I really would like opinions on this both from males and females. I'm not nutty but it seems most on this forum are younger and I am 42, but anyway here are some details I would like to relate abouut my wife. After reading the entire post, let me know your thoughts, as younger people today seem to be very well-versed in sex and sexual experiences and situations. Women (girls) since this is about my wife, I hope you'll give our opinions as well. Well here goes: My wife and I met while we were both already married (we had an affair), we both got divorced, lived together several years, been married 7 years, have two children. We never plan to divorce, love each other, great sex life (toys, clubs, fantasies). She truely is my soul-mate and I love her more than anything. She has never discussed her sexual past except briefly, but has always wanted to know the details of my past. This I always felt was unfair in that she wanted to know everything about who, what, when, where etc. but never wanted to share hers except in miniscule vague detail. Even after many years together, she still will not talk about it other than what I am writing here and if the subject comes up (which it hasn't from me in a long time) she gets very angry. Usually, the only time this happens is when perhaps we argue, and she brings it up first, naturally I retaliate. Here is what I know about her past sexual experiences in short: 1) She says her first boyfriend was when she was 13, he was married and in his mid 30's. His wife was frequently away from the home and she used to meet him, go to his place and talk. She says the most she ever did was kiss him and eventually he taught her to masturbate, but she did not reciporcate. She also said recently (not in an argument) that quote "I loved that guy". Her parents did not know about this relationship. I think there was some sort of dominance or abuse here, but don't know. She says kissing and self-masturbation was all she ever did with him. Does this sound believeable? 2) Got caught masturbating by her mom at 14 or so. 3) Met Boyfriend #2 when she was about 14/15. Said he was 4 years older. Said she never screwed him (she says she was still a virgin) but tried once. She said he only got the tip in as he couldn't get it inside as she was too tight and he was very big. She said he pulled it out and they stopped and that he just masturbated and came on her chest and they never tried it again. Not so sure I belive that one! 3) During this period, she was staying out late and not obeying her parents, so they put her on birth control. She says she was still a virgin, but parents were scared she would get pregnant because she was rebellious. She says they sent her to an GYN for her first PAP smear or perhaps check up and the Dr. shoved his (she says hand) (probably an exxageration) inside her. Perhaps this is how Doctors check for virginity but I don't know. 4) Met boyfriend #3 who was a friend of boyfriend #2. Married him at 16. Stayed married until she met me 5 years later. She also said BF #2 sent a letter to her then husband or fiance claiming he had screwed her. Husband was furious with her and never ever believed she was a virgin when they married after he recieved that letter. 5) Last week she admitted that there was another one-time encounter with a woman. The woman was a friend of her parents and 10 years older than my now wife. My wife was 15 at the time. She said she went down on the other woman but there was no reciporcation. This morning she told me (I didn't ask) that it was actually a quasi-threesome, in that the woman's husband was there as well. She said the husband never touched her and that it was just the husband and wife "making out" while she went down on the wife and that she never even removed her own clothing. So, in short she has always claimed to me she was a virgin when she married. She also for years insisted she had never given oral to another guy until me, although, after we were married several years she admitted that she had "Occasionally" done oral to her first husband, but she never let him cum in her mouth. I always figured she had, and really didn't care one way or the other, but I didn't like being mislead for years especially after she had pummeled me with details of my past. Last two points: One night while giving me head she said, "I want you to cum in my mouth, as I've never done it before". I did, but there wasn't the typical reaction one might expect, such as gagging, "uuuhhh" etc. She simply got up, went to the bathroom, spit, and brushed her teeth. She has done the "cum in my mouth" only a handful of times (perhaps 5 or 6) in the years we have been married until last month. The last issue is when we did anal the first time, which she says she had never done before either. I used a little lube, it went it rather easily but tightly, she gave a couple of "awes" and we did it. There were never any screams or "I can't take it" stuff during the event. Afterwards, she said it was Ok. Since then we have done it perhaps 3 times, but not often again until recently. In any case, does this sound like someone who has never experienced anal? Now, the latest as of last month. Recently we had discussed swinging. It was brought up in a general conversation, initiated by her. We haven't yet, but in the past month, she has given me a Blowjob every Friday night and let me come in her mouth every time. Before she would rarely ever even blow me, or if she did it wasn't much good. Well, I am not a pre-mature ejaculator but God she can make me cum in between 3-5 minutes. She even gave me a blowjob in our garage the other night and let me cum in he rmouth. She I have discoveredis very orally talented, not the "I don't really know how" girl she pretended for whatever reason all these years. I can't imagine she just figured it out overnight. In addition, last Saturday night, she asked me to "put it in my butt." One last point, we saw online a sexual survey the other day and one of the statistics was that many H.S. girls prefer anal over vagianl sex as they can "preserve" their virginity and not have to worry about getting pregnant. As we saw it together, I made a comment like "Wow, can you belive that" and her response was "Well, I can understand that, no need to worry about getting pregnant and you can keep it intact."I thought that was sort of an unusual opinion from someone who claims to be so innocent. We didn't start out in a proper way (the affair) and when we met I told her I had only been with three (3) women previously and she said she had been with two (2) men. Years later she 'fessed up about BF #2. It seems it comes in dribs and drabbels with her. I think she did not want me to think of her as a "slut" or something, hence the secrecy and the distortions. So what do you all think about her experiences from what I have recounted? Much more experienced than she let on or am I assuming too much? Wouldn't even post it here but she will not discuss these things generally. Perhaps she is ashamed of her past, or guilty about certain things, or perhaps she thinks I would think of her as "loose" or "trashy". It would not bother me in the least, (might even turn me on) even if she had been with lots of guys or had tried anal, BJ, etc with ex BF's. Just want to know what you all think! Thanks for your opinions in advance and I really hope some women will lend their insight, but all are welcome.
