borderline personality disorder

has defined me in the last year or so. as pathetic as it is. since I found out I was diagnosed (which was kept from me until I read through my medical files when I turned 18) I've kind of embraced it for the better but also made it a sort of crutch, or burden, I don't know how to put it.

I saw a psychiatrist for the last time a few months ago and flipped out on him kinda, considering how it is so fucked up that I was diagnosed and prescribed prescription drugs for something that I didn't even know I had. He told me that it is believed that Kurt Cobain had bpd; like, is that supposed to make me feel better?? hahah wtf

Does anyone else have borderline? I do... and I wish I didn't.

 

Hey man, I don't have bpd, but I was in a bad car crash when I was 6 that caused a bad head injury and killed 2 friends. I was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety disorder at age 18. I'm now 36 and I still take meds everyday. Every few years I go to counciling in addition to the psyc and that helps. But "talk therapy" is only helpful if you like your councilor. Maybe you should find another one.

My message is: you can overcome. You can learn ways of changing your thought patterns and behavior loops. Probably some meds can help. This process is by no means easy - there will still be good and bad days. Good luck.

 

don't let the diagnosis get you down. At the end the day you work with what mind you have and it doesn't have to define you. I was recently diagnosis with bi-polar II disorder and I don't care what they call me I know who I am. On monday I was suicidal and today I'm very happy I take each day at a time rely on the few I have close when I need them and try to make everyone happier when I can. Sure I'm mild mood stabilizer but I want to be if it would actually make me feel more in control (my meds don't really work but I like working with myself).

It a weird system were a man/woman can find themselves diagnosis with a disease that has no cure. Instead they treat the symptoms of the "disorder" were it just means your mind is out of norm. Never crutch if you can we all got crosses to bear.

 

1. disturbances in and uncertainty about self-image, aims, and internal preferences (including sexual);
2. liability to become involved in intense and unstable relationships, often leading to emotional crisis;
3. excessive efforts to avoid abandonment;
4. recurrent threats or acts of self-harm;
5. chronic feelings of emptiness.


DOES THIS SOUND LIKE YOU?

Lol I wouldn't take what they diagnose you with too seriously. They observe behavior they deem problematic and apply it to a set of criteria to diagnose. If you're really 18 it's up to you to accept medication or not, or decide if you really have some sort of "mental issue". The criteria for BPD seems kinda vague at best. But if you are planning on suicide and threatening people to cut yourself if they don't shut up you might wanna get that looked into

 

My girlfriend has borderline personality disorder. I don't want to make you feel bad about your condition but I must admit that its a huge pain in the ass sometimes to deal with her.

She has abandonment and rejection issues. She perceives them when none is intended, and completely over reacts. She has low self esteem. She can be extremely unreasonable, has wild mood swings, has a very "black and white" attitude about things, and sometimes uses drastic manipulation to get her way (even as far as threatening suicide).

I have tried to break up with her a few times but I'm finding it extremely difficult to. She begs and pleads and promises things and clings to me.

Shes not taking any medication for it right now. I would reccommend taking medication if the doctor prescribes it. The silver lining is that the adverse effects of having borderline tend to be less extreme as time goes on.

Try not to feel too bad about this. Everyone has problems. I'm pretty sure I have an avoidance personality disorder. high five for personality disorders!

 

The effects of the borderline, depend on the borders you maintain.

 

How does it effect you?

 

i am so surprised that they diagnosed you with something that serious and gave you meds before you were even 18. I seriously question any counselor/therapist who would assign that diagnosis to a child and I question any psychiatrist who wold prescribe those meds to somebody still growing and changing. That being said........now that you know what you are diagnosed with do you honestly think it describes you? I think the problem with diagnosing teens is that during that period of time we are all insecure and dramatic and present focused.

