Male deeply confused..am I bisexual?

Hello all-

I am 28 year old male. I have been married for two years now. I am extremely confused about my sexual orientation, and was curious to get some opinions on my situation.

For as long as I can remember, I have been straight. I love ladies, and I am married. 5 years ago, a year before I met my wife..I noticed that seeing a mans penis aroused me a great deal. I have been having fantasies of giving oral sex, as well as getting anal. I have heavily experimented with toys, and i love it. I almost did it with a man once, but never did anything because he was obese and unattractive.

Girls I have dated have asked me if i like men, and men seem to be hitting on me lately.

What do you all think?

 

if man-on-man sex is a turn on for you, you're at least bi. there's no other confusing factor in this other than whether you want this for yourself or not. get that sorted out - what it is you want -- and go after it. life is that simple.

 

I agree with MW here. There is very little confusing about your situation. If other dudes and their equipment attract you, you want to think about it and call your shots.

KD

 

sorry that bit made me :rofl:

but yeah if thats what gets you goin, you're bi... just dont cheat on your wife or anything... if you feel you want to be with a man, don't do it while your still married!!

 

you should have a sex party!

 

ha well if shes into that kinda thing!!!

 

I don't think its a wise idea to cheat on your wife; or have a sex party... but what I do think is that you need to take the time to sort yourself out. So you might be bisexual. Is that really such a big deal? Maybe it is to other people in your life... but is it a big deal to you? I have lived all my life knowing I was bisexual, but having to deal with a predominantly "straight-only is acceptable" family life. I think it also might help you if you interact with other LGBT people, not necessarily on a daily basis, but just enough to see that you're not in this alone. And by "interact" I don't mean online on the computer; I mean in real life social settings. That's just my two cents.

 

Nothing wrong with being bi. I have found swinging to be the very best way to satisfy your MM play desires and include your wife by enjoying a 3some and inviting another man into your bed.

 

you are yag.

 

Yes, there is nothing wrong with being bi. There is also nothing wrong with being straight. I don't suggest fulfilling your desires through your wife's possible fantasies, as this person suggests. Instead of walking a fine line why don't you talk to your wife in a calm, suitable, and rationale manner about how you've been feeling. It might help if you have a trustworthy friend that already knows this about you when you bring this to the forefront with your wife. The people on here seem to like the idea of a 3some, and while those can be fun, they are usually temporary and few relationships rarely build in a lasting way from those experiences. I'd suggest you act mature about this and don't just jump into what these people tell you. If you really love your wife, you'd try to work things out with her, for better or ill.