You could buy him stuff. Clean the house. Cook him a nice dinner. Dress up nice for him. Be nice to your fucking future mother-in-law. But really, go ahead and smoke his meat stick intead. Take all that man yoghurt ie:
haha.. last week i surprised my boyfriend with a new lingerie set .. suspenders and all that .. he appreciated....... ha..
I surprised my man last week cooked him dinner, wrote him an poem, and last night I surprised him with sex, by waking him up and having sex with me on top. he liked it!!! : )
I'm all about the yogurt part. I don't want a woman doing anything for me, at all. Mummies make me claustrophobic. Wouldn't want a girl to dress up for me, either. Nor will I marry you or introduce you to my mom. On the other hand, after yogurt we can take a looooooong walk around town and seek misadventures. :biggrin:
Yeesh. Hyper-independence to the point of claustrophobia seems as bad as hyper-dependence. Someone does something nice for you, say thank you. On other notes: you want to show your guy you care? Let him eat you out. Give him all that lady-juice.
I would have to trust the girl very much, to accept a gift. I don't like to receive gifts even from family members on my birthday. These days I'm liable to return them.
It's less lonely than receiving gifts from people in order to compensate for a defunct relationship. Want to give me a gift? Take a long walk with me in silence. Edit: Silence can also be less lonely than dinner-table yapping, IMO.
Well, part of actually doing nice things for people is finding out what they'd actually like from you. And yeah, gifts to make up for other bad shit are lame. But people just doing nice little things here and there for you to show they actually care? Like, you know, going for walks with you if you like... That's different.
Can I has it? Edit: Oh wait, got the joke. I thought you were giving that to Chelsea. Would have been a different joke entirely. Mmmm Grilled meat-stick!
I take exception to the practice of sharing experiences and attempting to create emotional bonds with other individuals almost exclusively through consumption, as opposed to production. E.g., buying, eating, watching things, "filler" conversations, etc. My relationships are pretty much divided along producer/consumer lines. My productive relationships are close, my consumer relationships are superficial or downright adversarial. I didn't plan it that way. But that's how the chips fell, for me. Hence, my suspicions about gift-giving. You can't manipulate a walk form such and such a time, to such and such a time, and then we part ways...because it's immediate and entirely mutual. But you sure as hell can use gift-giving to emotionally blackmail someone and that, in my observation, is much more frequent (if subtle) than habitual gift-givers are willing to admit. Therefore, I would have to trust you first...before I accept or give a gift.