I've got a friend who I used to date, who's also a coworker. We had something of a secret relationship -- everyone at work generally had figured out we fancied each other, but didn't know that something was going on. Didn't last too long before we got bored and left. But I've been hanging out with him more again recently, and I think we're both in the mood for some free lovin'. I'm not sure, though. I don't know if I want this guy to be a friend, which he's pretty good as (we spent a couple hours the other day just dancing in his car to Sly and the Family Stone and making up a language based on "wheee"), or a friend who I just happen to mess around with. I don't know how or if it would change the friendship we have right now, or if it would affect working in a way it didn't before. Anyone ever been in my pickle before? Any suggestions?
Well you fancy him, that is for sure. No one would "wheee" about with a guy, dancing in a car (?) to the thythims of Sly and the Family Stone, and then casually mention it in a forum, without the basic click that you seem to have with him. :sunglasse I'd say "Go get him" my friend. All relationships start with a basic friendship such as you have. The proof of the pudding is in the eating, notwithstanding him being a co-worker or not.
Yes, go for it, but don't assume that it will be anything more than some fun times and good rolls in the sack... as in don't build up your hopes, just go with the flow Good luck
Yeah, that's the thing.....I really don't want a relationship. I want good times in and out of the sack, but last time we were together, it sort of got all twisted into this relationshippy mess, and that's a lot of the reason it didn't work out for me. He's also said he's done with relationships at the moment, so I think I could have my little arrangement. I just worry that good times IN bed will spoil the good ones we currently have OUT of it.
Haha you know, when you sorta just groove in your seat. And people who pass you on the road sorta give you a dirty look.
From my personal experience, once you start sleeping with a "friend," you either become his girlfriend or his slut.
Some people have fuck buddies. Nothing wrong with that if you can keep from becoming his girlfriend and if you aren't his boss or he isn't yours. I had a twenty year fuck buddy. She was married, and we liked each other but knew that sex was what it was all about. I too was married and it caused no problems at all since we were very discreet. You have to be emotionally secure if you choose to have a fuck buddy relationship. But if you do, go for it. Sex is a great activity, better than sports and eating, which are right up there. By the way we taught each other more about sex than an average person could learn in a long, long life of conventional relationships. Best of all we limited our fucking to our spouses and each other. Thus, no problems of STD.
