Age Differences.

i prefer guys 40 and older, grey hair is a major plus,

 

They may have that right, but I look at it more as once you've hit a certain age difference (i.e. 20-30+ yrs) it gets to a point where I think it's fairly obvious that one of you is going to die 20-30 years younger than the other, which kind of dooms you away from being able to spend your whole life with that person, something I value in a relationship. Disease/cancer ridden is of course a completely different subject, but I would not want to start dating someone who walking in I was near certain would kick the bucket a long time before me.

 

but if you truely love that person it doesnt matter who goes first.and how long you have together, hell if two peaple the same age date one could die too of anything, then you have the same problem.i prefer older men becuse i think grey hair is sexy and that they treat you soooo much better then boys do.

 

That is fine for you, that does not give you the right to tell any other ADULT what they can or cannot do.

 

My age differences constantly.

 

ChrissySunshine just neged me for this post, with the comment 'douche'.

Child, the only douche around you is the guy you claim to love, the one that see nothing wrong with adults being with children, at least going on your posts.

The fact that you will argue and fight for the right to do so, isn't even all that uncommon in cases such as this. I know adults in their 30's who went back to people that abused them as children.

I won't bother offering you advice as to what to do, as you don't want to hear anything beyond it's okay, and seems it isn't, there's little point...

 

Look, I've been through some shit, dude. Im not trying to use that is an excuse. I know I'm legally a child, but mentally, not so. He doesnt pressure me, doesn't make me do anything I don't wanna do. He LOVES me. And, yes, I know you are going to say that I don't know what 'love' is, that I'm just a child. But, how does a law define what stage of life you are in? Life is experience. I don't know what else to say.....

 

Just as long as he didn't have sex with you, nothing's really wrong.

 

Thank you , We're waiting until I am "of age." He's not a dumbass. lol.

 

No, you don't know what I am going to say obviously, seems I don't give a fuck if you love him or not. It was his place as the adult to not let something start with a child.

The fact that he didn't, and according to you, was going out with you when you were 13, makes him an adult who takes advantage of children...

Nothing you can say about how you feel will ever change that.

 

Maybe he's only an adult chronilogically. He might be less mature socially.

There's no law against adults being with children just as long as they don't introduce sexual practices to them.

 

First off, what does it matter if he is only and adult chronologically? If someone is 50 but because of brain damage only acts like a 14 year old, should we allow them to be involved with kids as anything beyond friends?

Secondly, adults (chronologically or otherwise) entering into a relationship with a child is wrong. Whether or not the law says so...

 

My first husband was 25 years older than I was
and
my second husband was 20 years younger than I was

I outlived them both but if and when there is a third I prefer
someome a little closer in my ideas about harmony and sex

 

All relationships are friends if there's no sex involved.

Sex is what makes it 'wrong' No sex, no wrong. Unless you're advising the child to do wrong things. Otherwise a relationship might be fine.

As a parent, I would not have allowed my daughter to date at 13 with anyone more than 1 year older than she. I consider that parentally responsible. The 'wrong' would be disobedience to my parental authority.

 

I once heard a child molester say of a little 5 year old girl... "Sometimes they crawl up on your lap and wiggle around, what are you supposed to do"

My answer was "Act like and adult, put the child down and explain to them why they shouldn't do that"

To take ANY TYPE of advance from an underage child and do anything other then tell them that they shouldn't be thinking about adults that way, is wrong.

As for your 'wrong', you just blamed your child for letting an adult take advantage of them...

 

What the pedophile said has nothing to do with this discussion - why bring that in?

You're extrapolating a lot of wrong. Talking with a 13 year-old is not intrinsically wrong. Going to see a movie with a 13 year-old is not intrinsically wrong. Indulging in sexual practices with a 13 year old is wrong. Because an 18 year old is likely to want such things, I would not allow my daughter to date one.

I would blame my child for disobedience to me. Wouldn't you?

 

He's not rapeing me or anything. He's my dearest and closest friend. I when I'm "of age" we're gonna get married, if all things go as planned. It's not but a FIVE year age difference. Maybe, you should be alittle more open minded and a little less brainwashed. I'm alot more mature than my age leads on.

 

I wouldn't EVER blame a child for an adult taking advantage of them.

No matter what the circumstances are.

As for what the pedophile saying having nothing to do with it, it has everything to do with this. It is an example of an adult of an adult trying to blame a child for their own lack of decency and control.

 

Being open minded does not mean accepting adults taking advantage of children, even if the children say they want it to happen.

As I have said many times in this thread as well as others, I dont care a single bit about age differences.... IN ADULTS...

 

What really makes us 'adults', anyways? Age? Experience? Self- Controll <-- This is what I believe make one an 'adult' Debatable. I see no point in arguing any longer. peace guys. and Tom? Truce?