An interesting story followed by a few questions. In Math class one year, an interesting thing occurred. As my teacher told us to break off into partners, two people arrived at my desk to work with me, one male, and one female. Now, my guy friend had a crush on me, and I knew this (he had told me in a very interesting-alarming way), but I had a long-standing crush on the girl (since elementary school summer camp - oddly enough, we'd all met in that camp...). How was I to decide between them which person would be my partner? (And I know it's corny, cliche and over-dramatic, but this represented a decision that I was internally dealing with at the time.) Well, I got lucky. Being that there was an odd number of people in the class, we all were able to work together. I sat in the middle, the boy on my right, the girl on my left and the flirting was non-stop. Everytime we would pair off, this would be the situation (I doubt whether I got any work done in that class at all). The only way this all could have been more awkward would maybe have been if the girl liked the guy, but again, luckily, that was not the case (well, in retrospect, she might have, but let's leave that alone for now). So, the year ended, and my indecisive, fearful self prgressed no further in either direction. The girl went on to find another guy, although she always had a smile waiting for me. I was obnoxious and rude to the guy at times (for I am male and definitely did not want to face the world's bias). And yet, an odd thing happened...he didn't stop "loving" me. And at times, I really started liking him...a lot. But. But then I found another girl, and, as of now, we've been dating for more than two years. She's the sweetest little thing. Very attractive. Our relationship is great, and I could really see us making it all the way. And yet, and yet he's still there. With his coy way of grinning just so. Recently, very recently, I realized that I love two people. And, this too will sound extremely corny and maybe idiotic, I've honestly found myself comparing my situation to that of...(wow it's stupid) Bella in Eclipse (Sorry I'm even saying it, my friends dragged me to that movie). If you don't know the story: On one hand, there's Jacob, who, as far as my comparison is concerned, would be the acceptable, easy, decision. He's the werewolf, who can stand in the light of day and be seen by the protagonist's friends, family, etc., as a match. Then there's Edward. To be with him, I/she, would have to give up a lot. Although within this forum, people are accepting, there's a cruel world out there that still does not want to know from nothing of a homosexual relationship. And I guess that, in the end, the questions generated are these: In the end, are we really choosing between two people, or two concepts: homosexuality or heterosexuality? Are bisexuals blessed or cursed for having the ability to live as the majority would dictate? Is even the possibility of true love worth foresaking one's self for? If there are any answers out there, I would like to know them. I'm really just getting into all of this, now that I know for sure that I am bisexual, and figuring out my place, our place, in the world. P.S. Thanks for listening!
Friend, you do not give us details. And, that is probably wise. But, to me being bisexual means that I am emotionally able to relate in a loving sexual relationship with either a man or a woman. That I have done (six times and all in long term relationships. and though I have been a faithful and very happy husband to a dear lady for many years I still love those other partners who contributed to my happiness in so many ways on the journey into the fullness of my sexuality. To begin with I enjoyed the loving friendship and the sex that went with it with the new guy in town for a whole year. We were a loving and faithful pair. But that next summer he was to be away on his grandparents' ranch in Montana and we sort of agreed that his absence would give both of us the opportunity to pay some attention to girls. That summer the girl next door was home from college. She was exactly five years older than I and had taken an interest in me since the day I was born. She was a loving friend though there had never been any hint of anything sexual between us before. But I had just turned sixteen and she took me in hand and introduced me to the beauty and the wonder of the female body and the even greater joy of actual sexual communion with her dear body. I was hooked and by summer's end I was an enthusiastic and confident sex partner to a lady. I was sorry to see her leave for more formal education, but grateful for the boost to my ego that our summer had provided. I loved her even more, but I was content to return to the joys of m2m sex with my loving teen partner when he returned. Of the events of that summer for me he was kept in the dark and he did not reveal whether he had gotten to use the condoms his father had provided him "just in case he might get to messing with girls." Always, we never stopped thinking of ourselves as regular guys and even imagined our peers were having similar experiences. I had a housemate the two years I was a teacher in Seattle and we became a loving pair. The sex was fantastic but he was and is a fantastic person; leaving that relationship to return to graduate school was very difficult. But, a few months later I was sure that I had met the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with if she would have me. She was willing and I have not regretted my decision to "forsake all others". Even bisexuals do find it necessary to choose.
I am primarily attracted to guys sexually but to people equally which is to say that I enjoy the friendship of either sex but choose to be sexually active with guys. That said, there have been a few occasions where the friendship with a woman has become sexual at times. That doesn't make me bi-sexual...it just falls along Kinseys scale close to the completely gay end but not quite. I suppose if I were Bi then it would simply be the quality of the person as opposed the the genitals. Good Luck.
you shouldn't care about what anybody thinks and even less let that somehow influence your decision. I know this kind of line comes up often, and it's been used so much as to sound meaningless, but it's true. you have to make your life about what you want, and this situation is no different in that respect. if you let others' opinions influence what you do in life, then you might find yourself living a lie at some point. a bit more difficult thing here, though, might be to understand which one you want to be with more. I know the dilemma because I've been in the same situation (except for me it was two different guys). I know how impossible it is to choose between two people you've fallen in love with at the same time. The only way I know how to solve it is to put distance between yourself and both of those two. to be without them for the time being. then, after a while, you will understand which one it is that stirs you in a way the other doesn't. that was the way it was for me. I wish you all the luck in figuring it out.
I suppose, since the bisexual is the slag of society, the decision is clear it's who he is going to have it off with first on any given day
Thats hardly brand new information. Given the thread title, I was expecting something like the Ulitmate Fighting Champion, but with pork swords
It is, in the end - assuming that one ends their life in a monogamous relationship - which gender do I end my life with? In the end, was I in a heterosexual or homosexual relationship. Update: Since that time, my girlfriend and I went on a trip with her family. We were away for almost a week, and although it should have been all about me and her, I still found myself thinking of him quite often. Meanwhile, I have been unable to contact my guy. Today, someone asked when it would be "our turn to have kids" (me and my girlfriend)...and this raised all new questions and brought about new thoughts. A bisexual has the option of having a child through a heterosexual relationship. I don't know about anyone else, but it seems to me as if that alone yields very strong impetus for one to lean toward being hetero. What are people's thoughts on this I wonder...?
There's alot that goes on beyond these highschool walls. And you'll find that the world(majority) is quite accepting towards homosexuals/bisexuals. Just do what feels right, fuck everyone else.
