Not everybody is all about sex, all the time. If it's all about appearance for you, well...you know there are porn sites out there with more pictures and better pictures than HF, where you don't have to be bothered with learning anything about the personalities. To me, it seems that a site like this is all about your ability to connect with people through your writing.
The one who satisfies every dream I could ever have about a HF partner would be the one posting at the moment. I consummate with every one so every one feels jilted.
let's not call it jilting. let's call it a temporary parting of ways. people are very sensitive these days.