Anybody have trouble Forgiving?

100%... If someone doesn't say they made a mistake, forgiving them for what you see as a mistake would be rather silly...

Oh, and I don't hold onto anger either....

I release it quite well

 

It's like the Brothers Grimm Fairy Tale - Our Lady's Child.

True.

 

For a long time I couldn't say what I really felt to my spirit guide Deanna - except when I was drunk. LOL So after dealing with several drunken emails and their aftermath, she finally told me flat out that I could say anything I wanted to her - and *amazingly* I never sent her another drunken email.

 

I don't think I could ever forgive my mom. She is a hateful bitch who cares about no one but herself.

 

I sometimes forgive, but I never forget

 

Yes I love my older sister but I will never forgive her for kicking me out of the house the day before thanksgiving in the middle of winter and knowing I have nowhere else 2go,Just bekuz I got sick of being treated like a live in babysitter for her children.

 

Yes i surely do at times. It depends on what it is. yes i surely do not forget sometimes thats what makes it hard to forgive the fact that i won't forget.

 

I have a very hard time forgiving someone who is not true family. I mostly let things slide but not forgetting what happened.

people cannot be trusted.

 

Not if it was not intended to be hurtful. Shit happens.

If it was intended to be so and I did not deserve it then I usually stew about it for a bit and then let it go.

I really don't tend to stay angry at anyone.

Only one person in my lifetime has ever pushed a button in me that made me end a 25 year friendship in a matter of hours.

Thankfully it has not ever happened again.

 

I so agree Broony

 

It might help to know that we must condemn in order to justify our unwillingness to forgive.

 

I don't have a problem forgiving as it's just a way for me to let go of the past and move forward, but I can't forget. It's so easy to damage trust and very hard to earn it back.

I mean if someone steals from you it's easy to forgive the, but can you really trust they won't do it again?

 

Then the money changer has entered the temple. Which is more important, the person or the object you try to protect?

 

I have always said that is one main difference between man and God, in that he can truly forgive/forget...
not me...like Monkey Boy said, I can forgive, in that I am capable of forgiving. That being said...I am right now struggling with a situation, tho' it has actually worked out fine for me, I was treated with malace, deception, etc. and tho' forgivness will surely come (lol), I just don't think I'm capable of ever forgetting.
Forgiveness when it does not involve a loved one, nor blood, is Really hard.
Laughing in someone's face is not beyond me. But that is usually a good step...for me, anyway.

 

The person, but I'm still going to protect my money.

 

To forgive come from a root that means literally, to abstain from giving.

There is a misconception about forgiveness. Forgiveness is the recognition that there is nothing to forgive, or the absence of condemnation.

The difficulty we face in forgiving in the case of how can we trust someone not to steal from us once they've done it, is demonstration of the difficulty of serving two masters.

 

Is the absence of condemnation the same as indifference?

I've been taught indifference is not good either....but now indifference, I can work with.

 

I guess I could give them my money or let them take it if they want, but what I'm talking about is simple probability. The likelyhood of them doing it again is higher.

 

What is the likely hood that someone could steal what is already given?

 

I wouldn't say indifference but unconditional regard. We neither praise nor condemn, we do not evaluate. Only God is good. We do not need judgment to organize our lives, but we do need to make distinctions. What is a thing for? Is it the same or is it different? Is it true?