My 1st Orgasm, I need opinions

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for sure keep it for yourself.... I wish you were in LA and not in australia so I could help you explore more of your fantasies.....I'm sure you have plenty of other ones....

sachasacha90@yahoo.com

 

I think your fiance sounds like an asshole.

 

OK first a couple of questions. Number one how old are you now? Number two are you a virgin?

I'm almost 35 now and haven't been with a virgin since I was 18 and she was 16. I knew going into every relationship and one night stand I've been in since that my partner wasn't a virgin and that everything they did with me they had done with somebody else before me. That makes neither party a slut. Your fiancee is a controlling douchebag who will probably hold this over your head as a way of crushing your self esteem. In the wise words of Dan Savage, "Dump The Motherfucker Already." If your fiancee want's a pure virginal woman let him get one. It will probably be about the worst lay of his life. As for the Roman Catholic thing I guess it's ok for priests to molest Altar Boys but nobody better touch my daughter/girlfriends vagina.

As for your ending questions:
Was I used? Yes but at one point point or another we are all used. That is a part of the growing experience and how we learn.

Did I use him? Yes but there is nothing wrong with that. You both used eachother. You said yourself you weren't planning on dating or marrying him. Do you think he was planning on dating and marrying you? To use a quote from Bob Seeger, "I used her she used me neither one of us cared."

Did I do the right thing letting him make me cum? It had to happen sometime.

Did I know him well enough? Maybe yes maybe no. Every woman I've known has done something sexual with some man they hardly knew. I lost my virginity to a girl I only knew 5 hours before the deed. I had a girlfriend blow me after only knowing me for 2 hours. Every woman I know has at least one story like that. Usually they don't beat themselves up over it. Or they get over it. Besides it isn't the first orgasm that counts it's the last one.

What did he get out of this? The satisfaction of giving a girl an orgasm. It is a tremendus ego boost. If he was about your own age you were probably one of the first girls he did this with. Now he has a memory for the spank bank.

Should I come clean to my fiancee? Go for it. If he really thinks you're a slut he has unrealistic expectations of women and the world. He is a controlling asshole. Like I said earlier it isn't the first that counts it is the last. If he want's out then tell him not to let the doorknob hit him on the way. You can find another one who is more down to earth and has a more realistic view of love and relationships. He's a schmuck and you deserve better.

Trust me I'm a man of god.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Rev's answers are right on. Gospel.

 

Sounds more fun than my first. What are you worried about... sounds like a perfect situation to me. I'd like to have an orgasm brought to my doorstep every day, then have it taken away when I'm done lol Anyway, if it bugs you out, then don't tell anyone else. It doesn't sound like you were the used or the user, just some horny fucking kids playing around... and secrets make for great masturbation later on.

 

Thanks. It's sad that today's youth has such antiquated views of love and sex. I've said it once, I've said it a million times never take sex advice from someone who has taken a vow of celebacy.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

I am 19 now and I am still a virgin.


And you do know that most Catholic priests don't actually molest anyone right? I'ts only 1.08% of the entire clergy. Just out of curiousity, since we all try to be fair here.

 

mmmm catholic girls are the hottest !

 

Nice story. I'm currently in the north west of Australia but I'll be heading around the country soon. Let me know if you want to play .... I mean learn ... I mean practice .. I mean talk! ....... yeah.

 

I'll admit the catholic priest thing was a cheap shot. But I'll stand by the rest of what I said. The thing is you are very young and no offense sound kind of naive. It is just weird to hold yourself rigidly to someone elses standards. And by your fiancee calling you a slut over that little thing shows an ugly intolerance that I wouldn't want in a relationship. Love is unconditional and understanding and should be liberating. I believe that the Catholic church also has a very strict stance against Divorce. So I would advise the 19 year old you to consider the fact that your future husband has such a frail ego that he can't deal with the fact that you had an encounter with someone that wasn't him 3 years ago as an indicator that there could be trouble. The fact that you now feel like you shouldn't be honest with him and felt the need to tell a lie that degraded yourself is also not a good sign. Get out while you still have some dignity and self respect.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Well he didn't actually call me a slut at all, I can just tell he thinks that about girls who would do something like I did. As for me holding myself to his standards, I am a Roman Catholic too, I was lapsed for a few years (between 13 and 18) but he brought me back to the church, so they are my standards as well.

