Little nervous about this so please excuse me if I'm rambling a little.... So I'm a guy in my early 30's and have been playing with my anus for as long as I can remeber. Did struggle awhile with thinking I was gay but am very sure that I'm not. You can say I just somewhat recently started researching the whole prostate thing, never before new thats allot of the reason I like it so much. Anyway, I've been married 11 years now and just a couple of days ago came clean with the wife on the subject. We haven't really talked much about it since. I don't think she was grossed out or anything but definately a little shocked and surprised. I'd really like to get her involved with it and show her how much pleasure she could give me with some toys, oral sex and/or sex. I can only imagine how much better it would be with her rather than by myself. I really just don't know how to talk to her about it. She is a little bit on the prude side. Also, I had been toying with her butt a little during sex. I asked her about it and found out that she wasn't totally against the idea which is why I took the plunge and admitted my like for it. But, now that I brought it up (fingering hers not mine) she won't let me do it. Women are so weird...... Anyway, any advice would be great. Thanks
You've been married for ELEVEN years and just told her this. That sounds pretty crazy. Do you not talk to your wife?
Yes it is crazy. Seems more so now that you made me think about it. LOL. Yes we do talk but like I said, she's kind of prude and has never been big on sex talk. Sex itself is not a problem. At least once a day most of the time, but getting her to talk about it or try new things is difficult. Not saying its all her fault, I am just as much to blame for not trusting the relationship and for being afraid to tell her about it. Having 3 kids also does not allow for much adult conversation of any kind either. I really don't know why I waited so long. I think she was a bit on the mad side that I've kept it a secret for so long. Hope to talk with her tonight some about it. It was just Thursday night that I told her and neither one of us brought it up last night, I think we both needed a break.
just keep going the path you are .. the honesty will be good. don't push if she's uncomfortable. and to answer your question.. The feeling is awesome!
Thanks for the advice. We actually talked a bit more about it tonight and it went well. Not sure if it's going to happen yet but hell, I've waited this long right. As for the feeling, I can imagine it being scary awesome. This is actually one of my selling points to her. She does truly enjoy pleasuring me. I have been playing back there for awhile now but really only recently knew anything about the prostate. Since then I don't think I have yet to tap the true potential solo but have come close a few times. With her help I can definitely see multiple and explosive orgasms, total body shattering stuff. I have actually had multiple orgasms before with regular sex a few times which were quite awesome but it is difficult to pull off. Thinking back to those times now I think that ejaculation actually masks the pleasure of the orgasm. For any guy that hasn't had one before ejaculating, I strongly recommend looking into it and trying it.
You probably should of said nothing and introduced it to her slowly like you where doing in the first place. Women like to be the ones who control the kink, makes them feel in control, comfortable and relaxed. You cannot threaten this they get nervous and uneasy, you don't want that. Now instead of her thinking his ass is all mine and I own him she is probably thinking is he gay, bi, cross dresser, how many people have had his ass etc. If you are talking about it that is good but don't push it, let her take the lead and if she shy's away from the subject just play by yourself, she knows you like it and you never know she may be the instigator in the near future, let her be the decider. Btw I love it too but I could not enjoy it unless they wanted to do it. Just my 2 cents
Thanks for the advice.. 1st comment - she's not at all kinky, if I don't bring something up it won't happen. 2nd comment - I really don't think she thinks I'm gay. Again, married 11 years and she knows full well that I completely adore her womeness. 3rd comment - you may have hit the nail on the head here. We talked some more last night as mentioned, didn't end up having sex at all since my youngest, breast fed soon woke up hungry during foreplay. She passed out and I let her sleep. But tonight, she started quite agressively massaging my prenium out of no where. Felt really good and it came with some hand and oral stimultion as well. Wasn't for very long and went pretty quick to sex but I hadn't mentioned (nor did I know it could be so good) massaging that area so she must have been doing some reading on her own. I swear she must have cum a little before I went in cause she was quite wet when I got there. I was quite orgasmic, even for a bit after shooting in her (after the 3rd kid I am now fixed) and she seemed to like it too. Time will tell I guess.....