Amazing. Your first thread, yet you managed to post probably the lenghtiest post ever Oh, and answering your question: yeah, she seems to be REALLY inexperienced... Practically a virgin, I'd say
I don't know if it is the longest ever, as I am new here too. Long isn't the problem though. In any case, sorry I am a male, perhaps you need a female to answer, but "YES" she has plenty of experience, probably oral, anal, and bi. One time stuff I don't think so.....enjoy it, dude. Anyway, virgin? Hell, no!
I'm a female. I don't think she was a virgin with her ex. I think she has done a lot more as a youth than she wants to reveal. Probably because she want's to be innocent and what guy doesn't want to fuck a nice innocent virgin!? I think she told her ex she was a virgin and wasn't.. just like her ex before him told him he had fucked her. She knows telling a guy she was having sex at 13-14 isn't a turn on. She is probably ashamed and regrets the things she has done. She just wants to come across as a nice girl and not a slut. I wouldn't be too worried about it though. If she is lying she is doing so because she wants you to want/like her more. What is done is done! People make mistakes when they are young. They are easily led. She can keep it a secret and feel better about herself and forget it happened! As with the whole oral sex thing. Some women can just be good. It doesn't take a scientist to figure out what would feel good. And the arse sex.. She could have been sticking objects in their as a youth and liked it long before she met you. Maybe she was used to the pain.. maybe she doesn't mind the pain.. or maybe it just didn't hurt! Sounds like she has had the butt sex before though.. saying the stuff about not getting pregnant. But if she had butt sex to save her virginity then she probably would have been a virgin when she was with her ex! So it's one or the other. Or non.. or both. This is just my opinion though. Good luck! and don't worry about it.
Well im a female too, that was too long. and why are you so hung up on her past, your 42, so what diifference does it make at this point, does she make you happy, if so let it go..
Maybe she is afraid to tell you everything because how her ex husband reacted. Its still sex even if he only penetrated her with the head of his penis. Honestly if what you are telling me is accurate it doesn't sound like she is being honest. Maybe you two could go see a therapist about this and see if it can help her be more honest. Also I'm pretty inexperienced in giving bjs but I still get told I'm awesome at it. Maybe she read a lot of tips about it, thats what I did.
Dude I've said it once I've said it a million times. It isn't the first time that counts it's the last time. Maybe she got Gangbanged by the footballteam in the afternoon and the track team in the evening it doesn't matter. Are you getting some? Good. Is it satisfying? Good. At your age you should be beyond all of the stupid bullshit. Peace Out, Rev J
If she just turned 40 then shes just now hitting her sexual prime ( the way you felt about sex at 16 ) that explains the change in sexual desire. However if she isn't being honest with you ( she's not ) then there's a problem and you should watch your back. I hear STD's suck!
If she is 45 and her first name starts with a K, run away as fast as you can!!! Otherwise, take the Reverands advice. And the others have made good points as well, btw.
^Yes, and if she doesn't answer your questions, wait until she falls asleep and then ask her your questions, softly. It works. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HwT9ltDBG14"]YouTube- The Romantics - Talking In Your Sleep
yes! or if you're really psychotic go out of your way and get some of this http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truth_drug "And, most important, a person has no recollection of having the 'heart-to-heart talk'.. and felt afterwards as if they suddenly fell asleep."
i don't understand why you think you need to know everything about her past, did you ever think it's none of your business ........
1- does it really matter? so what if you dont everything. it's all in the past. plus women are taught to never reveal their sexual history to a man. 2- i don't think it was odd for her to understand the anal thing. it makes sense. maybe she has been getting sex tips. maybe she just hit her sexual prime. who knows? 3- maybe something horrible and traumatic happened. if she was 13 with a 30 year-old, thats obviously molestation. he could have fucked her up really badly, and she may have become promiscuous after that as a means of controlling her sexuality rather than having it forced upon her. then in being ashamed of her promiscuity, she may have repressed the memories. maybe she is just now beginning to feel comfortable with sex. who knows? 4- there may be any number of reasons, but from the fact that she was 13 with a 30 year old my advice is dont press it cuz you could just be opening a can of worms. maybe she CANT talk about it. just dont press her.
