Hey everyone, Anyone out there suffering from anxiety? Panic attacks? Irrational fears? I know I am ... been down this road before, but it's much worse this time around. I'm looking for someone who is/was going through something similar, like an anxiety buddy. PM or reply below!
I get all of the above, except my fears are not irrational - I know what causes them - it's a woman I'm extremely emotionally dependent on who continually hints at threats of abandonment. Frequently I deal very badly with it. When I do deal well with it, it's by telling myself she's just testing me and not really going to abandon me. I don't know how it is with irrational fears - does it help to itemize your list of real threats and decide there aren't any? Or do you tend to find something real to attach your fears to?
Understanding what causes your fears don't make them rational. It only means you understand them. Emotions don't have to necessarily be logical in order to be truly felt.
Oh yes I have been down that road before. It is very difficult for family and us. I hardly ever have panic attacks anymore though. I had to find the source of my anxiety and cut it out of my life. If you ever need to talk you can send me a pm or email me anytime.
If you're refering to me all I meant was that to be anxious is miserable and it tries to manifest itself in the need for company and stimulation. So as long as one acts out of this forced need, they will be anxious. It's like saying as long as I think I'm ugly, I will be ugly.
I never really though I had an anxiety problem until I started a new job about a year ago. The job I had before that was abusive to say the least and moving on to a healthy work environment was so scary for me. For the first three months I was always on edge and would have difficulty going to sleep at night. I would have to drink special teas (Linden tea and 7 Blossoms tea help...they dont taste like much) and literally talk to myself in my head to calm myself down. It was all a result of my previous negative experience at work. Before quitting my previous job I was so stressed that I would have mild panic attacks at random moments and gained some weight from the stress. In the end going to therapy and learning to combat my negative thinking helped me work through it. Also, I allowed myself to be nervous and anxious because I realized I couldnt control it. Getting mad at myself for feeling a certain way would just make me feel worse. I asked my therapist to refer me out for meds but she said she didnt think I needed it. I knew why I was anxious so it wasnt like there was no cause for the anxiety. Writing also helped me a lot. I wrote several chapters to a book while working through the anxiety. I basically found a useful outlet. Now I feel so much better. I am naturally still a little anxious simply because that is how my personality is but the negative thoughts and panic attacks have almost disapeared. Now the weight...hmmm....I'm still sexy but 15 pounds less would be nice. LOL
oh jeez I get anxiety pains..they really suck! my stomach knots up so much that i really get sick and take deep breaths constantly to relieve some pain.
The tea really helped with the physiological aspects of anxiety that I was experiencing. i would feel a little calmer after a cup. Granted......it could have all been psychological and maybe the tea wasnt doing anything at all LOL. But yeah...I know those anxiety stomach and chest pains too well.
Yeppers. Anxiety/panic attacks/breakdowns because of the slightest thing which i think I cant handle...Ohh yeah. Suffering work history and relationship history...Mhhmmmm. I havent learned to fully deal with mine yet, Im just learning tricks. Hands under running water, having a stuffed animal nearby, coloring books - things of that nature. Anything thats peaceful, positive, expressive and thoughtless. I doubt any of this helps, but I like to throw my half cent in having anxiety aswell and whatot.
I agree, emotions are often not logical, and they are truly felt by definition, because they are emotions. To me, an irrational fear is one that you logically know is unlikely to happen, whereas a rational fear is one that seems like it could very possibly happen. The fears I was talking about fall into the latter category, because they have in fact happened on a few occasions, and the person in question keeps acting like she might do it again. In fact, at the present time she IS in fact doing it again. For how long this time, I have no way of knowing - could be forever, for all I know. It was five years one time. That's a long time. Bottom line is, it causes me stress, and I'm often not sure how to deal with it - sometimes I deal with it very poorly.
I disagree. My boy has anxiety/panic disorders as do I and we can get through our panic attacks better since we have a deep understanding of what one another is going through.
