So I got in touch with a child hood friend recently and what I found interesting was he was really surprised how I found out he was gay by his instant messenger picture from maybe 7-8 years ago. We haven't talked or seen eachother since grade 5 and all I had to do was see a picture of him to find out he was gay. He asked me what was it about him in the picture that made me think he was gay? I said it was his face. Do I have really good gaydar or is it something else? What I find interesting is that why do gay men, I'm not saying all but why do we have a distinct "look" that seperates us from straight guys? Don't you find that weird? I've never really thought about it till now. Is there such a thing as "looking straight" and "looking gay"? Why is it that this "look" is mostly found on gay men? It boggles my mind lol. Seriously, what straight guy looks gay? I know that sounds really bad but I think it's the truth. Anyways, what's your thought on it?
I've been to a few parties where people will ask me if I'm bisexual, and i'll say yes and they'll respond with "I knew it". But I don't know why they'd think that just from looking at me. Maybe I just generally give off that vibe. I dress like anybody else really. Skinny jeans, v necks, cardigans. Well everyone at the party.
It's more visual I think and I find it strange for random people to ask if you if you're bi for some reason unless they know you a bit, I would think it would be people coming up to ask if you were gay or not.
My gaydar is absolutely dreadful. I think that if you see lots of men who you know are gay, you are more likely to pick up on it when you're around another gay man.
Does noone else find it weird how a certain appearance that gay men have and straight men can differ? Is it just a coincidence?
As a species we are very visual and take into account facial expressions and body language that may be very subtle and we may not even be cosciously aware of to form opinions of where someone else it at. This evolved over millennia from successfully guessing whether a strange guy would bash you over the head or suck you off.
i find it weird too. i definitely have a gaydar and i can see the difference too. i think a lot of it comes down to personal relation, kinda. straight people do not have good gaydars, so i think thats a big indication of where it comes from. idk though, thats my guess. boggles me too. it all relies on little subtleties, and to add a lil to what shale said, we're gonna increasingly gonna detect those subtleties. and it doesnt have to do with clothes at all, its all what the person does. but what boggles me more, for me, is when my gaydar is actually wrong. im not trying to be conceited or anything, but like those gay guys that do very well at acting straight throw me off. hahah i actually find it kinda hot... lol
Ditto, I get asked all the time. I am very liberal with my sexuality, and I think people get that rather quickly I do not feel I act or dress any differently.
People don't usually tend to notice, and actually seem surprised when they realise. But, I have pretty good gaydar I think, I usually sense someone could be gay.
Same, I think it's really obvious. Although I am under the impression that every person on the planet it a little bit to a point
I had this too happen just last weekend. Someone who only caught a glimpse of me for literally less than 5 seconds! could tell I wasn't straight and asked me in front of a crowd. I'm still in the closet, so I said no, but it keeps happening to me alot! My closet must have glass walls but yeah there are some physical characteristics that are stereotyped as "gay" or "straight" but even more than that I feel like it's something in someone's personality that really makes them stand out
