My boyfriend was chating sometimes. He said he only do it to empty his balls That it was like he would look porno sites.. With porno i have no problem at all, but about chating im sceptic, cause on the other site is person.. Do u consider this cheating? Boys are u doing this?
Eh, I think this is a very sketchy area. In most cases, it really is just a more intense form of porno. As if calling a phone sex line because your boy/girl is unreachable. There is a more personal connection than in porn, but that's what makes it work better. I can understand where you may not want him to build up a relationship with someone that he cybers with, but you really shouldn't be threatened by it, he's dating you and from the way he said it, he doesn't seem to take it as a very personal act. I think if you don't have a problem with porn, I don't think you should have too much of a problem with cybering, but it's your relationship - and it's your decision. Just don't forget his side of things when you make your decision!
Thanks Duck! Well im not making mine decisions, we are always talking about problems, and we try to find solution that is ok for both of us. But about this i dont know. I was scared that first will be chat, then also meeting in reality..U know, girls and our brains He said he has done it in periods when we had arguments. That it was very unpersonal, quick chat to fulfill his needs. I would like to hear different opinions. Before i never thought about this "problem", also none of my friends mention something like this with their partners.
Its up to you, are you comfortable with it?? if not tell him to stop!!... people are different , some people might not have a problem with it, some people will hate it. If you think he's going to start a relationship with someone online i think tell him to stop.. If there are chances of that happening your just goin to get hurt!!!
^ yeah, but there's also give and take required to sustain a relationship (and that includes sexually). It's more of a question of if she's too uncomfortable with it.
I didnt forbid him. I think its wrong to forbid things to partners. But i did explain that i dont like this, that i feel like he cheated me somehow... He said he stoped it, now i dont know, this can be true or not.
i think its cheating. he is sharing something intamate with another lady. With porn he is just admiring other ladies that really have no idea he exists.
depends...maybe he just wants to have a conversation with a female who isnt you[maybe as a sounding board for his relationship with you] and who cant threaten you as much as him hanging out with another chick....im married and i had female chat friends who i was chatted with...no cybering...my wife got insecure and told me to stop...which i did....i still miss my chat friends but realize that it was just a net chat relationship and not real... it woulda been nice if i coulda had both...
It's up to you, does it bother you? If it bothers you tell him to stop doing it and stick to ou and nuddie mags like everyone else.
I don't know about others but i myself would be mad pissed if my guy was chatting with other girls in a sexual way. Porn is one thing, communicating with another person is another. So what, you can't chat with me or have sex with me to get off, you need another girl. Shit that. Also going to strip clubs is also not ok.