Also, a lot of therapists will pass a dignosis on and years later people are still labeling you as one diagnosis and viewing you based on it without any type of re-evaluation. I know somebody (not code for "me" LOL) who went through a period of time in which they were extrmemly depressed, close to suicidal at times and had highs and lows. They were diagnosed as manic depressive (what we now call bipolar) and put on all types of meds for like 10 years. The doctors didnt take into account that mourning can create all of those reactions in anybody. This person had a history of abuse, had lot a best friend to AIDS and had a child living in another state with family. Who wouldnt be a mess after all of that?? Long story short....sorry.....their life was completley different and better 10 years later but therapists were passing on the diagnosis. Finally they were like fuck it and quit the meds. She's fine now and she doesnt have highs and lows like she did when she was ON the meds.

Now, my point isnt for you to say fuck it and stop you meds and all that. But you can get another opnion. Also if you are not on meds and you are stable and having no problems then see about going to a different psychiatrist and talk about transitioning off the meds.

 

There's supposed to be a THERAPY that WORKS for BPD (in other words, heals it). CrazyDreamer, I think you're right. There are a bunch of books about it, here's one: http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Workbook-Personality/dp/1572242760/ref=pd_bxgy_b_text_c"]Amazon.com: The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook: Practical Strategies for Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder (9781572242760): Randi Kreger, James Paul Shirley: Books I think my hubby has it.

 

:grouphug:

 

watch
Girl Interrupted
Good movie, she had it

 

Actually, studies show that therapy averages out to working just as often for many, many disorders as meds do. It just takes longer, often costs more and makes less money for centralized big business who can spend money on shaping public opinion. But it does tend to be a more permanent solution, and doesn't involve permanent addiction to psych meds, all the side effects, tolerance building, etc...

 

Not that surprising. Pretty common amongst the middle class actually. Hook em while they're young and you have a client for life...

 

Have you ever tried a DBT therapy group? I'm in one, it helps people with personality and some mood disorders. I'm bipolar I, and BPD has been thrown around with me a couple of times, but since I'm a minor, they won't diagnose me since my personality is "still developing".
DBT stands for Dialectal Behavior Therapy. It helps with interpersonal relationships, emotion regulation, and more. It's been so helpful for me, I would look into it!

 

Present-day psychiatry pretends to be so scientific and has pulled the wool over the eyes of the media, the public, the courts, and the welfare system. Psychiatry claims to be evidence-based medicine, but it really is the opposite. The American Psychiatric Association has come up with a checklist, and if you do not score well on that checklist, the APA deems you mentally ill (in this case "borderline"), deems you have a chemical imbalance in your brain, deems that your brain is not right . . . . and that your doctor can give you a magic pill that is perfectly matched to the specific type of messed up brain you have. Of course, APA's contentions do not come cloe to standing up under careful scrutiny.
If other people find you irritable, easily angered, unpredictable in mood, then admit that others' opinions might be legitimate. Then go about trying to adjust your behavior. Try to never act angry on the outside, even when you start to feel angry on the inside. Try to make your tone of voice respectful. Forgive. Help others. Make the world a better place. Exercise. Try any means (yoga, religion, spiritual beliefs) that will make you a meeker, humbler person. Accepting that you are able to grow and develop and change as a person is a heckuva lot better than taking harmful medications and believing that you have a messed-up brain. Good luck.

 

And about prescribing meds for people under 18 --
Pharmaceutical companies will do practically anything, even behave very unethically, in order to increase their sales and profits. Similarly, the more psychiatric-medication prescriptions that doctors and psychiatrists make, the greater the profit they make, and the greater the authority they seize in competing for patients.
Be very careful. Medicine and psychiatry want very much to expand the percentage of the public that is considered mentally ill, and they want the public to believe that patients must take meds and stay on the meds forever.

 

Man, that normal crap is so stupid. What IS normal? There is none! Nothing is truly normal and there is no way that anything can be normal.

Take pride in being yourself, man.

 

I was diagnosed and given meds when I was under 18 too. The meds were extremely strong and I felt like a zombie all day everyday. As soon as i turned 18 I threw that stuff out. Ur going to struggle with emotions a lot. One second I want to end my life and the other I'm the happiest person in the world. I find yoga and meditation to help me a lot. You can make peace with yourself. Therapy is another way. The only meds I myself will take would be an anxiety med because the other stuff is to much.

 

Are you suggesting that normal is merely someone whose good at hiding their disorder



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