i'm cheating on my boyfriend....

Total suckage mate. Your bf deserves better than you. I mean, yeah, I'm being kinda harsh, but think about it. Guys get so much shit for being cheaters when girls like you do it to guys like him who've been nothing but loving and supportive to you.

 

Then again, this whole thread is pretty long and I didn't read it all so I probably missed some shit. In that case, sorry, but yeah, cheating sucks. A lot. Just leave someone you're unsatisfied with, don't cheat.

 

you pretty much were right on. Ill let you know she says they broke up and to bring you up to speed.

 

That's good. I got like maybe 3 pages in and was hit with a cloud of whatthefuckery. But anywho, all seems to have gone well. That's awesome. Did it?

 

See... if she had came on and said, "I cheated on my boyfriend, know it was wrong and want to fix it or move on" then I would agree she was just a cheater...

But she didn't...

She came on to find someone that would tell he what she did was okay... that takes her from being just a cheater to being a cheating whore...

She didn't make a mistake and feel bad about it... she made a mistake and wanted to find a way that she could continue to "have her cake and eat it to"...

 

very well said.Last part is very true.
Someone rep this man!

 

No worries, im not that twisted not yet!!!
reading peoples posts here i totally understand how ya coulda asumed that..
im glad i popped back in!!!

I have never cheated, if i make a commitment to be wiv someone i stick to it. I dont really understand how its ok to lie to the one you 'love' but my ethics are totally different. Im not standing in judgment but as Tom said

'See... if she had came on and said, "I cheated on my boyfriend, know it was wrong and want to fix it or move on" then I would agree she was just a cheater...

But she didn't...

She came on to find someone that would tell he what she did was okay... that takes her from being just a cheater to being a cheating whore...

She didn't make a mistake and feel bad about it... she made a mistake and wanted to find a way that she could continue to "have her cake and eat it to"...

i agree & sent him the rep as he hit the nail on the head there..

 

Well you did break his heart, you just made him do the dirty work too.

But im sure he felt a bit of joy in being able to do it, a bit of pride at least.

By the way to those saying he didnt treat her right (stacy i think), going by what she said he did treat her right. Just didn't please her in bed - which is probably because she was already looking for or getting it elsewhere quite honestly. A hot affair is always going to trump the same old really, for excitement. That coupled with not having feelings for a person can really end the fun in the bedroom. She said she liked the feeling of being naughty, sleeping with your good bf isnt naughty.

I personally think you shouldnt be so quick to judge him as bad in bed, its more likely she just didnt like him, had something on the side, and probably put no effort into the sexual part of their relationship because of those reasons. Therefore making him disinterested too, and probably worried about it when he should be enjoying it. Its a bit of chicken or the egg there, so you go back to the facts that she cheated, and enjoyed the fact she cheated (continually) and theres no excuse or justification for that in my opinion. But it's all about personal opinion i guess.

 

I cheated on this thread, a new one came alone which was so different and exciting- I couldn't help but to take my post out of this one and start posting in the other instead

 

You selfish, lying, disrespectful, cheating forum whore!

 

lol.
you guys have certainly discussed a lot of shit on here.
i had pretty much tried to cram 1 yr into one post so my wording and the way i explained things probably werent very clear to me - or you
i was very confused about trying to make things work with my bf or breaking up with him and i had been in conflict with myself for months.
i know what i did was bad, and i deserve everything thats coming for me.

i actually AM on a fair dose of anxiolytics due to severe panic/general/social anxiety.
you can call me crazy, but my brain is sending wrong signals all over the place so ...
i have made up my granny flat back at my parents place and i am going to move on, sort myself out.
I dont know why posted on this forum or anything, guess i just needed someone to talk to.
sorry for making you all think i'm a cheating whore.

 

One year? Post number one, which was five days ago specified that you had just entered into this. You might want to write these stories down before posting them to make sure you have your continuity proper.. I would expect someone with general social anxiety issues to avoid such trysts as you have detailed. You did not chronicle the relationship with your then boyfriend with whom you say you just celebrated your 1 year anniversary.

If what you've said is remotely factual then you should straighten up what's going on inside your head instead of ingesting pharmaceuticals to dull whatever it is. You initially portrayed yourself as basically an unapologetic cheater. A few here have likely been on the receiving end of such treatment and perhaps some sense a small element of bragging... until you adjusted the facts and altered the characters to change the mural so to speak.

Perhaps there actually is truth to this but it seems that under the guise of seeking advice you've actually been seeking enablers... people with sugary words that assure you that what you're doing is not wrong in order to quell your conscience which may have been in turmoil- and rightfully so.

I do hope that for your sake you can sort things out. One thing told to me by a co-worker years ago has stuck- in part because it keeps getting proven true:

There's just about nothing that happens to any reasonably intelligent adult that they didn't bring on to themselves in one way or another.

 

I'm glad to hear you've sorted things out

 

No, you're being more than naughty, you're being a disgusting whore.
I'm not going to lie and say I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on way more and it hurts like hell.
And no, you do not have enough in you to be with both of them. You have nothing in you but selfishness.

 

Idk that one post I responded to just pissed me off. but I don't know, maybe you're not a cheating whore but you definitely do need to straighten things out. if you're not getting what you need out of the relationship with your boyfriend, then you should end it instead of doing things that could really hurt him.

 

Wait! there's a newer, ethically sanitized version that you can find here! This is the alternate universe version! Please believe that this whole thread was posted by the OP's evil twin who normally resides in the parallel universe but made it here briefly via a wormhole created when her Sanyo microwave oven malfunctioned while she was looking at what she thought was her reflection-- turned out to be the twin. :biggrinjester:.

 

and both guys. and probably some other guys as well.

 

"some" could be an understatement

 

oh yeah... i posted a lot of my love life on here... lol...

 

That is a really sad statement. More so as you call it a love life.

The lack of respect that you afford those in your so called love life, let alone yourself is a statement of who you are.

Not someone that in real life most people would really want to know.

I hope you get help before you not only destroy yourself but also probably the people who care about you in real time.