I don't really think its his ego, he is just one of those very moral Catholics who are also not hypocrites, I know they are pretty rare these days but he really is one of them. He has never even kissed anyone. He was actually going to be a priest but then he fell in love with me, so he is very very strict with himself and both he and I want everyone else to be just as strict with themselves.

I will admit that he is a bit controlling, but that is the church too and he is just enforcing their rules, rules which I want to and believe I should follow as close to the letter as possible. So I really really don't want to leave him, and I don't want him to leave me, that is the last thing I want, I would kill myself before I would be without him. I know on paper he doesn't sound so great, but in person he is actually just the best person ever (except for Jesus of course, haha).

I know that I shouldn't lie to him, and I know that I shouldn't be so hard on myself about this whole thing, especially since I have confessed and been absolved for it. I don't really feel guilty about it any more, I just feel used and like I may have used him and I feel nervous about telling my fiancee the truth about it.

 

I mixed my comments in with your post.

I agree that you shouldn't lie to him and be so hard on yourself about the whole thing. Confession has it's place I guess. But to me the whole concept just gives you one more thing to beat yourself up with. Absolution doesn't come from The Church, The Priest, or God itself. If you don't really feel guilty anymore (Hooray) you're off the hook. So you and this guy used each other 3 years ago. It is even common amongst "Good Catholics." Guilt is just another means of control. The vast majority of humanity live's it's life in a Prison Cell with an open door. They pace in the cell and curse the cell and wish they weren't in the cell. And while they do that they ignore the fact that the cell door is open and they can leave at any time. All of our actions have concequences. Being an adult means owning up to it. I say tell your fiancee. If he judges you or leaves you that means that he doesn't really love you. The sooner it happens the better. It will hurt like a motherfucker at first. But you will grow from it and I guarantee you will never let anyone do that to you ever again. Allow yourself to be human and don't apologise for it. Apologise for your mistakes just not the fact that you made them. While I'm not trying to dissuade you from being Catholic I'll leave you with some words of wisdom from Carlos Santana, "I don't trust the 3 P's. Politicians, Pimps, and Popes. They'll all lie to you eventually."

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

Could be just my suspicious nature, but it seems likely the original post (which no longer appears in the string, by the way) was written by a man. Women don't use words like "slit" and "soaking panties." Just sayin'......................

 

Jesus Christ came for the sake of your freedom. The one thing I have against the Catholic church is ignoring all this. I'm a devout Christian, but I do not go to churches, Catholic or otherwise, since they tend to focus on single parts of the message instead of the whole thing. Before people ASKED God for laws, there where none, so God gave us laws as a kind of guidebook for life. I see the Bible as a "user manual" for life, not some sort of rules and regulations contract! I'd be damned if there was a single human being who hasn't made a mistake. In fact, since Jesus Christ was made human, even he himself must have made a mistake somewhere, otherwise he wouldn't BE human. Think about it, he had a giant fit in the middle of a temple and went on a rampage. Sure he had a very good reason to be angry, but the point is, he was human too, he experienced anger too. I bet he experienced sexual attraction on top of all that. Whether he acted upon that is possible but unlikely, but in any case, why would you try to hold yourself to such high standards? You are bound to fail. That is why he died on the cross for you in the first place, for your FREEDOM! Feeling a shred of guilt for any action in the past is BLASPHEMY. And if anyone expects you to be as pure as Christ, he is closer to Satan that he is to Christ!

 

that's no orgasm. precum maybe.