot be undone. Remember that...