I've only done it 10 times, but I kinda thought the pain would stop by now. Does it eventually? ...and do certain positions typically hurt more than others? I can't seem to find any pattern here to know what to expect. The first time (started in cowgirl - but hurt too much for me to move so went to kinda missionary - him kneeling off the couch with my legs wraped around his neck) the pain was unbelievable, ... I think having a baby with no pain killers hurt less to be honest despite him being slow and gentle, stoppping whenever I said, etc,... but to my surprise, despite that, I still had a truly incredible orgasm so was willing (despite my partner not wanting to do it again after seeing how much pain it caused me) to go back for more assuming I just needed to break through the pain barrier. I was very tender for a few days and bled slightly for 5-6 hours too btw. 2nd and 3rd time (doggy) was better but still very painful. No bleeding and pain subsided maybe 1/4 hour afterwards. I thought the fourth time (started reverse cowgirl) I had beaten the pain barrier when part way through it stopped hurting (after changing to doggy) and was just pure pleasure. I dont get it tho, coz once it stopped hurting I was loving it so much I was encouraging him to be rough, and ended up bleeding again. One would think if I was wanting it hard enough to cause that, then it should have been hurting me, ...but it wasn't. Go figure. 5th- (doggy) I was dissapointed to find it was back to hurting and I had not got through the pain barrier after all. :-( 6th-7th times (me on top - I prefer that coz I orgasm faster, more frequent and more intensly) I was going right off tap having multiple squirting orgasms. No bleeding, and initial pain only a few minutes. I am more hard, fast and rough on top too than he is when he is in control - yet I bled the time before these when not as rough. Huh? 8th time, (doggy) just back to mega ouch again, ... probably worse than any other time except the first. I still orgasmed multiple times, but it was getting to the point that I started thinking in my head I was going to have to ask him to stop. I kept trying to refrain from saying it coz I wont go back to vaginal or oral sex after anal for health reasons (and did not want him left hard up or with a hand job), and must admit to breathing a sigh of relief and thinking 'thank god' when I could tell he was about to cum. 9th time (doggy again) did not hurt at all, was just heavenly yum. 10th was yesterday. I started on top, but it hurt so much, I asked him to take over in doggy (since it had not hurt me like that last time) ... but that was agony too - so much so I did eventually ask him to stop this time. A few minutes later I went back to cowgirl, and it did not hurt at all - not even the initial penetration. Huh? It had just been agony a minute ago? I dont understand this all over the place biz, ... hurts one time, not the next, ... diff positions not seeming to make the difference, etc. We always make sure I have orgasmed by another means first to make sure I am relaxed and way in to it, ...so that does not seem like a factor. It makes no sense to me when all else is equal, ...but at the end of the day, what I am wanting to know is DOES IT STOP HURTING EVENTUALLY?, ... and if so, how much more of this up and down all over the place situation should I expect? I really love anal sex, ...or more so the mind blowing multiple orgasms I get from it, ... but never knowing if it will hurt or not each time is starting to make me hesitant about doing it. I thought I would have been past the pain by now. :-(
Hmmm.... not sure. The pain isnt there everytime so thats a plus. Everyone is different. My wife has loved it since day one with never any issues at all. I say keep going at just being gentle and careful. Your asshole will "learn" to behave!
As mentioned in another post, I have trained my anus to take up to a 8 inch cock with a 2 inch diameter without discomfort. Just get you an anal training kit from a sex toy vendor that has the different sizes of plugs, and plenty of lubricant such as Astroglide. Start with the smallest plug and put plenty of lubricant on it - the key to comfort is plenty of lubrication, both when training and having actual sex. I lie down kind of on my side over a towel with my legs spread open and resting on the bed when working. Begin pushing it in very slowly, and stop the moment you begin to feel pain. Go very, very slow when you do this, and you should feel your sphincter beginning to dilate. Relax as well as you can, and hold the plug there until the pain becomes more than you can tolerate. Then back the plug out and wait for the pain to subside, then repeat. Once you are able to put the plug all the way in, you may fell some pain the first time or two. When this happens, just remove the plug and repeat the process until you are able to leave the plug in (take your time, as this process may take several sessions). One you are comfortable with that first plug continuously in you, leave it in for at least 30 minutes during each session for the next two or three sessions. As you repeat this procedure ( at least one 30 minute session daily), your sphincter will be trained to dilate more and more as an object is inserted, and you can work your way up through the plug sizes. You can also get some different size life-like dildos and have some fun riding them as you are being trained. Best Regards, Wendy
It doesn't hurt for me anymore really. But I've had a lot of it I prefer doggy style for anal as it lets him get really deep in me and I like having his hands on my hips. It's also more comfortable I think.
