So, there's this girl that I really like. I don't know if she likes me, but I've had suspicions that she likes me too. The thing is that I'm just pretty shy, and she's pretty shy too. So I won't ever say anything to her about me liking her unless I know for sure that she has the same feelings. And, if she does like me, she probably has the same thoughts. But that's a whole other problem, and I won't really get into in detail. This post is about another problem: So, recently, she just randomly started ignoring me. It came out of nowhere, and I am really confused. A few days ago she just kind of stopped acknowledging my existence. I didn't do anything wrong, I don't know what's going on. The day before everything was normal, and we were hanging out and having fun. The last time I saw her before she started ignoring me, which was the day before, we ended the night together on a high note. There was no reason for her to be mad or upset with me. Everything was fine. Then, the next day, I come across her and try talking to her. I ask a few questions about what she's doing, and she just kind of mumbles back at me, as if she doesn't want to talk to me. She said one word to me, and I left, being able to take the hint that she didn't want to talk to me. I thought that she was just a bad mood or something, so I just decided to leave her be for a while. But then she still ignored me for the next day. And it's not like she's just in a bad mood, because she's only treating ME this way. Around everyone else she's happy. In fact, she seems HAPPIER and FRIENDLIER around EVERYONE else. If someone walks by her, she'll say "HI" and act much friendlier than usual, while saying nothing to me. She literally has not acknowledged me AT ALL except that one word she said to me when I first noticed that she started ignoring me. So while she's treating everyone else even better than usual, she has not been acknowledging me at all these past few days. This really hurt me the first couple of days (and it still does). I was confused. What did I do?? I thought of everything, and I just couldn't think of a reason for why she's ignoring me. So, then I thought that maybe she's just toying with me. I've kind of done this stuff to her too, though not in a long time. I used to kind of ignore her to see how she'd react (would she be sad that I'm ignoring her??? Would she start acting depressed??). It was very stupid of me, and kind of a cruel experiment. So now I was wondering if this is her kind of taking revenge. But I don't know. I just find this very weird. I know that she's doing this on purpose. It's so obvious, and she's just acting so differently around me and she's never treated me this way before. I'm just very confused. I didn't do anything, believe me. I know someone might just be thinking that I forgot about SOMETHING that I did or that there must be SOME reason she's ignoring me. But I thought of EVERYTHING. There's nothing I did. I had just been hanging out with her, and we were getting along perfectly, and then just suddenly she started ignoring me and pretended like I don't exist. I can be a pretty sensitive guy, so I've really been kind of depressed over this. This is torture. I just felt like I needed to tell someone about this, and ask for advice. Does anyone have any idea of what she might be doing?? Does anyone have any advice?? I'd appreciate any comments.
I agree with neodude. Tell her how you feel and bring things into the open. You won't know how she feels until you ask her. You're already tortured so what do you have to lose.
Just ask her whats goin on dude.....the direct approach is the only way my guess is you blabbed to a buddy about liking her and he badmouthed you to her because he likes her too its a classic move
Swings and roundabouts my friend. You did it to her, she is doing the same to you. She is testing to you to see if you are sad. Are you? Yes. I think you should just get on with asking this girl out. As long as you haven't misjudged the signals, and she does like you, then she is obviously just trying to think of a way of making you want her.
Maybe she's having second thoughts about the whole situation and is trying to pull away. It happens. If so, and if you want things to work out, your best bet is to get it out in the open. Whether that's her reasoning or not, I think that's the best all-around advice.
Also, do not take her by the hand and tell her you how you feel... don't try to have a conversation about your feelings. Even girls find that lame.
What are you guys, like 12? Stop dicking around and say "BITCH I LOVE YOU, ya dumb ****!" If she ignores you after that, then I guess she's not really into you. At least.. that's how I am. I kinda need it spelled out for me bc I can't wrap my head around the fact that anyone could ever possibly be attracted to me, so it's not something I ever assume. Maybe she's like that, too.
I know that my post explaining my situation might have sounded like preteen drama to some. But this thing is kind of hard to explain over the internet. Anyway, I confronted her about it a few days ago. I asked her why she hadn't been talking to me, and why she had been ignoring me. She didn't really give a clear answer. I asked her if she was mad at me over something, and she said that she wasn't. She didn't sound mad or annoyed. But I kept pressing her until she told me to leave her alone. So I've decided to just leave it be. I've kind of gotten over it, and I don't really want to deal with it. I'm still very confused, and I have no idea why she just kind of changed overnight, but I'm just going to try to move on.
