Seeing a fuckable person a certain way

Last night I had a dream about a girl I dated a long time ago. I was thinking about her today and how the relationship ended, and thus I thought of the point I'm getting to. We had been dating for two years when one day she told me that she "doesn't see me that way anymore". AKA She said that she, at that point, considered me a very good friend, but not really a boyfriend anymore. So we were friends for a short period of time afterwards during which time our relationship was the EXACT same, minus the sex. I would have fucked her, she wouldn't have fucked me due to not seeing me that way.

So today I was thinking about that. I'd sleep with any woman, granted I found them attractive physically, yet most women would hesitate to sleep with a man they aren't emotionally attracted too. Ever had a friend of the gender of your preference who you'd gladly fuck without wanting to date them? I don't understand the concept of not wanting to do so. I'm sure many men can understand what I'm trying to say here. Do you have to "see" a person a certain way in order to find them fuckable? I don't whatsoever.

 

emotions don't need to be attached, i would just need to feel some kind of want. which isn't usually the case
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PS, lunar, thank you for livening up these forums. i love your posts

 

Men want to spread their seed everywhere to increase their offspring.

Women want to select a mate carefully in order to get the best genes for their offspring.

What's not to understand?

 

this is exactly why i no longer allow females friends into my life.

 

i really don't understand the criteria for determining the "best genes" for one...

 

Hey thanks man!

 

I dated a really fucked-in-the-head psycho bitch who, everytime the relationship went well, wanted to be (out of nowhere!) 'just friends'. We'd still do all the stuff we used to do when we were dating, minus fucking during periods like that. Eventually she would come to the conclusion that she wanted me in 'that' way again, then we'd fuck.

I think chicks get really emotionally attached in that way. On the other hand though, I'm not the type of guy who would want to have a one night stand and never see her again, but I do think that if you're both single and friends, yeah. Having a fuck buddy isn't really that big of a deal.

 

I can honestly say that I've never philosophized, done my taxes, or written an essay for school with my penis. I mostly use it for sexual purposes......

 

Me either. In fact you can find a wealth of scientific studies that, in the end, basically say that it varies from woman to woman.

 

Shallow

 

For the past 12 years, every time I've seen a moderately attractive girl, I turn into a cartoon wolf and hit myself in the head with a frying pan. When I meet a girl my thoughts turn to ripping her clothes off and defiling her.

Other than that, I'm a perfectly normal nice guy, and I can move past my instincts and be platonic friends with women. And I'd rather have real friends than fuck toys.

But most people are boring to me, and I'd rather have a fuck toy than a boring accountant gal pal.

 

Either thats true, or you think its that way cos thats what most of them say when guys are around


The girl in your little tale there, probably just got bored of that with you, and not necessarily the sex, but bored of the attention she was getting from you, yeah you were still into her but not in that nut busting way over the first month. Why stick with you thats gotten used to her when she can have a string of half a dozen other boyfriends at nutbusting level before she gets old and fat

Girls rankings go down when they get older, guys rankings go up, its something most guys dont even bother considering

 

if i find someone fuckable, i'd fuck them.

at the point in my life right now i'm not interested in a relationship, and if you're cute and are strong enough to get rough with me and throw me around in bed, get in mine.

for granted you're cute and your dick/pussy isn't swarming with hives, warts or creatures.

 

i guess cos i know how much it ruins the friend relationship when one person tries to take it further, so i just assume that going the full distance and fucking would ruin the friendship completely. all of my friends who've had fuck buddies, it didn't last and they certainly aren't just friends anymore. just fucking a stranger is different to someone you're already friends with. even if it starts out no strings, most people can't help the feelings of jealousy and ownership and all that crap that comes into play. i'd rather keep my life simple.

 

the friend relationship is ruined when one person tries to take it further, and the friend relationship is ruined when one person wants to take if further but knows he can't. one of those 2 scenarios will be the case. the only way not to ruin the friend relationship is to not start one with the opposite sex in the first place.

 

Yes. I don't know if I would describe it that way, but basically...yes.

Case-in-point: lived with someone 3 years. In the final months I couldn't feel attracted to her if they paid me.

I slept in the living room. Just sleeping in the same bed made me claustrophobic. Our relationship wasn't going well at all.

All I could do was fantasize about other women. Fast-forward to break up:

Immediately after break up I start fucking everything I saw in front of me. Including a friend of 7 years whom I'd never "seen" that way, but now suddenly, magically, appeared beautiful beyond belief.

We have sex. Ex-girlfriend calls me. I tell new girlfriend that I'm going to ex-girlfriends house.

So, the same day I had sex with new girlfriend, I have sex with ex-girlfriend. Both of them with full knowledge of each other.

Key point: sex with ex-girlfriend was HOT beyond belief, for the simple reason that, for the first time in years, I saw her as a woman and not as a nagging wife. And that's how I had longed to see her all along...

 

As long as the fuckable girl keeps her mouth shut, she should be okay.

 

not always, may be true for you though.

if the person doesn't even start trying to put moves on it never gets weird. and sometimes people get over it anyway and move on to someone else.

 

That’s the spirit :cheers2:



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I want to see a girl as purely fuckable, but I feel too much emotion. My feelings move fast and I fall quick and desire a strong relationship.