Right now, I try to remain a child... Like I readily admit to being "just a kid", I often don't take responsibility for past actions blaming it instead on my age, and I just have the mindset that I'm only a child... but is it time to change and finally see myself as in the process of becoming an adult? I'll be on my own in less than 3 years and I don't want to go off to college still not taking responsibility for my own actions and acting like a little kid... I guess it has sorta been my coping method this whole time for when I screw up or embarrass myself.. but I'm starting to wonder if it's time to move on from my little kid-ness... I'm 15 and I won't really be able to be a responsibility-free kid for long... so should I wait it out until I really feel ready to see myself as growing up, or should I get started now and start being more responsible and adult-like?
be a kid while you can, you can't later in life. whenever i fuck up or embarass myself i view it as a learning experience instead. you can be a responsible kid too..
yeah man, stay a kid for as long as possible. Being an adult is fun, but its also very hard. I didnt get to be a kid so i enjoyed a few years of partying it up and found myself surrounded by people who werent of the best ilk, but i learned alot and came out unscathed. not everyone is as lucky. You need to find some middle ground for the age you are. be careless, but keep your shit in check. Dont let it go to your head and remember that even though at age you think you know everything, you dont and if you butt heads with anyone, take a deep breath and listen. all you have to do is listen. make you own decicions that you think are the best for you, but remember to listen, it doesnt cost you anything and sometimes life doesnt make sense right away. dont take everything too serious too.
be a kid man enjoy it while you can. Alot is gonna change in a few years and there is only so much you can do to prepare for it, take life as it comes and worry about growing up when the time comes. Take resposibility for your actions but dont be afraid to partake in actions that one would at your age. Live life you only got one of them and your teen years are an amazing part of the journey make the most of them. You will know when it is time to grow up just listen to yourself.
u can be a responsible kid. and the only responsibility that'll be expected of you now and in the next few years is more like sensibility. your interests will eventually fuse with responsibility and things'll go smoothly. your responsibilities are probably gonna slowly come up, so just be sensible with things and thats all you need to cover really.
it's great to have a conscience you're right that the past is the past and we all make mistakes, but the beauty of growing older is seeing what we felt we've done wrong, and how we can do even better next time. i say be responsible as you feel it's necessary. listen to your gut instincts don't listen to the bs about you having to grow up and be all serious and responsible and shit.. it all depends on your life perspective. yes, i'm a young adult with serious responsibilities and issues and challenges, but i embrace my inner child and play like a kid every day
everyone should take responsibility for their actions and choices, regardless of age. when you are really little parents (should) enforce the responsibility, since young children dont understand yet. at 15, you should know the difference between right and wrong, and choose accordingly. i believe blaming others for your mistakes/ problems, or blaming it on your age is inexcusable. if you can reflect upon yourself now to see that it is a questionable behavior, then you already know you need to grow up. wouldn't it be nice if everyone took responsibility for their actions? stepped up to the plate as they say.
Age is whatever you think it is. You are as old as you think you are. -Muhammad Ali A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life. -Muhammad Ali
Just wait it out and have fun. Three years is a long enough time, college will creep up and you will step up to it
and then be left with no comprehension of taking responsibility. right when you go off on your own? anyone who does not prepare themselves for real life while still under the umbrella of being a minor is going to struggle in their early 'adult' life. you should be saving money. learning about banking, loans, creditcards and HOW they work. you should be learning to cook healthy food, take responsibility for your health. its YOUR health. its YOUR financial stability, and ability to budget. its YOUR lesson learned from a mistake in judgment. if you do not take responsibility for YOU then you are going to have to learn on the fly when the arbitrary age of 18 arrives. you are only hurting yourself.
I guess so :/ but it's so much easier to blame my mistakes on my age rather than grow up and learn adult responsibilities and shitt.
haha 15 was my most reckless age. that was right when i began to party and i didn't give a FUCK! slowly but surely my reckless behavior (going to parties where i don't know the host, stumbling around drunk in neighborhoods, getting in cars with people i don't really know, etc) has greatly declined, but my experimental behavior has gone up. i guess in my head i rationalize the hard/psych drugs i do with the fact that i really don't go to raging keggers anymore. that didn't really add anything to the OP, but it seemed relevant
it may be easier, but that prepares you for nothing. life is not easy, to not prepare for hardship is to do a disservice to yourself. ask around, ive been through some tough times. joined the military, got sent home. had pregnancies, lost them. had twins, lost one. real life is one hurdle after another. full of adversity, and then add all the dumb people milling about while you try to cope. right now you are in a safe zone. you don't have to take responsibility, but you should. my 3 year old will turn himself in now, for taking cookies or whatever. if my 3 year old can do it theres no excuse for anyone (excepting mental disabilities) not to. life is hard. you are supposed to learn these things before they need to be used. practice them now, so you dont struggle when you need the skills. if nothing else, understand that your brain is forming thought pathways. the ones you use are the ones that get reinforced. the ones you dont shrivel up. things are harder to relearn when you get older, because the pathways only form and solidify when you are young, say, under 21. i'll find the reference for this, and send it to you. probably a documentary, i watch a lot of those. when i was young (lol, old and wise ate 24) i was interested in almost everything. i did book research, did internet research, and learned a lot of random stuff. watched discovery channel, history channel, and all the cool new ones when they came out, like science and nat geo and military. and i retain the random bits now. and because my interests were and continue to be so broad i remember relevant information to my life. my algebra isn't too good anymore, but i was never good at math anyway, and i can figure shit out if i need to, or use the internet to look up all that info on parabolas that i forgot. all im saying is that you sound aware enough of yourself and actions that its profoundly immature to say "im just gonna take advantage" thats one of the biggest problems with kids today. hell with most adults today. you are NOT entitled. things will NOT be given freely to you. you will not be given, in most cases, a second chance to make rent, or utilities. you get an eviction notice or your power shut off. if you can not deal with these things efficiently you will learn the hard way. why not learn from someone elses mistakes?
Haha last year was that for me... I actually went to my first party where I had absolutely no idea where the host was this year though lol. it was crazy. got drunk as hell. I met one of my now-ex boyfriends there haha. I think I'm more experimental now than I was last year too though.
