Biggest problem with the average relationship

Is it just me, or do most relationships seem to have the same problem? No, it's not just a lack of communication - it's a total lack of companionship.

People get into relationships and then act like every day selfish independent beings - and I don't get it.

You should only get in a relationship if you want a companion - if you are in a relationship you should work to keep up the comradery - if you just want pleasure, maybe you should be hooking up instead.

Is it really that complex?

 

you're not the only one out there.
gotta admit it's happening a lot those days and well, that sucks big time!
it only makes a person feel so useless towards the other person, know what i mean!
seems like people forgot what's love and care nowadays !
this is gettin like too damn ridiculous !
instead of showing how independent they are, they should try communicating more, sharing thoughts and stuff.

 

I agree- I think people are often confused by what they actually want. I have first-hand experience when it comes to selfish beings. It's sad.

 

you can have a companion and still live your own life at the same time...

 

The thing is people have such a hard time trusting each other they always feel the urge to show the other part they don't need her/him, and instead of working towards bulilding a solid relationship they actually build barriers to it.

Another thing that bugs me is that people keep on looking for a partner when they already have one, has if the current one is just some kind of Plan B. Damn it! If your potential partner is not enough for you and doesn't meet your needs and parameters then don't beging anything in the first place. It's that simple. Isn't it?!

 

Yep it is that simple!

 

this.

 

I don't know what average relationship, you're talking about. I also don't know what "relationship" means.

If what you mean is what other people have meant in my life in the past: co-dependent, possessive relationships under the rubric of unselfishness,,,

Then it would appear to me relationships don't work because people aren't liable to be owned, and they cannot fulfill anyone's life entirely on their own. They are not articles of convenience (like things).

I've just had another experience with someone who basically wants a vow of sexual commitment from me before we even kiss, and, even though we're insanely attracted to each other...it's not going forward.

I get this repeatedly, so that's my idea of what the "average" problem in "relationships" is, and why I choose not to have them.

Edit: I also think the cause of co-dependency in affectionate relationships is a direct outcome of class co-dependency. Many people appear to seek partners which will give them class mobility (under the rubric of "love"), and there it starts...

 

I look at it as an issue of complacency.

People get comfortable in their relationship and start taking things for granted.

 

I JUST LOVE THIS THREAD! :rofl:

whine! whine! whine! this thread should be in the whiners sub-forum..."endless whining about nothing!" yeah, that is what this thread is all about!:smilielol5:

you youngster hippies, need to ask us old fart hippies, about this type of shit in relationships.
i guess, in a way, we old farts dropped the ball with you youngsters.:banghead:

ok, you young hippies, go to this website. the link is given below.
don't just read the gestalt prayer. ABSORD IT!
hopefully, by the time you all turn 30 years old, you will really understand it. i only really understood it when i was 29.
since becomming enlighten at age 29 to the gestalt prayer IN IT'S WHOLE FORM!
my relationships have become one super hell of a lot smoother!
it is just way, way, way, too sad that the majority of people never reach that level of understanding!
the world would be a far, far, far, better place if the did though!:sad:


www.sapphyr.net/largegems/gestaltprayer.htm

 

Get off your high horse, BlackCat.

You are a grizzled old sage. Let me bow down! You're infinite wisdom has served you well in the emoticon department.

 

:cheers2:

 

:iagree:

 

This.

 

Blackcat666

Thank you for posting that prayer, it is lovely and I am keeping it.

It does rather sum it all up nicely.

 

/endaudience

So, I need the Gestalt Prayer because I disagree with people on relationships, yet you laugh at us and say we're whining - and you 'really understand' it? I'm still gonna be me, so exactly what was that outburst about?

I think I've really got it.

That prayer is as much a fairy tale as everybody holding hands and getting along. Disagreement is a necessary part of human society - a check for balance.