Do you know your gay?

So I was asked this question. If you've never had sex with a man before, which I haven't, how do you know you're gay? My answer was "I just know".

Do some really think you have to actually have sex to know if you are attracted to males or females? I was kinda like in my head "really?" Do I have to have sex with a guy first to confirm if I'm gay?

Isn't the x amount of fantasies and hardons at the sight of guys all my life and the 0 attraction at the sight of females enough to know if I'm gay or not?

 

bend over like a blind man looking for a nickel

give it 5 minutes

your fate is crystal clear



So, yes, I do think it might help. You never know

 

There is more to it than just sex.

 

Of course!!

footjobs :biggrin:

 

That's right. Because love doesn't exist.

 

What's that? Never heard of it, does it involve nipples?

 

Most probably. And hair, lot's of hair.

 

Yes I Do.!!....



Cheers Glen.

 

Think of all the heterosexuals who are attracted to people of the opposite sex but have never actually had sex. Does anyone ask if they are gay?

 

Nope, which is why I'm confused, when I think about it the only two people that know I'm gay and have had conversations with have asked the same question.

 

Yep, Gotta Agree.



But, just curious. Why you haven't sucked some cock yet?

 

the sex doesnt really determine your sexuality at all. attraction has a ton to do with what you're romatically, or just normally attracted to. if u do find that you don't like sex with a guy, then thats a different story, but for the most part, if you know u are gay, u will be gay.
there are a lot of adjustments when it comes to sex whether it be straight or gay, and the most important part is where u feel most comfortable

 

I was too scared too Shale when I was in the closet, I basically shut myself off from everyone. I just recently left home so I'm not sure about the whole Craigslist thing yet. My body is kinda messed up which makes me sad because I won't be able to seek out guys right away but I'd love to make out and give head, other then that I won't be able to go any further yet. The subject has made me suicidal for a really long time because how long before I'm comfortable yknow? I keep thinking to myself that sex and love isn't everything. So for now I'll try to live a bit and try not to focus on seeking out guys right away.

It's kinda tricky too because If I go to a gay bar I don't want to lead guys on because I'm not comfortable with certain things yet, so do I just tell them straight up I'm only down for making out and head? I haven't really thought about it too much =( and relationships is a whole new ball game. How will I be able to start one with these limits?

Maybe I can find some daddy as handsome as you around my area that I can play with soon. XD

 

Jeez, don't worry about leading people on...you just do what is right and comfortable for you. If ya wanna cuddle and kiss, or whatever else then thats the limit and thats cool. Any guy who is worth a damn at all will accept you and be fine with your limits of comfort. If they don't like it they aren't worth even talking to in the first place. Find yourself some guy who has good values and sense and let him show you how to be loved within your comfort zone. At different times in the past I have been with a guy who is new to gay sex and maybe scared or nervous. Part of the joy of sex is helping your partner enjoy himself. When you find someone like this it can be a win/win for both of you. It might not be your true love forever mate but it sure could be a sweet memory of someone caring enough to be a gentle man. Good luck 87 and let us know when you go 69.

 

Thanks for the comforting words yara =) I actually just sent my first craigslist email and I'm hard just thinking about it ;D

 

Unfortunately there's no litmus test for homosexuality.

Though there are certain genetic traits commonly found in people who identify as gay.

I don't know If I'm gay. I haven't really experienced any sexual relationships, and I don't really do much to persue them.

There are 4 babies born every second.
For every 2 people that die, 5 people are born.

I do NOT want to contribute to this. I've felt too much pain in life to justify replicating my DNA. = /

This makes me swing towards being gay a little I suppose, but I can't help but notice the androgeny. The penis and the clitoris are realy the same thing, and they are both just instruments of producing pleasure.

TL;DR - I dunno lol.

 

There's no need to have had sex with a person of the same gender to know you're gay.
At the age of 3 I already knew I was gay and I certainly had never had sex by then. But I already mastrubated at that age, though. Don't know if it had anything to do with it.

 

Its like trying to work out a maths problem that you dont get straight away, you have to look at it from different angles.

Your gay and male, most when they here the word gay they jump to sex

Yes you are a gay male, dont just consider how that makes you different to other guys, how does that make you different in relation to how you are treated by the girls and how you are different to just about all other guys in matters that have nothing to do with sex.

Because its gay=sex all the time that blinds you to certain things

Like that kind of thinking, you say that stuff to some people and its like they dont understand, what goes on in their head is the exact opposite of what goes on in yours


Eg: With the hot girls, pretty much every guy they meet its like a kangaroo in the headlights staring at their chest, but when they encounter you you shy away and turn your head. You'll work out later their gaydar works better than anyone and if you had a hot aunt when you were little or one of your mums friends were hot she would have known your were "special" long before your mum or even you really understood


Or the girls like Typsy Gypsy, who focus on the love part first, generally means they are love focused and less likely to cheat on the boyfriend...thus your slutty girl radar works better than most guys. Which is very ironic in the end cos you can pick the slutty girls a lot faster than the guys that would bust a nut to be with them

And its works the other way too, you'll find that radar doesnt work as well in other "gay" guys as it should. And when you get to late 20s the differences between the straight guys gets broader, some read women well, while others are still clueless

Its that kind of stuff thats the real trippy part.

The question is not just Do you know you are gay, its also:

Do you know you are not straight?
Do you know you are not whippable?
Do you know you less interested in sex than most everyone else?

Or even Do you know you are male? Yes you have a middle leg, but that brain of yours doesnt work like the rest of them

 

no.

if a straight guy asked this you could've asked him back how he knew he was straight if he'd never had sex with a guy, for example.

 

Hey, I had sex with the new guy in town all through our junior year of high school and neither of us ever stopped thinking of himself as anything other than a regular guy. We did know that we were enjoying the gay sex we were learning about by doing. And we did it all. Yet, the next summer he was off to Montana and his grandparents" ranch and I was about to enjoy a summer of introduction to the mystery of a dear woman's body and the sexual pleasures to be enjoyed with a loving partner. Did I then label myself straight? No way! When my lady lover went back to college I was happy to return to enjoy the pleasures that two high school seniors of the same sex can devise.

We honestly thought our peers were probably making similar discoveries about what sexual activities can bring loving partners pleasure and more. In the process we learned to develop a very healthy attitude toward sex generally.

The meeting of two persons in sexual activity is filled with possibilities. The partners know each other and themselves better; no labels are adequate.