You've mentioned pain and bleeding in the same post, which I find unsettling. if that is so, there is the possibility of internal damage and you should have it checked out as a matter of peace of mind. Any trace of blood during or after anal is bad news, and pain and blood is especially bad. How about a check out?
It took me LOTS of practice all by myself to be able to have anal without pain. Sometimes it still hurts, though, but not that much. I always have to start with the same position - standing up with my legs slightly spread apart and sticking my butt out -, but once I do that the missionary is the position that I feel more comfortable in and have more pleasure with.
I got fucked in the ass by a buisness partner a couple of years ago and it still fucking hurts. Just kidding. Peace Out, Rev J
I practice regular anal sex with my wonderful fiancee, and here is what we do: 1. If I need it, we use lube including: a. oil based vegie oil or any other oil without a condom, because we are faithful to one another. b. water based lube if we use a condom. You need to use a water based lube with a condom otherwise the condom can break down. c. cocoa butter sticks (you can discretely stick one up your butt and it warms as it lubes you inside your butt) be very careful, because it can get messy. c. pussy juice (straight from my vag) There is more, though. We do not always need to use lube, because we incorporate good, long foreplay that includes: 1. rim jobs (he licks my ass for a few minutes 2. lots of kissing and fondling of my clit and vag 3. comfortable positions (any of your favorite) 4. pillows I have also heard a guy talk about a dilator he uses with his wife. In addition: there are toys to help you get off quicker, which relaxes you quicker. I use dual penetration by sticking a vibrating Dolphin (brand name you can use a rabbit or any other vibrating dildo, too) I get in the doggy style position, stick the vibrating dildo up inside me, and he sticks his penis in my butt while I am vibrating inside my vag and vibing on my clit. I have had anal, vaginal, and simultaneously clitoral orgasms this way. I am also totally relaxed by the time he is up in me. You know, though, the greatest way to have anal is to do it with someone you truly love. Sometimes, we also get a little inebriated. I'll take a drink of something or smoke whatever (he does that mostly.) In this case, though, do not get stinking stoned or drunk. You won't feel anything then. If your man's penis is very large, which could be part of the problem if it isn't the lube issue, then you need to talk to an expert about specific positions that work. There was a movie called, "Kinsey" and in it, they discussed the large penis/small vagina issue. If you still have problems, keep talking to us, but you also might consider an expert like Tristan Taormino. She has books to read and a site: www.puckerup.com She talks about exercises and butt plugs and cool stuff. She also knows Violet Blue (porn that is sensitive to the exploitation issue.) By the way: I watch a lot of porn. I love having anal with JC while watching porn. You'd be surprised how much you can get off and relax while watching someone else doing it....someone else and someone else and someone else even. Also: try new things. You thought you wouldn't like bondage? Try it a step at a time. Some women actually have gotten to the point that they will strap one on and do their man. We aren't there, yet, but the point is: try lots of different things. Also: If you can go to Good Vibrations or call them, ask them for advice, as well. Good Luck, Redlotuspetal68
Nope, anal hurts forever. Soon your ass will probably fall off too, and a little monkey will crawl up inside thereafter He will then connect himself to your vital nerve endings, and start controlling you like a robot. Trust me, it's totally not worth it.
after one mounth from anal working with my wife + fingring with 3 and 4 fingers she is tottley ready to have rughe sex any time
No it’s the pain that just keeps giving; and a stark reminder that love can sometimes come at a steep price H
I find position makes a big difference. Traditional Doggy Style, for me, is practically impossible to make a penetration, and even when achieved, can really hurt. However, when in the Missionary Position, with knees hooked over the partner's shoulders, penetration can be made quite easily, smoothly & pleasurably, with little or no pain.
