Whats wrong with me!!!! 28 and still a virgin!!!!

or just get as drunk as u want, and have some viagra in ur wallet. take one before headin out of the bar when u know ur gettin some sex.
i do that, works great. but i also take anti depresants so mixing with alchole, i kinda need to take viagra... i like being really hard aswel. and not havin to worry about how much i drink.

edit... i only take viagra when im drunk lol

 

Don't worry about it shakes82
There isn't anything wrong with being a virgin at all.

If you want to buy into this reptillian brained, male-egoistic drivel, do so.

There's absolutely nothing brave or manly about paying your way into sex.

It's very easy to succumb to this type of cultural pathos, yet very rewarding to avoid.

You're a novelty, mr shakes.

 

sex is a good relief, but in my opinion is rather overrated.

 

Generally, taking sex advice from this sort of character is a bad plan.

 

at the end of the day, its his decision what he does.
but ask urself somthing. is what ur doin at the moment working for u?

 

People who have sex still get depressed, have social problems, are often greedy, still feel unhappy and all the rest.

'You're missing out!' they say.

on what? It's obviously not going to provide any remedies, closure or any real fufillment.

It's very unwise to glorify procreation.

 

having a loving sexual relationship is somthing of great significance. somthing that stems from our very instinct. to have sex. to procreate.

not having somthing, that we instictivly crave for, i would assume to be very depressing. obviously more important than money.

being able to have sex, and get woman off, is great for the ego aswell.
its also not just about the sex, but also about having a loving relationship? somone to love, and marry and have kids with. sounds to me, like alot of this has been missing from the posters life.

 

For every 5 people born. Only 2 people die.

490,000 babies born every day worldwide.

Just something to be aware of...where are these people going to go?

It can be depressing. I'm a 22 year old virgin myself.

You know what's realy offensive though?
'Have some balls, stop being pussy'. That's one of the most obtuse and offensive thing you could possibly say.
I've had people say things like this to me before, and it's realy irritating. It's like twisting the blade.

Don't equate being a virgin with having a failure of moral courage.

I don't realy like anybody. I'm not a wimp, I just haven't found the right person yet. So please never say anything like that again.
thankyou.

 

First of all, there really is nothing wrong with a guy who is holding out. Of course, that is if you're consciously holding out for a reason and not because there's lack of opportunity.

However, I sincerely doubt that you posted this topic because you are consciously holding out for someone or something special otherwise, why would it be a problem for you?

I think the reason has nothing to do with sex and more to do with an individual's view about themselves. It's time to take a look at your life and figure out what is repelling women/men and figuring out a plan on how to attract women/men.

What I've found in people is that it comes down to confidence, self image, and the ability to take risks.

For confidence, find something that you're good at and roll with it. Get more involved and show off your skill in that field. For example, if you think you're good at singing. Go to karaoke with your friends, sing a lot, have fun. Others will notice your ability, and you, and will be attracted to you because they will have something in common with you.

Self image is important. Thinking too highly of ourselves makes us cocky, thinking too little of ourselves makes us feel pathetic. Find the things about yourself you really like and celebrate those things, and don't spend so much time on the things that you think are bad about yourself. This helps in making the good things shine, and the not so good things dull into the background. Eventually, if you continue to look for good things you'll find more.

Taking risks means putting ourselves out there to the wolves, so to speak. Take a chance, if you want something then make it happen. Flirting is the first active step a person can take to show interest in another human being on a romantic/sexual level. Walk into a room and look around, find something you like about each of the ladies/men there. Even the ones that you don't think you'll ever like (because they aren't in your list of preferences for a girlfriend or otherwise.) Then go talk to some of them. Explain what you saw that you liked. Don't worry if you sound lame. We are used to, for the most part, people stumbling over their words and saying cheesy things. Otherwise there wouldn't be "Worst pick up lines" posts and other kinds of lists like it on the 'net.

Over time you'll learn what works and what doesn't. Just remember through it all that you, just like everyone else, is going through something similar. Stay positive and things will happen, but keeping positive is key in taking each step closer to what you want in the end.

I hope this helps.

xx

 

in other words, kill your girl's family before you have sex with her.

 

well my fiance (who is a member here) actually was a virgin until he was 24, when he met me, and I was also a virgin.... we both love the fact that we were virigins when we met each other, there's something special about that... I don't see a problem with being a virgin until you find the right person, in my opinion, it's HIGHLY respectable because, at least I felt like this, the girl would feel so special and honored that you waited just for her.

 

if the poster doesnt work out already, i suggest u start. just for the feeling of confidence it gives u. get a bench press and construct a training routine.
thats one great way to naturally boost ur confidence.

by ur age, it sounds like maybe u have a complex about it all now. u just gotta stop stressing, write up a table of goals, like working out n stuff, and have a target time for when your goin to fuck ur first girl. and as the deadline approaches u will try harder and harder.

 

Thanks everyone!!!!! All your advice and suggestions are really helpful!!!!!

 

I just want to second everything aMused said. Wholeheartedly.

 

Well, I anti-second

Why do we jump to self esteem issues?

Im going to with thinks he gets horny, but relative to most other guys doesnt, never quite horny enough to want to bother going down for the growl for 30 mins first , and no that doesnt automatically mean he is horny for the same sex, but has everyone else around him telling him he needs a partner for love apparently not horny

Its a paradox, are the self esteem issues the cause or the effect? Lack of horny makes him different to the norm, thus the self issues? or what aMUsed said

 

Well, he did ask how can he get dates if women don't like him. This leads me to believe there are self-esteem issues involved.

 

He's not talking about all women though.


The male version of the girl that complains about not being able to get a date but only talks to guys that are 6'5" and have shiny cars. The difference being when it comes to the only ones he wants to talk to he trips over his tongue

 

I wouldn't worry about it dude, sex isn't everything.
Unless it's combined with LSD. eace::sifone:

 

I will have sex for you, I am that nice a guy.

 

This is possible, in fact it's likely an element. But he does seem to have the idea in his head that women don't like him, for whatever cause. So, yeah, advising him to look outside of what society deems conventionally attractive is probably useful. But building up some confidence seems useful too.