gotta be honest

Whoa, cool... what hospital were you born that they had pr0n playing in the delivery room?

That's where imma have my kids...

 

well there's your problem. women are sex objects.

 

not really. my point being that if you go into everything with sex on your mind and only sex then you will fail. you have to court a woman before any sex goes on. you gotta run the bases before you get home, right? and even if you skip all that and have sex right away it's not really what you want because women like that are usually dirty or aren't really worth it in the long run..then again i don't know anything.

 

Forgetting is as important as remembering. In your case ,more so.

 

Actually, it's true; real sex and relationships are totally different to internet porn. That's why all my internet nerd pals never get any girlfriends (they'll occasionally have some girl they watch strip online ... who they've never met). But you can't be a jerk-off in reality, to get jobs, earn money, be confident, etc, the poster is absolutely right. Being successful with girls in reality is a TOTALLY different mindset to watching porn. If anything, I find I'm most successful with girls when I haven't watched any porn for ages.

 

It's important to say, though, that love is different from sex. Totally different thing.

 

Also, to add, girls who are sex obsessed are also likely to be nervous. They won't come on to you; you have to come onto them. And if you're both awkward, it's not gonna happen. SO, it's important to not just seek sex. Or, like a lot of people, you'll just end up watching porn. So, forget sex, and focus your soul on other things; and if the right woman comes along, then great. Or, if you really want quick sex, just get drunk. Most loose sexual encounters occur when you're drunk. Surprisingly few happen with sober people, unless they've known each other a long time.

 

Yeah, you do need other people in order to survive... at least, most do. But the trick is learning not to depend on others for your own happiness. The only person in this world who can control your happiness is you because others will walk in and out of your life, others will disappoint you, others will hurt you. At the end of the day, you're the only one you've got.

 

I haven't seen a single response yet that I think was appropriate. I'm sorry that you're getting douched by some people. As for my input, I'm not going to instruct you on what elements I think should be in your life and which shouldn't. Rather, I advise this: you want to get love and sex out of your life. Alright. It's out. Don't focus on it anymore. If you stop participating in it but can't stop thinking bitterly towards it, it's possibly even worse than before. Get it truly out of your life, my friend, so that you can move onto things that are important to you. If you need to, start ridding yourself in a similar fashion of other things that you feel are weighing you down, if possible (although do keep in mind that there are ways to resolve things besides leaving them by the roadside; always give something some time first).

For the record, I don't think you're a lunatic at all. I think you've hit a place of confusion in your life, and you're sorting things out. Fuck anyone who takes advantage of that and spits in your face.

Best wishes,

The Guy With The Long, Moderately Humorous Name

 

Excuse me; I only read the first page before saying that there were no responses that were appropriate. My apologies to those who do have appropriate responses ^^;

 

Porn's okay in small doses, but this is a good example of how this shit can rot your mind. It's okay not to want love with sex, but it shouldn't be something you're utterly opposed to or create an emotional turmoil. And pretty girls are always approachable if you know you have something to offer. Just believe in yourself, man.

 

thanks for the advice everyone. i guess i am going through that hate life phase. and everything seems unattainable because it's not easy or free..but ya know i'll grow up eventually.