Need some advice about anal please

Hi guys, I am some what new to the forums here, though i have read a lot of posts on here before signing up.

Any ways i would apreciate any one who can help me with some advice. Well first i am a male, and i enjoy giving anal sex very much. While my girlfriend will let me have anal sex with her from time to time and she does enjoy it, i have made her cum during anal before. But she doesnt really let me have anal with her all that often, i am lucky if i can get once every few months.

So do you guys know any way i can get her to want anal sex more often? i know she really enjoys when we do get to do it, i just cant figure out why she wont let it be on a more regular basis. last year i remember at one time we had anal about a good 5 times that month, i was pretty surprised and very happy, after that though it went some time before we did any anal again.

Sorry if this is so long, i have a habbit of rambling on >_> im just trying to provide enough information.

 

Just ask her, dude.

 

maybe she doesn't want a loose ass?
also, if it's awesome.. maybe she wants to keep it that way.. and not wear it out ya know? keep it special?

 

maybe its not really so awesome for her?

 

maybe anal is icky? and unsatisfying to her? think about it dude. She poops from that hole.

 

I agree with what dastud said, you have to ask her. Closed mouths do not get fed bro. Maybe she feels anal every few months is all that you really want.

You just need to be honest with her and let her know how much pleasure anal gives you and that you wish to do it more. Relationships are all about communication and compromise. You will have to compromise with her as to the frequency though, you will need to find a happy medium.

Also, it's a myth that anal will make your woman's ass loose. I have been having anal with my wife going on 9 years and her ass is still VERY tight and we have anal about 1-2X a week.

As long as it's not painful it means you are not doing damage to her sphincter.

Here is a simple equation:

anal sex + pain= prolapse

anal sex - pain= pleasure

As long as you're not hurting your woman's ass, you should not have to worry about problems with incontinence or prolapse.

In my opinion Tsukiko_777 anal is not icky if you clean up before. I mean yes shit does come out the ass but we have to remember once a month your uterus sloths off and falls out your vagina in a bloody show which is equally disgusting IMO, but it's part of nature. Most people find blood and shit equally disgusting. I have seen people pass out from seeing blood but never really seen anyone pass out from seeing some shit.

Just my .02 cents.

 

well you see the thing is that we have talked and she knows how much i like anal. and she her self has told me she likes it too, also her ass is usually very clean though at times she has worried about poop in there. I always let her know that it was all ok and nothing disgusting was in there. She doesn't give me any particular reason for not doing it more often. I'm always gentle with her and take the time to prepare her hole when ever we do anal.

and I'm just wondering, is it possible to have her want anal by playing with her butt hole by like licking it and teasing it with the finger? or does a woman have to already crave it to want it?

 

sometimes she might not be able to have anal with you because she's got a big turd on deck right where your dick would go, but she doesn't want to mention it as it's kind of an unsexy thought. Think about it........if you were gay and enjoyed recieving anal, you'd know there were times when it just wouldnt be possible due to having a turtlehead about to poke out.

 

prude logic.....

buddy op....buy some expensive lubricant

 

Or respect her wishes and not try and force into something she doesn't really want to do

 

well im guessing its coz shes paranoid about the poop thing- thats a real anxiety fuelled thought- so long as she knows if she needs to crap- thats the wrong time to do it- you are more likely to end up with a poop disaster- the best time to do it is like 3-4 hours after a crap everythings clean and you wont be pushing against the nasty. this info is directly from a very helpful gay friend of mine haha- but yeah either that or shes lying about how much she likes it to make you happy. orrrr- she doesnt want you to get all obsessed and forget about the main hole
deffinately talk it out- make it casual- she'll open up better that way hopefully

 

ALSO its and asshole. theres gonna be shit from time to time- its just one of those things you HAVE to deal with- or she has to deal with- it happens if you stick something in your poo pipe= so let it be if it happens. otherwise- theres the vuh jay jay dig?

 

My wife loves anal sex, and tells me she likes it and wants it for three reasons. One because the trust it takes, two the pleasure I get and finally the care I give her when I do get it.. so us that as a start, and honesty is honest! She's already giving it to you, just ask, she may want it more but is afraid of being perceived as "trashy etc" you two will work it out!

 

You know what happens when you assume, you make an ass out of you and me.

You are assuming she is not into the idea of more frequent anal. Unless you developed some Jedi powers we don't know about, the only way to truly know is to ask her, period end paragraph!

Now if she said she only wants to do it every few months or so and he pushes the issue, then I would consider that force or disrespect.

In my case with my wife we use to have anal once a month or less. Then I decided to ask her why? She said because she didn't want to seem like a freak or weird for liking it too much, she felt ashamed to ask me to do it more often, just like she used to be too embarrassed to ask me to eat her ass.

On the other end of the spectrum, in a previous relationship I was in the exact same scenario, when I asked, she said she was lazy and did not like the hassle of having to clean her ass unless she was REALLY horny for it. She liked sex to be spontaneous, and it's kinda hard to do that with anal. I respected her wishes, and we only did it every now and then.

Closed mouths don't get fed bro, I'd HIGHLY recommend you ask, you could be missing out on the extra anal you want.

 

Maybe she doesn't actually like it lol

 

I agree. If it's too hot for you, stay out of the kitchen.

I have been having anal for a LONG time, I have rarely gotten fecal matter on my member. Even when it was dirty, it was only a little piece or a small smear. But if it does happen, DON'T FREAK OUT even if it grosses you out! Just go wash your dick, the last thing you want to do is to make your women self conscious about it, that would mean less anal because now she's more conscientious about it. If you are paranoid about it use condoms for easy clean up, but you won't get to feel that sensation of that tight ass on your bare penis.

One time with the wife things got a little messy. She was SUPER embarrassed! I stayed very very calm and told her it was not a problem. I told her it's worth the risk of getting a little dirty to get a piece of her beautiful ass.

If you are going to put it in the butt you have to wrap your head around the possibility you might get shit on you, just like if you get into boxing you have to expect you might get knocked out even if it's undesirable.

 

feces is stored in the colon not the rectum, so unless she's stupid and really needs to go to the bathroom and doesn't there's very, very little chance of ever getting any on you..

Love
sidney

 

I agree, feces is not stored in the rectum until you are ready for a bowel movement, but there can still be residual pieces in there.

I think those residual pieces can cause small messes from time to time.

My wire doesn't like enemas so we just do it after she has a good solid BM and a shower.

 

She can use a shower wand..

 

make your girl lie on her belly and give her ass a good licking while fingering her asshole;that should get her in the mood