my girlfriend has joint problems (not arthritis) so whenever she is on top when we have sex she has to stop after a few mins because it causes her pain. she would love to be able to go on top and do it properly without pain. we only try that position every now and again because of this and she usually initiates it. she also can't make me cum from a blow job because she has an extremely good gag reflex, but she does try often of her own accord because she knows that I love it and she loves my reaction to her doing it for me. those are the only two issues with our sex life. the rest, and these are her words, is fucking amazing. anyone got any ideas on how to solve these minor problems?
get her to take a lotta advil or motrin or something before sex. i'm sure she has medicine for her joint problems, maybe she could take an extra dose or something.
With the gag reflex... she doesn't have to put the whole thing in. She can just concentrate on the head and let the hands take care of the shaft.
Here I'll give you a real suggestion here. For the pain in her joints there is this product called Biofreeze. It comes in sprays, wipes, lotions, and even a mess free applicator. Its something I can use on people with joint pain or Arthritis when I am giving a massage that helps relieve the pain. Try that its pretty cheap and legal. For the blow job problem hmm that's a bit tougher, maybe have her try Adam & Eve Deep Throat Gel you can get it from Adam and Eve online. I don't know if it works or not but its a throat numbing gel so it should help her gag reflex.
i don't know how the stuff works, but it seems to me that a numbing gel that's going to end up getting on his dick would sort of defeat the purpose.
I'll help 1. Try any other sexual position. There are plenty and you aren't missing too much, it is not the best out there. Sometimes things just don't work out, I have allergies that stop me eating food I like- end of I just don't. 2. Not being gross, but she really doesn't have to swallow the thing, a gag reflex would mean she is probably sticking your junk a little bit to far up the old gob.
If joint pain is really impacting her life (or some part of it like her sex life) she should talk to a doctor about it. Yeah it's awkward, but if it is really bothering her, it sounds like it is worth doing something about. Besides, whatever is causing it could become worse over the years. And even if she can't get rid of it, maybe she can prevent it from getting worse. The sooner she sees a doctor, the better a chance there is to do make it better or stop it from getting worse. Maybe they won't be able to do anything, but maybe they will. She'll never know till she tries.
Yeah I didn't think about that... Maybe just try to have her not go so deep. Sex between lovers is never gonna be porn.
My late wife DID have arthritis (rheumatoid), and we just found positions that worked (Mostly the jockey position, and variations thereof). Some "gymnastics" would have been nice, but they weren't the important thing.
