Hi all I'm 30, male. I'm not comfortable with having and using my penis. I do not enjoy regular penetrative sex with girls. I definitely do fancy girls, and do not really fancy men. I find the female form attractive; the breasts, face, soft skin, hair, legs, but not the vagina. I really enjoy foreplay with a girl - but when it comes to full penetration, I really do not get anything out of the experience. I find the male groin attractive and fantasize about being penetrated. I do not like a mans muscles or beard, or strong features of men, or the deep voice. I Just find the bulge of the penis sexy and want to be penetrated. It does feel like I would feel more comfortable if I had a vagina. I like my male body - I'm quite atheletic and aggressive and enjoy working out and martial arts. But I don't like my male genitals. It feels like I would be comfortable with a mans body- toned and atheletic, but without the body hair I currently have and with a vagina. I already have female hips. It seems like I just need to get rid of my body hair and change my genitals. It also feels like I would really enjoy a girlfriend who had a penis. Does anyone have any advice? I don't really want to change my physique so hormones might be bad. I'm pretty confused...
Wow, totally out of my realm. IDK, Possibly out of anybody's realm of experience. Sounds like a real quandary, uneasy to solve. Not like you want a sex change - you like being male, somewhat. Can you settle for anal penetration to satisfy that bottom part of you? I would think you could get a trans who opts not to get the surgery, and who could still get it up to penetrate a guy. I know they are usually all female except for the remaining male parts. Talked to one at the nude beach (very brave to let it all hang out like that) and she said she kept her male parts because she doesn't want to give up the feelings which get lost in sex-change operations. Anyhow, hope you find some way to get out of your dilemma. I haven't a clue but wish you well in your search.
Hmm. Yeah, I also have to ask if you're satisfied with being penetrated anally. No need to mess around with your genitals if you are. That's extreme, and an ordeal. But it sounds like what you want in a partner is a chick with a dick. And they exist. Male-to-female transgenders who have a feminine personality and appearance, and have had some work done but left their penis alone.
Hi Shale - yes I do like being male and I also have a very strong feminine side. I have never been into make-up, but I do remember wanting to wear girls clothes when I was a boy and trying on my sister and mothers underwear, tights and leotards. Right now - if I look in the mirror and put it all between my legs it looks good to me. One thing I will say is that I HAVE enjoyed hetrosexual sex in the past, contrary to what I posted originally. Regular sex with a girl. But I didn't feel any love from it. Just lust. Not sure if that's relevant. We were only together for a week or two, and the relationship was based almost entirely on lust from my perspective. Not healthy from my point of view. Other feelings/memories are there I just can't remember them at the moment. I can post back when they come to me. I have never experienced anal penetration with another person. I do often penetrate my anus with an object or my fingers when on my own and find it very enjoyable. I do sense that it would be a different feeling all together to have a vagina and be penetrated that way. Perhaps less painful. But I will never know unless I try it...But do I want to go down that route?? Possibly not! The reality of that decision seems beyond me. Maybe something I shouldn't look any closer at. A trans with male parts seems like a nice idea. I should get in with the gay scene and make friends that way.
Hi AvatarMN I think you nailed it - Male-to-female transgenders who have a feminine personality and appearance, and have had some work done but left their penis alone. My concern here is that I feel like I should have the female role in bed. I haven't really thought about what other roles in a relationship I feel comfortable in...but maybe I want to be the girl in other aspects too. But definitely I like being male in my life in general. I think that's the confusing part for me. When it comes to sex, I just don't feel like I should be penetrating someone. It just doesn't feel right. It feels like I should have my legs open, and have someone inside of me. It seems like an emotional thing. Perhaps. Do I lust after someone being inside of me? Or do I truly want it to feel love? I think the latter. The reason I think so is because I would NOT want to be unfaithful if I found that pleasure in one person. Whereas at the moment, being unfaithful is a way for me to get satisfaction out of sex.
hi Hip person this is actully my very first post on this site.im kind of nervus, but i can relate to what you are saying. im soon 26 and born a women fysically im still one and having lots of doubt over all this. wheather i should take hormones ore if im really transgender or if it just a very long fase in my life, but my point is i get it. sens im born whit female genitals and breast i should liike female sex, ore want sex in a females point of view. but i don`t, I really don`t want ANYONE tuching ore even seeing that part of me its just not right. i dont want to be penetrated in the females parts but i could actully consider other place IF i where equipped whit a male sex instead.and like you i can find a kind of sexuall relese in it but its not really right. its just wrong to me to have something there even if its stimulating. its not that i don`t find my body attractive i do. but not on me. i geuss you still like the rest of it and thats where we are diffrent. but maby if you could have a vigania and still keep all the rest? i think like that sometimes.is it something like that? anyway i hope you can understand what im trying to say. and i agree whit the ppl earlyer you really should look for someone who is not planing to finish there transformation. maby you could find some answers that way?
