The only virgin....

-cue sad violin-
So I'm a seventeen year old Irish guy and to be honest I'm a bit of a nerd but not to a huge extent.
I've been hanging out with my curent friends for about three years. There is six of us, including me, and lately I've become the only virgin.
Shock, horror, a nerd who is a virgin?
Lol
But as my first post on these fine forums, how many people have been in similar situations?
Or are you all the Herculean sex gods you seem to be?

 

I think being a virgin is a great thing!

When you meet a lovely young lady and share your virginity with each other it will be the most beautiful thing!!

Don't rush things.

Your friends are probably talking shit.. they may still be virgins too. Apparently it's not cool to be a virgin, but sharing a once in a life time thing with someone who isn't all that special is.

Don't worry about it

 

Rule one is everyone lies.

Rule two is those who tell the truth do so half the time.

Honestly, sounding trite but you should not be too worried about that. I honestly think that being sexually active is a personal thing. There is no age, instead to be honest, I wish many would wait long enough to accept what goes along with that.

I do believe when you meet someone that you really want to be with, you will become a little bunny!

 

Thanks for the reassurence lol
I really need some.
But just the few days I've been a lurker on this forum have made me more open minded.
So I really just wanna get out there but....
I guess girls don't like kind gentlemen anymore.

 

Some girls don't like a guy who is too soft.. not a guy who is too nice. There is a difference. If the guys is more like the girlfriend thats when it's too much.

Just save yourself! Imagine meeting the girl of your dreams.. she tells you she is a virgin. You don't save yourself and she finds out you aren't a virgin. She decideds to go else where and not be interested because she has something special to give away and wants to share with someone who also has something special!


Save yourself for the right person.. You will only get one chance! There is no rush.

 

Haha thankfully I've been raised in a family not to be an asshole, and I'm not a whimp either lol
But my whole highschool is quite active, given that a lot probably lie, but I'm not sure which are the right girls anymore.
And from lurking I'm not going to be some kind of deviant, I'm just more curious now.

 

I though and was sure I would die a virgin.

Then at age 23 it happened-I feel in love and soon after I was no longer a virgin.
The most difficult part was getting past the peer pressure stage.
Don't worry about your friends, don't worry about anything.
It will happen when it's meant to happen.

Hang in there.

 

there are many people like u and 17 isnt age to be concerned with.

 

I am a Herculean sex God but I have not been with that many women...

In fact my Herculean sex abilities seem to keep them coming back and i'm to lazy to go out and chase women now.

 

The sentiments are well intended but there is alot wrong with this. First off many women confuse softness with niceness. I know I am certainly not soft but I know my niceness has been taken for granted more times than I care to count.

Some guys who aren't virgins can still play that game and tell the girl whatever they want to hear, so even if he maintains his virginity and waits for a girl he could still lose out. I mean the goal of many guys is to simply get laid. He should lose his virginity to the girl he wants to and not wait on her to decide. I'm not saying pressure her into sex or anything but when he's ready he should do what's right for him.

 

I lol'ed

 

It's true!!!

Gotta have that special thing! haha



With the soft guys and the nice guys.. it depends on the girl. Softness and nice can get mixed up all the time. The guy seems really nice. Then he gets all soppy. There needs to be some balance.

The girl could just want a bad boy.. everything goes great until the bad boy is being bad and sleeping with other women! Then the girls gets da herpz!!


Nice guys are great.. soft guys aren't for me. They want more cuddles.. They cry all the time..they refuse rough sex.. they are less of a man than Boy George. It just doesn't do it for me. But It doesn't mean to say they aren't nice.

It's tough to find a guy with a good balance.

Confidence, kind, strong in thought, not a man slut.

This is going a bit off topic. sorry

 

I don't think it really is I think like you mentioned earlier women just get confused easily. the average woman get so many more propositions than the average guy it's really easy to see why and I don't blame them. There is a reason they say for guys that they got 'lucky'. This could be a false generalization but I think alot of guys who are seriously strong in thought and smart tend to be more introverted and women usually fall for guys who have more of a extroverted friendly nature.

I think i've cried maybe twice in my 10 years of dating girls/women. Once was when my first high school girlfriend cheated on me and the other was after a kind of serious breakup. I get told i'm nice alot but the majority of women I date have the opposite complaint that I don't show enough emotion.

Unless you come wealthy your gender is hard to please.

To the op, teadaze is right somewhat in that you should try to show confidence and don't cry and whine about if things don't go your way, but I dunno sometimes it just takes experience to understand things because women can certainly be frustrating. I don't mean to sound like a dick but the nerd thing doesn't help. Contrary to what I was told to growing up women can be quite shallow just like men.

 

Being a nerd normally means they are smart and have a funny personality. A lot of sporty guys tend to love themselfs and love attention from chicks. I know that isn't what all guys into sports are like!! It's just an example.

 

Not to steal the Op's thread

but I love sports and I am quite athletic and reminded practically weekly that I'm not cool and a nerd where does that put me?

 

Haha Im sorry

I was more thinking of the american football guys you see on tv!!

You told him girls don't like nerds! Some hot chicks are nerds too ya know!

And I am into sports stuff too.. haha.. but also nerdy stuff.

I am just trying to make nerds look good

No offence!

 

I love kind gentlemen I didn't know any still existed until I met my friend with benefits. He's such a nice guy and it definitely gives me faith in men again. I hope I meet someone like him or the we end up dating.

 

Dave Chapelle: "People say chivalry is dead and they are right.....chivalry is dead....and women killed it"

 

I'm a nice guy and I would never refuse rough sex..


Wait, I lied..

I'm just another asshole.

 

first congrats on being a virgin, sometimes its hard to be, but stay strong, you will find the right one and being a kind guy is an awsome thing.... they are hard to find almost like Waldo, sometimes harder