With my crush. I like to look at pictures of him on my laptop. Sometimes I even fall asleep with my laptop on, on my bed and his picture still on the screen. I also think about him a lot. He's always on my mind. I think the reason I'm like this is becuase we aren't friends, so I fantasize(both sexually and non sexually). If I try talking to him, I'll know where I stand. I see him in college sometimes, and am going to start trying to talk to him, but I only have 12 chances left. But I'm scared that because of the way I am, things won't work out, or I won't see him to talk to him. And I'm not sure if talking to him/trying to become friends with him will help or make me worse. Help? Advice? Your opinions? Suggestions? Anything?
I was obsessed with a girl from the end of my senior year to the end of my first year of college. During most of this time this other, cooler, girl liked me the whole time and threw out tons of hints which I didn't notice. I did eventually go out with the girl that liked me...but it was after over a year. Some guys just won't understand you like them no matter how many hints you throw out. I think you just have to bite the bullet and put yourself out there and take the rejection if it comes. He doesn't seem to run in your circle anyway so it is no too bad. If he is in any of your classes you definitely should wait until the last class to try anything or else it will be realll awkward I know from experience.
I think about my crush EVERY-freakin'-Day as well. She has a boyfriend, though, I'm actually cool with that. I guess my case is different than yours because I'm actually friends with my crush...AND also with her boyfriend! LOL I'm happy for them, though. She's a great girl, and the dude is really cool, too. I may have a HUGE ASSED crush on her, but I'd hate to get in the way of their relationship. I just don't get to see her all the time anymore because I left my hometown a couple months ago and I don't know when I can return. So what sucks about this is that I really miss her, really miss hanging out with her, and hanging with her boyfriend too, for that matter... But that's really about it because she and I still talk on Facebook, and she keeps me in a positive mindset. As for what YOU could do about your own situation... Well, I tend to agree with Geprodis, you might just have to gather up the courage and start talking to him. Who knows what might come out of it? If everything goes well, then you two will be dating. If not then hey, shit happens. It's better to express your feelings and crush and burn knowing you've done all you could, than to be frustrated knowing you could do something about it but never did. You know?
i had a crush on this girl from work for a long time... and she liked me too,. but we weren't really friends. so one day i asked her out and she said she had a boyfriend but we could still be friends at work. my attitude was "yeah right..". and so i went on like nothign happened and we remained strangers. now i have a girlfriend and 6 months have gone by since that rejection. recently were were talking casually at work and i made a joke about customers to her and she reported me to the management. my boss was cool and thought the joke was funny and thought she over-reacted. now i know she's a cold bitch and i don't have a crush on her, but i'd definitely give her a good strong hate-fuck any day.
mmg - yea I know how you feel. This was back when I was in 7th grade, but still the same shit. I liked this girl from 4th grade up until 7th grade. I liked a few other girls too, but this girl was in 8th grade and she was sitting one seat away from me in computer class. There was another 8th grader sitting next to me and I was asking him a question about something and she took it the wrong way thinking I am just a clueless kid. She says "Oh you can tell he's a 7th grader, haha" and then she was like "oh I'm sorry". These are the kinds of people that make the good people shine brighter.
I really like some girl in one of my classes, but I am crap at reading the signs. I have sometimes caught her looking at me (At least I think shes looking at me) and vice versa. However, I am really shy and she is pretty quiet as well- I just freeze up if I get into a position where I talk to her and end up saying something stupid or I start mumbling. So maybe I am just deluding myself into thinking I have a chance (She is pretty damn attractive and wheres lots of sexy miniskirts and hotpants) or she does like me, but we are both to shy to do anything about it. Its made worse by the fact I don't really know or talk to any of her mates and I have never seen her outside school. I go to town a lot and when the booze is flowing I will talk to most people. I just need her to get her arse into town... My confidence around women has taken a beating in the past though. I am 18 and still a virgin (And hate myself for it). One day last year I was sitting in the pub with my mates and we saw some girl. She wasn't particularly attractive (Even with my beer goggles) but my mates got me talking to her and we ended up kissing and I got her number (She knew I was a virgin). So the next day she texted me, and then we got texting each other. I then asked if she wanted to go out (I had to summon a fair amount of courage to do even that). She never texted back. I tried again and still no reply. If I wasn't shy before getting rejected (By a girl who wasn't even that fit I should add) I certainly was afterwards....
Azog, you must be bold. Women respect boldness. When you talk to her show no fear. You are big fucking bear and she is just a little bunny! More than anything else just show total confidence and if she blows you off look at her like you are on a cruise ship leaving port and she is stuck on the mainland not going anywhere good. also...confidence does not mean cockiness. You don't have to be a jerk or rude to come off as confident.
sometimes its nice to like some one from afar, that way they can be how you want them to be in your head, but once you get to know them you find they are not so nice after all.
here Ill give you a tip. a crush is a waste of time. it's all imagination. either go and talk to the person despite how awkward you feel or don't waste your time thinking about them. cus what your thinking about that person could be far from reality or you could be correct. and if your correct and you never talked you wasted your chance. and if your wrong then whatever you just had an awkward moment forget about it and move on cus in reality what do you have to lose or whats gonna happen to you ? nothing. maybe just some embarrasment but eh screw it. you gotta take chances.
A long time ago I was really obsessed with a girl. I'd waste all my time thinking about her and didn't get round to asking her out, not long ago I bumped into a mate of hers and aparently she was in a similar situation, it turns out we were torturing ourselves with if's and but's when we should have taken some form of action. And now she's got a boyfriend so the only thing I can do is learn from this experience ☮☮☮☮ just a random bit of advice
