My last serious relationship ended almost 3 years ago. Ive dated plenty since then, but I cant seem to find anyone worth going to the next step with. I really miss having a special someone in my life. I'm just feelin really lonely right now for some reason.
it da damn hollidays that make us think we should be enjoying the warmth of a loved one!... but really i know what you mean! i too miss the companionship of a full time partner... and sex although good as it can be it still doesnt replace the moments of intimacy that we would like to have.... well to the club!!!!
find yourself within the loniness you feel no one really is alone,and yes you deserve someone special remember not to judge the next relationship on the last...also this may help you find someone believe me.......... and it will happen just when you didnt realize it and you will know yourself if you have understood why you feel lonely,,,,,,,,its not just the lose of love its the lose of being in a couple..thats what you need to learn...how to be you one person..then you will send out love again to that specail someone ...... be whole now the past is done,learn and look forward at you .. good luck love n peace from saff life has many paths but its your choice to choose your jouney... you seem to be on a journey right now accept this and feel free to choose love .... be stronge for yourself..
saffronfrancisburnet I have gone through the phases. I took time to get over my ex...spent time getting to know ME...where I didnt date anyone and just learned to love myself and know myself....and now I am ready to commit to someone because I know who I am. And I agree, it must be the damn holidays lol. As with being picky...yes, I am a bit picky. I just...I have dated enough guys to know what I want from a relationship and that just isnt easy to find always. *sigh*
i totally relate, but my wounds are kinda fresh, that's probably why i feel this way: he's not coming back n if he did i wouldn't take him, but i wish i could find sum1 to make me feel that way again
I remember that feeling honeyhannah. Im totally over my ex...and absolutly have no feelings for him anymore....but I do miss just the thought of having someone. *sigh* Aw well...what can ya do, right?
Ya.. must be the damn holidays. it seems to be that at this time, almost year end, I get very frustrated about my relationship with my workaholic boyfriend and then get completely 'insecure' and 'fragile' as he calls it. The holidays make us miss the intimacy of being with someone special. After the new year starts, when the holidays are over, it will be better. The loneliness will subside and hopefully by valentine's we can again cuddle up with someone so special that we start to glow.
hi there if you are over someone ,the holidays dont make you feel loney. im sorry to say......... the morning sun that touchers your soul should wake you in a fresh light..if you are over someone......... love n peace from saff and i know i know only to well i know the moment i let go of the past and the sadness dissapeared. it was i that had to let go not the loniness............ so take a deep breathe and be honest with your head first,,, the holidays are for life... love n peace from saff
I feel your sorrow and feel your pain. I felt the same since my last proper relationship ended when i was 21. Every woman i look at and think yeh if only , is so much younger than me(like 5 yaers + younger) they use the AGE GAP excuse. this i don't believe in myself cos love knows no bounds. and the women closer to my age want some one in early 20s ,so i realy can't win. I have taken so much rejection that i have stopped asking. i go out alone , spend the night alone , come home alone, You are young with your entire life before you. you have youth on your side. i however have age (34) and looks going against me . Christmas passes like any other day on a personal leval being a Christian the morn is spent at prais and worship but then its home on my own...As alone i sit , head hung low. No one to meet , no place to go. I wipe the tear from my eye , looking up towards they sky,I ask God the question WHY" So be strong, be bold and when you feel true love, grab hold. Don't be wandering alone in the cold sorry got carried away with the emotion then.
hi there why do you allow yourself to follow this lonely pattern have you felt like going out in to the world and seeing whats there i feel sad that so many people end up sitting alone . be happy with your self and go get the world... and age well it hits us all so go be bold ,go be stronge and find love....... love n peace from saff take the world in your arms warm love will follow and that someone special will be out there,not sitting waiting...
your aloneness is a gift. special relations draw you away from the reason you came here, which is to find your Self. Self, as opposed to "self," is the Divine Within. when you find someone who captivates you, you will be captivated. everyone in your experience is a reflection of Self. to find one as being special is to get drawn away into identification with one of the "Ten Thousand Things" and to lose the path back to the One. there are many enjoyable pass-times along the way, and really you have eternity; so why hurry home? why?
I long for the days that I didnt want to imagine having sex with the girl that I was so in love with. Having sex would have been too worldly to think of, compared to her.:&
It's alright to be single. I have been for 21 years of my life and I'm not complaining about it. During my teenage years I was depressed about it. Most of the time I was the third wheel but when the universe thinks you are ready it will happen. Trust me on this one.
same here 26 years and counting i have no way that i can be in one yet so far in this life, no way it doesnt suck just is what ive always known i think id freak if i was in one, that would be wierd to have someone with around all the time, living with another person ? i just cannot at all understand why anyone would miss or want to be in a relationship and all that stuff, dont have the time or money or means for such a thing in this life, it would just be impossible, all i ever see in relationships around me are problems like fights and breakups or divorces and so forth, i have plenty enough things to deal with in this life, i dont need anything more to have to deal with and worry about, mayhbe it would be nice to be in one, but i dunno, i doubt it never know though, it sure would be very different, i dont know if i could ever get used to it, it would just be SO damned different and wierd, but i do dream and sure i see a woman now and then id love to ask out, but i just cant with how my life is me myself and i against the world probably til the end unless something miraculous happens heh good luck with yours
Awww *hugs everyone* I just want to clarify....Im not unhappy with myself nor with the fact Im single. Most of the time I like being single. I enjoy my alone time...its just lately Ive been having a lot of it. I dont feel like I HAVE to be in a relationship to be happy...but times do come that I miss the feeling of have a significant other. We all go through up days and down days...and when I posted that I was just going through a more down day. And another thing, Im totally over my ex. Me and him are VERY good friends now...but we both have no desire to go back to where we were in high school. He isnt the type of person I click with relationship-wise anyways. I do, however, miss the FEELING I once felt being in a relationship. It does not mean I miss HIM. I want that feeling with someone who I click better with. But just to claify, Im not depressed over this or anything lol. Im more than happy with myself and my life....I was just was expressing a feeling I felt the other night.
Just wanted to comment on this also. Everyone is different. I could feel lonely for a number of different reasons. I happen to live alone...and dont see friends or fam. too often due to being busy and living somewhat far from them. That adds to me sometimes feeling lonely. That on top of having a friend talk about how great her relationship is with her boyfriend (and Im TOTALLY happy for her btw) Just made me miss the feeling. other than that I am happy with myself and my life....and I do not in any way miss any of the men I was in previous relationships with. We ended those for a reason
