To me it's seeing the underlying oneness in everyone and everything around you. Seeing it directly, and not metaphorically. Cause it's a really cute and poetic sounding thing to say that it's "all one" but to see it to the best of my abilities in any given moment is what it's all about. Even though there's not really any "ability" required. To truley see that there really is no "other" is what Love means to me. What does it mean to you?
When you care about someone so much that you would go across the world just to get them their favorite ice cream When you feel like you can totally be yourself around them, even more so then when you are by yourself. When you are hurting or stressed out and the thought of that person makes all the pain subside. When you trust someone so much that you would put the life of yourself and everyone else close to you in your lovers care and not sweat one bead. When even after years of companionship you miss your love as soon as they walk out the door. When you can look away from all of your lovers faults even in times of great relationship distress. When you could spend hours touching your partner just to please them and you yourself actually get more pleasure from the interaction. just a few thoughts of the top of my head but who am i to say what real love is i haven't been in love since highschool and im 21 now.
And to elaborate, i want to just give a break down of my life just so you guys can get a sense of where i am coming from. And please don't be an ass just for the sake of being one. I'm just seeking some advice. My dilemma regards the fact that it's all actually One thing, one awareness. And when i make eye contact with all different types of girls throughout my daily life and i get this intense and ecstatic experience of no-self with them and it's just so blissful and pure and i would even use the word Sacred. But suddenly there's this whole thing called "relationships", and for no reason i'm supposed to stay away from certain girls simply because they have a boyfriend. And i do stay away. But it's like, that connection is so pure, it's not simply just some sexual desire. It's just like pure Oneness. And to me that's what true Love is. It stands completely on its own. It's completely causeless and just Is. But then i have all these social barriers surrounding me, and if it wasn't for society telling me that it's wrong to kiss or to have sex with another girl simply because she has a boyfriend i would totally do it, regardless of whether she has a boyfriend or not. Because in that moment of connectedness it has nothing to do with her boyfriend, just in the same way that when they have a moment of connectedness it has absolutely nothing to do with me. They're just their own thing. Unfortunately, i don't really have any friends right now that are down for Polyamory as far as i am aware. Maybe that's something i need to start working on. You know, cause as cliche as it sounds, but in the 60s in San Francisco it seems like there wasn't any such thing as cheating on your boyfriend or girlfriend or anything like that. But Shale, if you read this, correct me if i'm wrong on that. Maybe i just need a girlfriend. But it's like, every human being has an infinite universe within them. So why would i only limit myself to just one of them? And please, if you're gonna be an asshole in your response, it better be for a really good reason. I'm just honestly seeking some legit and non-prick-esque advice.
When one person sits on the toilet, whilst the other uses the shower- you have then, and only then, established true love Otherwise, true love to me and always has been when you find it generally difficult to function properly without your partner in crime. Things become a chore alone, things which would always have been easy. The other person literally becomes entwined into your livelihood.
yea but usually i get the connection and THEN i find out they have a boyfriend^, and that's where it's kind of frustrating. But i won't lie, it's not always like that. But honestly i probably just need a girlfriend and i'll suddenly understand things a lot more.
Chinacat im assuming you are female correct, im from Mi as well and know quite a few girls who are open with their sexuality. PS im in east lansing
