Okay, first of all, I'm 14, and I know if I don't say this I'm going to get loads of 'you're too young to worry about relstionships' replies, so if that's all you have to offer, please don't respond because trust me I've heard it plenty of times. Okay, so I take relationships pretty seriously...I'm not needy or clingy, but I expect a certain degree of loyalty and committment from a guy (in other words, for him to respect me enough not to use me or run off and snog other girls). I've only ever been with one boy properly and our relationship ended because our interests were just too different and we kind of 'clashed'. We're friends now though. Anyhow, I really like this guy who goes to my school, and he has a reputation for being a 'player', as does his best friend. But they tell me it's just because they're friendly and the girls he (the guy I like) has been with have spread stupid rumours. His mate said to me 'You'll be one of his exes soon I'm sure...' and calls him 'player' all the time, so obviously that doesn't sound too great. But he flirts with me and I'm not sure if he genuinely likes me or if he's just using me. I don't know him that well so I can't really judge. He also said that 'it's easier just to have sex with someone no strings attached rather than have the hassle of a relationship at our age...' So I'm really not feeling too good about the whole thing, but I like SO few guys, it's hard just to let it go. Input?
girl i've been in this position with guys my whole life. you're way too far ahead of them. ESPECIALLY at the high school age its so rare for a guy to have your views on a relationship.. most of them don't want one.. so yeah it is safe to say that you shouldn't worry about it at your age - NOT because you're "too young" cause you aren't, just cause boys are so stupid at those ages and don't mature until they are much older
He sounds like a complete player then. Throughout the entire history of human civilisation I dont think any girl has ever found a solution to this problem, you either go for the guy all the other girls want and beat off the competition or you settle for "he'll do" and try train him
sounds good. he obviously just wants to fuck, but at least he's relatively open about the fact. you know you're going to hook up with him no matter what anyone says anyway, so this is all pointless. ignore this stupid reply.
I've found that if I get a bad feeling about something(especially if the feeling is about a man) that it is often for a reason. Trust your instincts, they will not lead you astray if you let them guide you. If you hear from others that he is a play and even hear from his friend that, "you'll be one of his exes soon enough," that you should not start a relationship with this boy. Also at your age most the guys aren't really mature enough to handle the kind of relationship you are wanting. Hell most the guys my age aren't. lol What I'm getting at is give it time, I don't think that you are to young to think about what you want in a relationship. I just think it is a lot harder to find someone wanting the same thing as you at your age and even mine. Most women don't want a boy, we want a man! I damn well know I wouldn't be dating that fool who has a reputation for being a "player" girl you deserve better then that.
Thanks you guys. I've decided that, since I only met him recently, I'm gonna try and get to know him a little better as a friend. He's lovely as a friend, and most of my guy friends are 'players' so to speak...but as some of them have said, 'If I like a girl enough, I'll make the effort to keep it in my pants.' So I'll just see how things go. I appreciate all the replies though. eace:
