Hey there! I'm relatively new here (experience wise), but I have a question and I thought I'd see what kind of responses I'd get. Basically, I'm just trying to meet people in the gay community...and as general as that sounds, I'm struggling lol. I'm rather shy, and I guess up till now I've been waiting for someone to knock on my front door and take me away to Hawaii... I am gay, 20, and would love to find someone to spend my life with. I just don't know where to begin really. First off, I'm not big in the club scene, and I know that's not the only way to meet guys. I would try coffee shops, afternoon cafes, or casual evening diners...lol, I do like food! I would love to hear from you guys and girls what has worked for you! How/where do you meet people? Are you shy, would you say? I live in northern Orlando, and I know we're not exactly lacking in the gay and lesbian community, which is awesome. Now I just need to find out where you hang out! I have to put on my creeper face now And I know there's no secret, that the answer really depends on the individual. I'm just looking for some advice from those with experience in the matter. ...Or, better yet, where do you like to hang out? If you're gay, where do you tend to hang out in your free time? Not necessarily to score a number, but maybe a likely place to find someone interesting without expecting to...? I don't know, at first I thought this'd be a good idea, but now it sort of sounds like another cry for help. x_x Any advice or tough love would be appreciated! Thanks everyone! <3
I'm in a similar postion, I'm in a new city, out of the closet for the first time and I don't know anyone. I actually haven't thought about socializing yet because I'm in the process of getting settled in to my apartment and starting work. I love music, so currently I'm checking out upcoming events for the month and will be attending some of those, maybe I'll meet some people, maybe not, i'll just let it happen naturally. I'm pretty shy too and I think it depends on who you are as a person too but yeah.
I do not dig the LGBT types of guys to start with. Activists simply turn me off. As do all the people with an agenda and all the guys who want to be "in your face". Because they are fighting for a cause or because they know better or whatever. Ask yourself honestly who and why would anyone want to take you to Hawaii. If you have the guts to give yourself an honest answer, you'll already know where to look for your Mr. Right. Internet did work for me because I had a clear idea of whom I wanted for a partner and because I knew what I needed to put on the table in order to get my Mr. Right. Give it an honest try and you'll be surprised... KD
Not into the gay scene either,except for a stint in which I worked at Johnnys in Ft Lauderdale. I ment my guy in Kentucky via gay.com, def had some disasters via online but I've been with my mate now for 4+ years.
I would start off thinking about what type of guy you would want to be with. Then hang out where that type of guy might be. I wanted a guy who cared about something so i met the person i am with now working at a soup kitchen