Thank you all very much for your answers (yer even the thread destroyer ass monkey stuff - it made me laugh) To answer/ clarify some points raised yes, we do use lube - and as in a monogomous relationship dont use condoms so usually use a silicone based one with jojoba (which is supposed to have relaxing properties) specifically marketed for anal. For the concerned poster, I would say exactly the same thing myself to another if they mentioned bleeding (so ty but the amount was light dilute spotting not noteworthy enough to think any major damage was done, (I bled more yesterday from just bumping a knife with my thumb when reaching past it) and to be honest even a finger is pretty darn tight there so I did not expect any different for the first time anyway. Actually, the first time (which was about as slow and lubed up as you can get) I am pretty sure I just tore the outer sphincter muscle a little, ... we both heard a 'ripping/ popping' sound and at the same time felt like it kinda gave way a bit allowing easier penetration. It hurt less once that happened anyway. If it was ever an excessive amount or for too prolonged a time period, then yes, I would definately heed your advice and get myself to a doctor incase. On the mention of size discrepancy, umm, yes, that is a bit of an issue even vaginally. Every guy I have been with has been surprised at how wet I can get and it can still take a bit for him to 'get in' properly. Let's just say I am on the petite side of things, and he is chunky in that dept, which is part of the reason why we make sure I have gotten off at least once (usually a few times tho) so I am relaxed and practically begging for it. Makes no diff to the initial pain however, but today I was kinda suprised everything fit coz he was going to town on me with a vibrator at the same time as having anal sex, and whilst I did have to really focus on not tensing up at the start (as you can tend to do in response to pain) I was able to just love it after a couple of mins and was pushing in to him. Bondage - god I wish lol. Tried it with him a few times but hmmpphhh he must just have a psychological block about that coz that is the only times he has ever got an instant soft on. No probs with the dress ups, dominance, rough play, anything like that but the second anyone is bound in anyway, it all goes to shit lol. Inebriated - no, dont think so, alcohol goes through me, so would not want to be doing that at the same time as anal lol. I personally would not be oposed to a toke tho, but my guy would not touch it - nor me if I had, .. so sober sex is really the only way anal will ever be happening. Thanks too for the opinions on positions. I have not tried missionary since the first time, but will do so next time and see how it goes. In all, I guess from responses I have concluded that for some people initial penetration just does hurt and as long as it is fleeting I'm guess I am prepared to cop it for the pleasure that comes once beyond it. Thank You All
It's true for some women the initial penetration always hurts even though they enjoy anal and do it often. Conversely, the initial penetration is one of the best feelings ever for the guy, the feeling of opening up a girls ass with your penis is unbelievable. I was addicted from the very first dip. My wife says the initial penetration hurts her ass if we do a second round of anal in the same day. But she says she now gets pleasure from the initial pain because she knows orgasms will soon follow. The initial penetration of anal sex is kinda like giving a woman a spanking but with your dick and her anus instead of her cheek and your hand. My wife also likes when I spread her ass an go as deep as I can, this also hurts her as well but she enjoys it very much. Sounds like you have a good man because he wanted to stop because it was hurting you, but it was so sexy for you to say fuck that I don't care if it hurts, your dick is getting pleasured by this ass. I love a down ass chick like that, definite wifey material. Keep letting him split that ass open, it'll get better. Never heard of a girl that had her man cheat on her after bare back anal, it's just too rare. Ace p.s. If he eats your ass before penetration it will reduce or eliminate the pain also if you push out with your anus like you are trying to pass gas when he's penetrating it will help to open up your anus to accept his penis. Sounds counter intuitive but pushing out opens up your anus.
the 9th time - no hurt, it was yummy. To me that suggests that physically, you're quite okay - I wonder if it's a mental thing, wher you're almost living a self-fulfilling prophecy....... "It's anal, it will hurt." It doesn't matter how much you consciously want to share your body with your partner - somewhere a little sub-conscious demon is tensing you up inside and it hurts. You've been given some great preparation hints - my suggestion is try to reproduce the conditions - physical and mental of that "yummy 9th time." Just don't give in to that little demon just yet!
Anal doesn't hurt. If it hurts, something is getting done wrong. I've been fucked in the ass heels of times, I have been the sissyboy in a gangbang with 5 trannies, and had double anal (and love it) many times. Anal is great
