Haven't had sex with GF in a month

We live together, I'm, 24 and she's 21. Our sex life used to be teeming with fire but now it's gone flat.

She's sexy as hell to me and we used to dress up and use toys and all of that but now it's been a month of nothing. She tells me she's been self conscious about her body and doesn't feel sexy. She also shys away from me if i start kissing on her or touching her by saying/ giggling "you're tickeling me" or "i'm getting goosebumps" and make a move away from me.

She's also not into giving my oral or interacting with my penis in general, unless we are having sex.

Our relationship is good otherwise. You could describe us as "great roommates" at the moment as there is little romance and sex.

I have to admit, i'm holding back on breaking this dry spell because I want her to show me affection and passion and such. I have told her that I want more affection and physicial attention from her and she took the request seriously and said she would. But doesn't.

Your thoughts?

 

when she walks in the door from work lay there naked on the couch with a hardon. she'll be on yoou in notime.

 

Been there, trouble ahead.

The honeymoon period is over. My guess is you have either hit the infamous 2 year mark, or have past it.

 

We are coming up on 2 years. Past girls friends have got through it just fine. It's only with her this time that it's gone flat.

We;ve talked about it, we know it's a problem. But our talks (very open and honest) never result in anything. She'll change subjects and leave things open ended, or she'll clam up, not say anything and it'll feel like I'm pressing he issue so I'll drop it.

 

either your not meeting her emotional need , and shes probly is having an emotional affair, that might go to a full one if you dont talk to her

 

I road that train for like 2 years man. Dont take it personally these things happen. Give the relationship all youve got and take whatever comes. If it doesnt work out just know you did what you can and move on. If youre not getting what you want from a relationship and, as you said, youve communicated that properly with no results it isnt worth too much more of your time.

 

I would have to say that a 'romantic spark' seems to be the main thing missing.




Do you still care for this girl, do you still want this girl, do you still desire this girl?
If so, show her.
If not, end it.

 

You two could go to a sex therapist. If not even that it really sounds like you two need some counseling. I've seen a lot of friend benefit from it. Sometimes its just nice to have a 3rd party to help out with the issues and tell you how you two can work out your differences.

Maybe she feels unattractive because you don't push for sex more. I don't really know but there is a huge issue and it doesn't seem to be about sex. Its about something else, ask her whats going on and why she isn't as into sex as you are anymore? Tell her you're crazy about her and want her really bad, if that doesn't work I don't know what will.

 

Well, I think I'm going to try the other end of the spectrum and see what happens. I'll pamper her and romanticize her the best i know how and see if that makes her feel wanted and sexy and such. Hopefully she'll return the gesture at some point!

 

Sounds like shes going elsewhere for it..

 

u should ask her if shes cheating on u and see how she responds...uve been with her for 2 years now so u should be able to tell when she lies and take it from there i guess

 

The 2 year mark? Lol are you serious? 2 years is nothing. The longest relationship i have been in was 10 years. Sure there is some ebb and flow but if youre doing the right thing there should be more flow
There could only be a few things going on here.

It doesn't sound like you've been fighting and or have hurt her emotionally so thats out..

One possibility is some sort of hormone fluctuations again doubtful.

The other two would be she's having an emotional and or physical affair.

I don't like to be so negative but sex is a big part of the deal for me and if i was with a guy and he just stopped wanting it i'd be thinking he was getting it elsewhere too. JMO

Either way you can't go on like this man you really need to resolve it one way or another. It's a horrible feeling knowing something is wrong but having the other person pretend it's all fine. Thats crazy making.

Good luck

 

Eh, I mostly agree.

The honeymoon period is an overrated phenomena - but it still can be a major factor in some relationships. And I didn't get out of said honeymoon period until at least three years. And my girlfriend doesn't seem to have experienced it at all