i'm cheating on my boyfriend....

:frown:

I said that and 2 years later... :taps:

 

I guess this is the ideal response, mine was kinda venomous. - but ive been in that situation and fuck me, it hurts when you think you know someone...

Lying to anyone who puts their trust in you has to be wrong

 

shale, i really respect you, i always have, i'm sorry you got offended by my generalization.
i checked back on this threat after i took my meds and calmed down a bit.
I am obviously veery conflicted about all this, why else would i seek help from people i thought would try to understand.
i guess my situation is far too complicated to be explained properly on this forum.

 

Its not really complicated at all you just seem to be having trouble grasping the fact that you are in the wrong.

You claim you love this guy and want to be with him for the rest of your life, yet you have only been together with him for a year and already you are not being honest, faithful, and upfront to him.

You should probably think about what spending the rest of your life with someone really means.

 

The experience of being single can do a person a lot of good.

 

I think its fine, youre only 21 who gives a fuck about those ocks, do what makes you feel good

just wear a condom or on the pill or whatever...

 

ok, 99.99999% of women.

 

The majority of people have taken time out to help you and wow what a response- you sound to me a ungrateful spolit little child, who when she doesnt get her own way threatens to kill herself, do u have any idea how stupid u really sound?

To me a relationship is making love to your best friend, cause they are your kin ur soul connected lover u work on the sex if its not right. If then its stil shite u become FRIENDS..i guess u dont have the concept of this?

 

I would laugh if moonshine's bf was cheating on her too... I mean, if you don't know what you're doing to him, maybe you need to know what it's like. Did you break it off with him yet? Have you broken up with your lover? Better get on that!

As for your comment on killing yourself... wow. Shows what level of maturity you're at if strangers can make you feel that way. Hopefully you realize that comment was rather impulsive and has no merit. You need to develop yourself and your mind before getting into anymore relationships! This will do everyone in your future a favor.

@WildCatSunflower02 Once you're in a relationship, you'll understand why these things are important (Ie. loyality, honesty, etc.) I used to think like you did, but once you're in a relationship, you can understand what goes inside someone's head.

 

It's funny, your preconcieved notions about male and female reasons for cheating. Because not being satisfied is not a reason to cheat, but to break it off, and that's coming from me, a guy. But she's cheating in the exact feminine version of "to be a dick", like you say guys do.

 

guys don't cheat to be dicks, they cheat because they have dicks.

 

Yea man, honestly you're right. Looking back at what i said yesterday kind of makes me sound like an immature jackass. I just need to get some experience and then i'll understand a bit more.

Plus i'm sure that my parent's divorce has had some sort of subconscious psychological effect on me regarding commitment and loyalty and being with one person.

 

I like the way you put this Dancing til dawn .

 

Might.

I was raised with divorce all around me (who isn't) I often think that is why I waited until 35 to get into a real marriage that lasted a couple decades.

Of course, shacking up was a good option - same as marriage but just not legally sanctioned. I was doing that at about 26, tho they lasted six months and then five years. There is always more freedom to just walk in that arrangement.

 

Thanks Sweetleaf, i dont wanna seem harsh but some people need a kick up the arse!

 

that doesnt make it right, respect should have no boundaries, age limits, or restrictions based on how good sex is....

yes young people should explore and try various things before finding what fits them BUT NEVER AT THE EMOTIONAL EXPENSE OF SOMEONE ELSE.

 

what a retarded comparison, you are not emotionally bonded to music, nor have you made personal declarations to it.....you dont share a space with it, nor your innermost secrets, you are not intimate with it, nor can you hold its hand or kiss its forehead when its sad.

the difference is promises, shared moments, unspoken and spoken rules of honesty and trust, and sheer human intimacy which nothing in this world could ever come close to mimicking.


if you wanna go around fucking whoever you please you make damn sure you have the balls to not only be HONEST ABOUT IT to all parties involved and have the guts to defend your actions you say you so strongly believe in.


i could go on an on with this, but i have a feeling the ignorance in here is much too thick

 

I'm not emotionally bonded to music? I don't share a space with it? Along with amazing moments with it? I'm not deeply intimate with music? Please.

And in fact me and music do share some deep secrets. And no i can't hold music's hand or kiss it when it's sad, but rather music kisses me when i'm sad.

I agree, if i were to go around fucking anyone i wanted to i would completely agree that honesty would be a very important aspect of it.

I also agree that intense intimacy with a human being cannot be mimicked. But i would also add that intense intimacy with music can ALSO not even become close to being mimicked. Seriously.

 

Agreed.
Retarded to say the least.
Again, ChinaCat, is it really that hard to tell your partner you gonna fuck around? Cuz that will only be ok if your partner agrees with an open-relationship.

You can "love" (don't know how you can call a simple shag "love, but fine) whoever you want, as long as your partner knows you're spreading all that "love" around.

 

I said that to him like 5 pages ago. The guy is stupid with a capital st00pid.